Anything Goes with Emma Chamberlain

Emma prefers to share her thoughts with a microphone rather than a physical human being, so thank god she has a podcast. Recorded from the comfort of her bed, Emma talks at length about whatever is on her mind every week. Anything really does go on this podcast. Sometimes philosophy, sometimes a random story from 10 years ago, sometimes advice, and sometimes nothing at all. You never know what you are going to get, but that’s what keeps it interesting. New episodes every Thursday.

the future

the future

Thu, 07 May 2020 10:00

Most people want to get married and have kids some day because… it’s what you’re “supposed” to do… but is that right for everyone? Emma dives deep on it, from getting married, to divorce, to having kids and everything in between. What are the impending challenges of finding someone you’re supposed to spend the rest of your life with and raising children? How should you treat your kids when it comes to parties? And be honest, are babies actually cute? To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: Learn more about your ad choices. Visit

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I just woke up. It's 9:30. I'm recording at 9:30. That's crazy. It's crazy. I'm even up at 9:30. It feels good, though it feels good. It feels good to be up early because I don't even normally do this like on a normal normal day like in normal circumstances. I don't normally wake up this early and recently. I've been getting up really early and I kind of love it because it makes me feel good for some reason that I can't explain. I think that's universal though. I think everybody feels that way. I hope you guys are all doing well, and now this is definitely starting to weigh on all of us what's going on? I feel like everybody's kind of starting to. It's starting to hit everyone in a different way. In the beginning everybody was like, this sucks really bad. But now I think it's kind of at the point where it's. The holy **** like. Holy ****. I'm not going to go into it anymore because we already know how we feel about it, so we don't need to discuss it. But today we're going to be talking about something that kind of makes me uncomfortable. Oh, but I thought it would be kind of fun and light because I feel like a lot of the topics I've been talking about have been so like kind of heavy and I kind of want to talk about something like positive and. Fun even though this topic makes me uncomfortable, I just think it's a fun topic to talk about and I talk about it with my friends all the time. We're going to be talking about getting older, starting a family, getting married, all of that. To preface this, the reason why I want to talk about it is because. Since I was like 17 and. I stopped going to school. I've kind of had this weird existential crisis, if that's the right word to use about the fact that that's the next step in my life. Because I feel like in, in our in. We live in a I can't even say that without cringing. In this society. OK, I hate using the words society. It ***** it. It bothers me. But in this like society? There's. The playbook, it's like. You go to school, and then you go to college, and then you get your first job, and then you meet somebody, and then you marry them, and then you have kids, and then you work at a job, and then you raise your kids and then you die, right? That's kind of like. What the norm is? And that's kind of like this, the path that like society gives you and so. I kind of broke from the path a little bit by not going to college and by kind of starting to work younger in a sense. And that gave me this weird feeling of impending doom for a while, because I was like my next step in life, if I follow this path, is to get married and have kids. And that put I don't know why I, like felt like that, but I I did for a while there. I kind of still do, and it put a lot of pressure on me. I was like, I need to find a guy that I like so I can have a kid with him because like, obviously, you know, I want to have a kid personally. But it was a lot of pressure it made. I would, like, stay up at night being like, there's no way I'm gonna find somebody that I could marry and have kids with. Like, there's just no way, like, how am I going to trust somebody with that responsibility? It's a tough one. It's a tough one. I'll figure it out. You guys will, too, unless you don't have kids or get married. That's cool. On you. But first I want to talk about marriage, because me and my friend Olivia last night were talking about marriage for like an hour. It started because I asked Olivia if she was gonna get married right now. What color theme would her wedding be? And she said yellow. I said green. But then we started talking about how ******* corny weddings are. Now, let me warn you, I'm not trying to offend anybody. Who has a wedding, who's had a wedding, who enjoys weddings. I enjoy weddings too. I enjoy attending weddings. I go to weddings and I cry. Every time I cry. Every single time. Weddings make me very emotional. I appreciate weddings, but I just can't picture myself at my own wedding without cringing. Like weddings are only cringy when I put myself there. Like when I imagine myself at a like at my own wedding. There's too much attention on you. Like, how am I going to look when I'm walking? Like, am I gonna look stupid? Like, you know, am I gonna start ugly crying? Are my vows gonna be cringy? Is my dress gonna be ugly and I'm just too wrapped up in the situation to notice? Like, there's so many things to think about and it's and it all makes me cringe. I feel like ideally, if I were to have a wedding, this is what I'd do. Ceremony, wedding ceremony. Five people. Mom. Dad's best friends. That's it. People that I feel comfortable around, people that I feel like wouldn't judge me whatever. And then the real wedding will be at the after party guys. I think we need to switch weddings around. I think we need to switch weddings. I I just, I just don't think that there needs to be a ceremony with everybody there. I think we need to start focusing more on the after party. I think that this is my, this is my. You guys don't need to do this, but for me this is what I need to do. We're focusing on the after party, we're having a crazy after party, but the ceremony, it needs to be kept at a minimum. Because I feel like people are really just there for the party, although I kind of enjoy the ceremony because I do cry during it. So I'm really actually torn. I have no idea. I'm just contradicting myself. Like, I don't even know. Like, should I even get married? Do I even deserve it? I'm so, like, all over the place about it. Although I AM 18 and I probably won't get married for another 10 years. Whoa. Maybe like 7 years. I don't know. I don't know much about. I still don't know. Weddings are weird, but marriage is even weirder because my parents are divorced, which is great again. I like that they're divorced. Whatever. It's a rare thing to say, but I not. I'm not being like, I'm not mad about it, in a sense. But. I'm, like conflicted about marriage as well because. Number one, I can see like I can. I've seen parents, AKA my own be able to have a great relationship. Even while not married. And like raising me together, but when they're not together in that be a really positive thing. I've seen that. So that gives me like hope that like. It's possible sometimes I just. I wonder if marriage ruins. Relationships like I wonder if marriage ruins. The excitement and the like. Love for the other person. I don't know. I don't know because I've never, I don't think I've ever seen a marriage. Where the two people were like, still in love with each other, like. 30 years later, I just don't think I've ever seen that. Maybe there's just none of that in my family. I don't know. I mean, there are some. I mean, actually, that's not necessarily true. I have a few of those in my family. But I don't know. Because I don't. I'm not. I haven't, like, analyzed their relationship enough to, like, know if it's like, all just a show. You know, you never know. It's all just a show. I just wonder if, like, marriage is, is is a sustainable thing, like, can you stay married forever or is divorce just inevitable? I don't know. And maybe that's just because my parents did get divorced and so I kind of feel like divorce is inevitable. I don't know. I would love to be married to the same person forever, but if we're talking realistic here, is that even possible without somebody cheating or somebody doing something ****** **? This is dark. You know what I thought that I was? Gonna come on here and talk about some fun ****. And now I'm talking about whether or not marriage works, because I watched this video once about how like. Monogamy. Is like unnatural for humans. Like it's not what humans are like programmed to do. Like humans are supposed to be. Mating with a lot of different people in order to populate the planet and like marriage doesn't necessarily align with that, but the thing that's special about marriage is that you kind of have to put that instinct. To continue mating with other people aside when you marry someone. And like, that's what makes that bond so strong is because you have to be loyal to that person and not saying everybody does is and does but like you're supposed to. So I'm just, I don't know, that's the question. That's that's just the big question, like. Is marriage kind of outdated? Is marriage? Kind of doomed in a sense from the start. Is marriage the best thing you could do? For your relationship is marriage. Toxic. Is marriage necessary? Like, I don't know. I don't know y'all and I'm working through it, but then again, I just thought about it and I think marriage is mainly necessary for your child. I think that that's kind of why it is. It exists. Because like, it makes your child feel like they have a family in a sense, like a tight knit family. Umm. And I think that might be the point of it. I don't know. I don't even know, and I need to start knowing soon. Within the next seven years or some ****. It's crazy. Moving on. To having kids. We're talking about Macy's again. My favorite one stop shop in such a beloved friend to anything goes. Macy's is the best because it really has something for everyone in every occasion. Whether it's clothes, HomeGoods, cooking Ware, whatever it may be, Macy's has something for you in the spirit of everybody having their own individual Macy's shopping experience. They're making us feel like true VIP's for the next couple of weeks because Macy's VIP sale has arrived just in time to get everything you need to cozy up this fall. From September 23rd to October 3rd, get 30% off regular sale and clearance items plus. 15% off beauty and again, outside of beauty, that's 30% off. Pretty much everything from clothing, shoes and handbags to home decor and appliances. It's happening at Macy's. You want to know what I'm going to get? I'm going to get scarves because I really wanna have a scarf. I live in California. It's only cold for like 3 months here and it's not even that cold. Like it never snows, but I need to be leaning into the winter attire this year because last year I wasn't going hard enough. So I will be picking up a few things from Macy's. If you need to get some stuff for fall, check out Macy's. Com. That's Macy's com. You'll find what you need. I can guarantee you that I want to talk about parenting because. I feel like. Parenting is like, I don't know anything about it obviously cause I'm a child, but I do know things about it because I have parents and I've been parented OK? And so. I want to talk about the way that I would raise my child. Or the way I'm planning on raising my child. And then kind of touch on how my parents have influenced that and maybe some ways that. I'm learning from my parents. Kind of like. Maybe things that they did that didn't really work for me and like whatever. And obviously every child is different. Needs to be. Treated differently, but like. This is my idea, OK #1. I think I've noticed that a lot of parents baby their children. Like? They enable their children in a sense, and it's kind of toxic, like they baby their child. They never let their kid grow up. Parents are always on their kids ***. And I understand that because they're scared and they're worried about their child's safety and well-being, but they're but it gets to a point where it's so extreme. That their kid can't even grow on their own and then their kid ends up doing ****. That's stupid. Because their parents never let them think for themselves. So then they **** **. Whereas my parents have treated me like an adult since I was literally born, born, born. Since I was born. Which is like weird, but they never talked to me in baby voice. They never let me, like, have an attitude. They would put me in my ******* place. Since I was literally born, like, they never wasted time. They never were. Like, Ohh it's OK Emma, you can just do whatever you want because you're a baby and you are so cute so you can do whatever you want. That's just not what my parents did. And I think. I wanna do that with my kid. I don't want my I don't know. I don't think it's good to baby your children. Even from the start, like obviously you know you are affectionate with your child. But you can be affectionate to your child without babying them, I don't know. So that's one thing I'm gonna do. But then as my kid gets older, there's so many things that like. Your kids experience all of y'all listening y'all have been a kid before. I'm a kid right now. Like when you start to get into high school and it's like time to start going to parties and all of that. I think that the worst thing you could do is not let your kid go. I've seen so many parents do that. Be super strict. Not let their kids go to parties, not let their kids sleep over at their friend's house. Not like I can't fathom. I cannot fathom not letting my child experience high school. I can't fathom not letting my kid, like, enjoy that phase of life. I I think that's so important because let me tell you. My parents let me, my parents let me. I would be like straight up with them. I'd be like, I'm going to a party. This is where it is. I'll send you my location. I don't know when I'm gonna come home. I'll come home at a reasonable hour, but I wanna go to this party really bad. Is that OK? They would say yes. Just please keep us updated and stay in communication with us and you know. Don't do anything stupid. But be honest with us, if you do, do something stupid. And enjoy yourself. And so I would go and I'd experience it and I'd come home. And I'd feel like safe to come home. I wouldn't be sneaking around and then. To be honest, I got all of that out of my system. Going to parties, having sleepovers, all of that because my parents let me. I got it out of my system. And then it just, it kind of lost. Its like excitement for me and then I just kind of stopped caring about that ****. Which is great, because then it was just like I avoided a lot of. Probably bad experiences, but I think that parents that like suppress their kid and are like, no, you cannot go to this party, no you cannot have the sleepover. That's inevitably gonna make the kid wanna go crazier once they have any ounce of freedom. Like the second that that that that child gets to college, they aren't going to. They didn't learn anything in high school and so they're just going to go insane and go crazy. And so it's just it's just toxic like that. Because, like, if you don't give your kid freedom, they're gonna overcompensate. And they're going to do more than they should be. In an ideal world, you give your child the freedom. To do kind of whatever they want, but you give them the deal where it's like, I'll let you do whatever you want. I'm the pair, I'm the parent speaking. I'll do whatever you want. But you have to keep me updated about where you are at all times. And you have to tell me what you're doing. If you're gonna, if you do something stupid, like if you do a ******* drug or something or you drink or you do something, tell me so that we can talk about it. And like, don't lie to me like the. I think the biggest key is being, like educating them on what's going to be at the party. Like if there's, if they're in high school, like saying there's going to be drugs, there's going to be alcohol. This is how you handle them. This is how it might affect you. Don't do it if you like. Don't just try not like cause it's hard. Because you kids do **** but like, you kind of have to be, like, just don't do it. But if you do do it by some chance, tell me so that I can help you and I can pick you up and I can keep you safe. You know what I mean? Because I think at the end of the day, it's like it's all about keeping your kids safe. If you tell them you can't do this, you can't do this, you can't do this. They're just going to go do it behind your back. And then it's more dangerous because if they're in a dangerous situation, they're not going to call you because they don't want to get in trouble. Kids are going to do what they want whether you tell them no or not. That's just how it works. So I think. Giving them. Structured freedom is really important, and I think that's what I'm gonna do with my kid because that's kind of what my parents did with me. It's ******* freezing in this room that I'm in right now. It's so cold. Anyways, let's talk baby names now when I have a child. What do I name it? I don't know. Sorry, I just farted. I'm gonna name it something stupid like prism. Sorry if somebody's name out there is prism. That's kind of rude of me. Or like. Orange. Prism, orange and flower, those are gonna be my kid names. Oh my God, I just remembered something. When you get married, you have to change your last name sometimes. I don't know if I wanna do that, honestly. I've been thinking. I mean, do I want to do that? Uh. I don't want to. I don't really want to change my last name. I mean, I guess I could hyphenate it or whatever. Emma Chamberlain blank. It's kind of fun to think about. Like, it's kind of fun that it's kind of fun to think about that. I never really. I went through a phase in high school where I was like so excited about being like in my 30s and like ******* having kids and like getting married and like that, being in that phase of my life. And now I'm just dreading it. I'm dreading it. I'm sitting next to a mirror right now. And I'm looking at myself in the mirror. This is getting weird. This is getting weird. All you guys don't have to. You guys can turn this off you on. I wouldn't blame you. I'm looking at myself in the mirror right now, and it's. I just realized that, like, I'm gonna be like an 80 year old woman at some point. And that is weird. And I've never and I I don't know why I'm thinking about that, but I can't stop thinking about it. I just hope I'm a hot 80 year old like I hope that I glow up. When I'm 80 like it would kind of be amazing if like. I just like, you know. Right now, I'm a teen still. Somehow. Right now I'm a teen and then like in my 30s, I'll look a little bit better than I look now and then when I'm 80, hot as **** I just. I'd love that. I'd love that. It's never been seen before, never been done before. Growing up in your 80s, I'm so down for that. I'm kinda scared to be that age, but I'm also not because I feel like at that point I don't even want to talk about that. That's a topic for another day getting old. I cannot speak on it. I cannot because it scares me, so I'm not going to speak on it. I think it kind of covered everything that. I wanted to talk about off my own brain, so now let's answer some questions. OK, so if I were to host a live radio show and I could play any music I wanted, I would honestly probably have the time of my Life OK, but I'll admit I would probably end up playing. Just sad music. I don't know what it is about me, but I love sad music, OK? And so I'd probably end up playing. A lot of sad music. Specifically for the people who are listening in the car by themselves. That want to shed a tear in a good way? Well now there is a place that I or you or anyone can host a live show. Amp is the platform that allows people to come together and create live, unfiltered radio shows with whatever music or content that they love. And this is like a real show where you can have people listening live and you can pick exactly which songs to play, and you can even have fans calling in to chat while you're on air. If I had a live show, I would definitely. Have people call in and ask me for dating advice honestly, so I think I'd have to do dating advice. You know what this actually sounds like? The perfect radio show. Sad music combined with dating advice. Because all of the shows on AMP are run by real people, you can tell that the playlists are authentic. A playlist generated automatically just sounds different than one that an individual is controlling based on their passions and tastes. And with 10s of millions of licensed songs to choose from, everyone will find the music that appeals to them. But it's not just music. You can have a talk show. Or react to news, or riff on pop culture. And that's one of the best parts about being a podcast host. You can just riff. On whatever. Excites your mind on any given day. So download AMP today in the App Store, that's amp or ask Alexa to play amp. We got a lot of questions for this one, like more than normal, like double as much as we normally get. So that's really great if you guys want to ask questions about the podcast topics. At AG podcasts on Twitter, blow it up. OK, let's see. Let's answer some questions. Let's make them light. Alright, first question. Do you see yourself being a mom? I do. I do. Because even though I'm really like, I'm dreading it and I don't, I can't picture myself being a mom right now at all because I just feel like I'm so not ready for that yet. Like I'm so far from being ready for that. That it's like hard for me to picture it, but I do want to be a mom because I think that. I think it's like for me, my parents always told me that, like, having a kid just, like, changes everything about your life. It like changes your priorities, it changes everything and it just like. And it's like the most fulfilling thing ever. Like my parents made having a kid sound like it was the best **** that you could ever do. Which maybe they were just complimenting me and flattering me or whatever, but that kind of, like stuck with me and it made me want to have a kid. And so I, you know, it's a lot of work. It's like a huge responsibility, whatever. It's not just adopting a cat because I already did that. But yeah, I do see my I do picture myself being a mom. My God, I almost just peed my pants for a second. I don't know how that happened. Next question, how many kids do you want? I love being an only child, so part of me is like just one, because I think being an only child is so special, and I think the connection that you have with your parents is so special. But I also think that because I never had siblings, I do want to know what that's like in a sense. And so I kind of want to have more than one child so that I can see what a sibling dynamic is like first hand, because I'm really curious. I'm really curious. I've no idea how it works. And so I'm kind of between having one child anywhere between one and three. I there's pros and cons to all options, I think I'm just gonna kind of let the universe take its course. See how I feel? I mean, holding three kids in my body sounds like a ******* nightmare. I don't wanna be pregnant. I don't want to be pregnant at all. I dread that. Like, it's no. Like there's no tomorrow. I don't wanna do that. But, you know, you might. I might have to. That's what it is. I think one kid would be cool because I could have this really strong bond in. I know. I feel like I'd know how to raise an only child in the right way because I am an only child and I like understand the mind of an only child. So that could be huge. That could be huge, but at the same time like. Having two kids could be so cool because I think that having a sibling could be really fun. And I think it could be fun to have, like, multiple personalities to work with. I think that could be really enjoyable. I think Thanksgiving would be a lot more fun when my kids come over and I have two of them, you know what I mean? But then also three I think could be a good number because, you know, there's like this balance. It's like a triangle, you know what I mean? And my dad, actually, my dad has two brothers and I feel like they have a good, like, cool trio going on. And I feel like that was fun and my dad. Want to have like. Two different relationships with his brothers and I feel like that's kind of cool. So, like, I don't know, I'm just gonna let nature take its course. But no more than 3/3 is even pushing it. Mainly because I just don't wanna hold that many. Also because I don't even know if I have the mental capacity to take care of three children. So maybe I'll cap it too. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. I don't know. There's a lot. There's a lot to unpack there. Somebody asked do you want to get married? I do. I'm going to get married because I want to have a kid, so I kind of need to get married. It's they go hand in hand, I'll get married, I'll make a whole. I'm just gonna no, you know what? I'm just gonna get married and I'm just gonna. I'm not even going to care about the wedding. I'm just going to care about how good my Instagram photos are from it. That's it. I don't care. I don't ******* care about the wedding. I just want to go to Instagram pick out of it and then I'm going to get divorced. That's so ****** **. But I'm allowed to make that joke. My parents are divorced, so you guys can't say **** about that. I'm kidding. I'm not taking one ******* photo at my wedding. I don't even want to know what I look like. I wanna get married in like a ******* sun dress and like, no, not even a dress. I wanna get married and like be wearing like. Denim shorts. Like really cute vintage denim shorts and like, maybe a white top? Somebody said what are your plans for the future? It's broad. I don't know if you're talking about like, in regard to children and marriage, but I'm gonna assume that you're not like, what are my plans for the future right now? It's crazy because I've never been the type of person to like. Think too deeply about the future. I'm I'm normally more focused on the past and the present. Which I think I should be switching that to the present in the future. I think I need to start focusing more on the present in the future. I do think I spend too much time thinking about the past. That's a story for another day. But. My plans for the future, I want to just keep working, you know? I want to get married. I want to have kids. I want to have good friends. I wanna have fun. Umm. I want to laugh, I wanna cry, I wanna scream. And I just wanna stay alive. That's about it. I just need to survive. That's kind of the number one thing. You just gotta you just gotta survive. Do you know what I mean? That's my goal for the future. Just to ******* make it through. Alive, that's it, somebody said. How do you find the perfect Bay? I love this question. I love this question because it's like, do I even know? No, but I'm still gonna speak on it. I keep having to fart and then I it's sorry, you don't wanna know about that. You don't want. I'm getting too comfortable on this podcast. How to find the perfect bank? OK, listen. The I think the worst part about trying to find the perfect day is that you're gonna think that you found the perfect one. Like, at least. Twice before you probably could find the good one, and even then, who knows? From my experience I think. I think it's all about trial and error to be honest. I I do. I think it's all about trial and error. I think you need to talk to a lot of different people. I think you have need to have connections with a lot of different people. And I think you need to watch a lot of them fizzle out and then watch a lot of them work and like even date people for a while and then, you know, get your heart broken and then realize why it didn't work and realize why they weren't for you. I think you need to. You just need to put yourself out there and like experience as many people as possible. Date as many people as possible, if that's if that's something that you feel comfortable with. For me, it really isn't. I don't really like I'm. I'm pretty. Like? It kind of takes a lot for me to like, put myself out there and talk to people. I need to feel really comfortable and like if I don't, then I'm just over it. So that kind of has made it harder for me to like. It's taken me a lot longer to like. Start trying to. Talk to people, I guess. But, you know, we're getting there. Whatever. I also think it's about being honest with yourself about red flags like. I've ignored so many red flags. And just like. Literally been fully aware of these. Like definitely bad red flags, but I've just been like, Oh no, it's fine, it's fine. Like, whatever, I. I don't know. I don't. I don't see it. I'm it's fine. I'm just overreacting, blah, blah, blah. Never ignore red flag. Because. It'll it's. It always bites you in the *** later. It always does, and it and it hurts every time. If you just stop it before it begins, then you're safe. But I know how hard it is, and I've never do that myself. Ever. I think the key is to find somebody where you you really struggle to find a red flag. You really struggle to find something wrong with them. And there everything about them is just like. Perfect to you in a sense. And there's nothing like. And you see it for what it is. You see them for what they are. And you're not having to lie to yourself about who they are because who they actually are is somebody that you want to have in your life and is somebody that's a good person like. You know when somebody's a good person or not. I'm assuming I feel like everybody does, but if you, like are really physically attracted to them. Sometimes you'll like. You know, you're kind of like disregard a few things cause you're like, yeah, but they're so hot. Done it. I've done it. You have to find somebody who's cute. That also you're not having to like convince yourself as a good person when they're probably not. And that's that. It's kind of a beautiful thing, though. It's a beautiful thing. When it works, it's it's such like a it's so special. It's so special. How humans can have connection like that and how it's even possible for like. Humans have a special bond, and I've always wondered, like how it's even possible that, like, two people can like how they even find each other, or like how they. How it even works? Like is it is it a chemical in your brain like is it like? 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Because I think that, like for myself, this has nothing to do with anybody else if if you wanna have a kid at. Whatever age, I'm not judging, but for me, I just. I I know myself and I know that I'm gonna need some time to like. I just think that I'm going to need time to be the best parent I can be. I don't think that. I think I'm naturally somebody who's very like. I'm not selfish, but like. I'm I do. Have a lot of growing to do on my own and so I've been prioritizing that for quite a few years now and like focusing on my own growth and putting a lot of energy into myself and I think I need to kind of finish that work. In within myself, before I can have a child, because the 2nd that you have a child, you're 2nd and so I need to make sure that I'm mature enough. To be able to be second. Or else that kid is not. It's not gonna be fair to that kid. And so I'm gonna wait awhile. I also think that I wanna be in a place in my life where I'm not impulsive anymore because I'm very impulsive right now. I need to grow out of that because I like to like. I'm just impulsive and not that that's even a bad thing, because I think that my impulses are sometimes correct. But it's just like I with something as big of a deal as getting married and having a child. Let's wait until I've grown out of my impulsiveness a little bit. Next question, where do you want to raise your kid? It this is funny. It's funny because right now I obviously live in LA. In the thick of LA I'm like right in it. I don't want to raise my kid in LA to be honest because. Number one, I think at some point I want to get out of LA. I mean, maybe I, maybe I won't. I don't know. I don't know. Part of me wants to raise my kid in LA because I feel like. It might just be necessary. But then another part of me is like. I'd love to raise my kids somewhere that has seasons and like I'd love to experience. A different pace of life. Somewhere else. Like in *******. I don't know, like. I wouldn't. I don't know if I think I would use either. Raise my kid. In LA or I'd like raise my kid on the East Coast. But then again, I don't know if I can handle snow. So I'm really torn here. I'm really torn here. I have no idea where I want to raise my kid. I've just always been kind of scared of raising my kid in California because I feel like California is just. There's a lot of things here that, like, there just isn't it everywhere else. And like, it's just kind of intense here. And I think it could be nice to, like, raise a kid somewhere where like, that's away from all of this. Like, away from all of the like. I hope that you guys know what I'm talking about. Like, I don't know how to explain it, but California is like, this is where everything is. Everything's here. So I kind of want to raise my kid somewhere where like everything isn't there, like life is a little bit more simple and like so that the kid can focus on like. Other things like doesn't have to focus on like. *******. I feel like people are very materialistic here. And very. Judgmental here. And that's something that like I could handle because I I grew up. Not in like LA I grew up well. I mean, I was still grew up in California, but it was like the area in California that I grew up in is like less bad, less judgmental than LA, still has its own problems and still is the same way, still very materialistic, but like it wasn't as bad. Like, imagine growing up and like all the kids at your school like. Talking about like. Gucci belts, like, do you know what I'm saying? Like that's the vibe of LA to me and I just don't wanna raise a kid here where like that's what the kids care about is like. A Gucci belt. So I don't know, I'm a little bit torn. Maybe I'll raise my kid. It would be kind of fun to raise my kid like. In New York, I don't know. But not like in New York City. Like somewhere in New York, but I don't know anything about. I don't really know much about New York. Like upstate New York. I don't know much about that. Maybe that would be like, boring or like not fun area to live. I don't know. I don't know. I need to do more traveling and figure out somewhere that like, I feel like a kid would thrive. That was a really long answer. Somebody asked do you think YouTube will still be a part of your life when you're married and have kids? That is an amazing question that I do not know the answer to. I have no idea. Part of me thinks. I think YouTube will be in my life in a different way when I'm at that age. I think it will still be in my life, but I don't think it's going to be the same that it is now. Like right now, you know, I upload every week and I'm like, you know, doing whatever. I think that when by the time I'm older, I'm going to be using YouTube as a platform in a completely different way. But I still think it'll be my life. I don't want to include my children on my YouTube, ever. I just want to keep that separate. For my kids. Like mental health. Because I don't want to throw my kid into like. I don't wanna like. I mean, you can't when your child is a baby. You can't ask them. Hey, are you OK with being on camera? You can't ask them that. And so it is. I mean, I'm conflicted about whether or not it's fair to, like, do that without asking them. You know what I mean? Like, because they're a human. And is it fair just because they're your child to put them on camera? I don't know. I don't really think. I'm not sure. I'm not sure what the answer is, but if I were to continue to YouTube as an adult with kids, it would be a very different situation and I would not. It would not have anything to do with my children either. It would still be something that would be like my thing for me. This next question is kind of funny. Do you think babies like newborns are cute? To be honest, I don't really care about babies unless I know whose baby it is. Does that make sense? Like, I'm not the type of person that sees a baby in public and is like, falling on my knees like, Oh my God, baby. Like, I don't have that. I've never had that. The only time I care about babies is if I, like, know whose baby it is? Like my somebody really close to me just had a baby a few months ago, and every time I see that baby, it it I I ******* love that baby because I I care about that baby. And I know that baby, and I know that baby's parents and I care about that baby's parents, and I care about that baby because I, like, have a personal connection with that baby. So in that case, that baby is so cute to me because I like, love that baby, right? But like some random baby on the street, I'm not freaking out over it. It has to be the right baby for me to care. Like somebody that I know and care about their baby. That's when I care about their baby. Otherwise, I don't really care. When it's my own baby, I'm going to think it's the cutest thing ever, but when it's not my baby. I don't care. Well, no. When it's not me or somebody I care about's baby, I don't care. And that might be kind of an unpopular opinion. I'm sorry for that. Whatever. I keep getting this question and I feel like I touched on it earlier, but I also feel like. Why not touch on it again? Do you think having divorced parents has affected how you look at marriage? I think yes, because I think it kind of shed the light on like the reality of it. Like it kind of just showed me like. I never really actually got to see my parents married. I don't really know anything about that. I don't know what living in it. I don't know what. Like, my, my situation was that, you know, my parents got divorced when I was five, and I don't really have very many memories from them being married because, like when you're like. Any age under 5, like there's kind of no memory. So I don't really remember. I don't know what it's like to have married parents and that's OK with me. Like, I ******* love my parents so much and their relationship. As divorced parents are like, is so admirable and cool for me to watch and like, I respect it so much and I would never people ask me, would you want your parents to get back together? No, I love them separate. I think it's so much healthier. I think it's how it's supposed to be. But, you know, it is weird because I think that I don't really understand marriage very well. Like, I think I kind of. Maybe have a little bit of a jaded. Like view on it, because I've kind of seen how like. I've seen like, I've never seen it work, so it's like hard for me to believe in it. It's like it's like believing in ghosts. Like? Do I believe in ghosts? I believe that they could exist, yeah, but like, sure, but I've never seen one. So I'm. I'm not. So I'm a little skeptical. It's the exact same thing with marriage for me, but that doesn't mean I'm not gonna try it. But it also, I think the cool thing about, you know, having divorced parents and, you know, watching them have a healthy relationship. That also showed me that, like, even if I do get divorced, like there's a life after it, it's not the end of the world. It's all about making the most out of that relationship with that person. You know, after the divorce and and I think that's kind of a beautiful thing to see, you know? And it gives me hope that, like, no matter what happens, like, I'm going to be OK. Even if I ******* marry somebody, it doesn't work. Like, you get through it and that's the end of that. All right? We're going to answer a few more because I'm having fun with this episode for some reason. I don't know why I like talking about it so much. Somebody said, do you have a list of baby name ideas in your notes? I might, I might. I have a lot of notes? Let's see if I have that. ****. I don't. I'm gonna try to remember I I don't really like. It's weird because I don't really like a lot of names cause I like associate names with people that I've met with those names. So it's hard for me to like like names, but I like the names. Well, I think you guys can kind of tell what names I like. I like the name Frankie because I named my ******* cat Frankie. Like I like names like that that are like kind of like. Kind of cute. And like. Not so serious. Although when they, like, get older, then it's kind of like weird because like, does anybody know somebody named Frankie that's like 50? Probably actually, but. I don't know. I'm. I'm kind of stumped on the names. Like I don't know how people come up with names. I want something unique though. I like the name, I always like the name. Riley, I like Irish names. A lot. I always liked the name Riley. I always like, let's see, I have like animal names in my phone, so let's see if. I can find someone here. I like the name Oliver. But I already have a cat named Oliver and I also, I wouldn't name a kid Oliver though I think I like that as an animal name. Yeah, I'm really stumped on the names. I'm gonna hope that my like whoever I get married to and or whoever I have kids with, hopefully they are good with names and good at like coming up with names and **** because like I'm that's on them. Like I I'm I ran out. OK, I'm going to answer a few more because I really have to go to the bathroom. Like I've been holding it for a really long time. Somebody asked are you gonna put your kids in a private all girls slash boys school like you did? No, no, no, no, no public school for the win I will never put my kids into. A private school I just. I think it was a fun idea. I think it was a fun concept. I really wanted it. I really wanted to do that. I hated it. I don't think it's good. I think there's a lot of, like, it's a weird environment. There's a lot of weird things like it. No, no, no, no, no. I don't wanna do that. Somebody said, what type of wedding dress do you want? I don't even. I don't know, like I kind of want to do something crazy and cool. It's like a little different, but. Like if we're talking about the traditional type of wedding dresses, I really. I like dresses that are like kind of a mock neck, like. I don't like showing my like shoulders for some reason. Like it makes me feel uncomfortable sometimes. So I kind of want to dress it like. Is a little bit is like kind of high neck. And like maybe even long sleeve? Really simple. Not not like super poofy or anything very like minimal. Not overdoing it, not overwhelming. I don't even want to veil like one of those ******* wedding veils. I don't even want that. Like, just a simple pretty dress. That's long sleeve and has like a little bit of a high neck. And that's it. Last but not least, somebody said. No, I like more questions. Somebody who says where's your dream honeymoon? Oh my God, that's a good question. That's really, that's a fun question. Umm. **** I got it. Europe. Like France or. Like Paris? Or. I I haven't been anywhere else in Europe besides Ireland in Paris, but like going to other places in in Europe would be really amazing. Like going to. The South of France would be really amazing. Anywhere in Europe. That maybe even has a beach. That would be really nice, although I can't speak any English like I can't speak any other language besides English. So it might be a stressful honeymoon, but I would get through it. Somebody said, what's my ideal husband? Smart. Good person. Good heart. Independent in a sense. Creative for sure. For sure. And. A good dad, I think. Like when you marry somebody, like, you just want them to be a good dad. Mainly, like, I just want to marry somebody who would be a good dad. That's, like, the whole point. OK, I think I'm done. I think I've answered too many questions. You guys, like, shut up. Somebody said, can you invite me to your wedding when it happens? Thank you. I can be the flower girl. **** yeah, come be the flower girl. It's going to be crazy. Love it. Anyway, that's it. That's it for today's episode. I hope you guys enjoyed. I actually really like talking about that. I thought that was really fun. Feel free to tweet at AG podcast if you want to tweet me some topics. I'm not going to lie you all. I am kind of running out of topics because I'm in, we're in quarantine and I am. My brain is kind of starting to like. It's not very creative right now, like I'm running out of things to talk about because I literally just see the same. Few people that I've been quarantining with. This whole time and I don't leave my house and I drink coffee and I try to exercise and I work and then I poop and then I go to bed. And then I eat, and then I and then I lie and then I sleep. And that's it. So I'm kind of running out of **** to talk about, so if you guys have anything you want me to talk about, feel free to tweet at HD podcast. And I love you all. If you guys are when you guys get married, I. When you guys get married, I expect you. I just, like, throw up my mouth. I expect you guys to send me your wedding photos. I want to see him and I will not hesitate to make fun of them. But no, it's all in good fun because I love you guys and I care about you guys a lot. Thank you for listening once again. I really appreciate it. Keep it real. Follow your dreams and peace and love. We're here with Phil talking about what's new with heart Nissan Phil. What are some good reasons somebody should buy now? That's a great question. 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