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Today I woke up very excited to discuss. I'm so ******* mad. There's nothing. I don't know if you just heard that, but my alarm just went off. One of my 10 alarms just went off. There's nothing that makes me more mad. Then. When I forget to turn off all the alarms, I set. After I get up in the morning, because I set like 10 alarms, I set one for. 7:30 I set one for 8:00 AM, I set one for 8:30 AM. You know, I set a few just in case. And I usually wake up. When the first alarm goes off. And then for the first hour of the morning. Every 30 minutes I'm getting another alarm in my ear and I have to turn it off. And it ****** me off every time. It makes me mad. It makes me livid. There's something about it that just makes my blood boil. I cannot put a finger on it. It makes my blood boil anyway. So here's what I want to talk about today. I had a realization over the past week about. How easy it is? For us. To stay in our comfort zone. These days. And I'll explain. The fact that we can do pretty much everything virtually or through some sort of technology. Has made day-to-day life day-to-day interactions day-to-day. Tasks so much easier for us. To a point where. We're not getting outside of our comfort zones as often. A good example would be. When? We have an uncomfortable conversation that we have to have, let's say. We're kind of upset. With a friend about something that they did to us. Instead of. Going to this friend in person. In discussing with them face to face, most people would rather. Send them a text. Being like, hey? This is how I'm feeling to avoid that face to face conversation. Because that face to face conversation is far more uncomfortable than sending that text. Another example could be. Avoiding the grocery store. So that you don't have to see other people and instead just ordering your groceries. To your door, using literally any delivery app or website that you can find these days. Amazon does it, DoorDash does it, Instacart does it. Like the amount of options you have. To avoid the grocery store is insane and never ending. Now, while I don't think that it's a bad thing that we have. Technology to utilize to make our lives easier. I think that. We as people just need to be. More firm with ourselves in finding other ways. To put ourselves out of our comfort zone because our day-to-day life has been simplified a lot and has been made a lot more comfortable. So in order to grow and evolve as people. We need to find other ways to push ourselves out of our comfort zone because. Going and having a conversation with your friend. When you're upset with them in person. Is an uncomfortable? But extremely. Educational experience. What you're going to get out of that experience is going to teach you so much more than just sending a text. Because you're reading their body language, your. Having to come up with what to say on the spot, you don't have the buffer of. Text message where you know you can wait to respond for an hour. You have to be fully present. And have that conversation in real time. And even something as simple as the grocery store. You get to avoid that awkward conversation. In the line at checkout. When you order everything straight to your door, you don't even have to talk to the person that delivers the groceries, usually. Usually they'll just leave them at your door. You don't even have to talk to them, so you get to avoid. All conversation that could possibly happen. All small talk. All of the physical labor of walking around a grocery store, you get to do nothing. And. Obviously there's a scale of. How uncomfortable something is, you know, let's say the scale is on a one to 10. I would put grocery shopping as a one of being the least uncomfortable and. A confrontational situation with a friend being maybe A6 or A7 on the uncomfortable scale. Regardless of where, an uncomfortable situation falls on the scale. We need to be experiencing slightly uncomfortable situations. Pretty much daily in order for us to grow. And when I say uncomfortable, I obviously mean uncomfortable in the sense of. Something that is. Challenging. And takes mental and or physical effort in a way that. You deep down would probably prefer not to have to do. Like when you look at this certain task or thing you're like. Wow, it would be so much easier to just. Not do it right. It takes. Almost willpower. To accomplish. And uncomfortable task, even if it's something as small as going to the grocery store. Now let's talk about me personally. Personally, I'm not somebody that likes going out of my comfort zone very often. Because I'm the type of person that thinks in. Away where? I like to do things in the most efficient and painless way possible, and I think a lot of people are like that. But. I do know some people who are not like that. Who weirdly enjoy a challenge. They crave a challenge. I mean, for me, I don't even like roller coasters anymore. I don't even like. Zip lining. I don't like any of that stuff because all of that is out of my comfort zone. That's obviously a very. Basic basic example of something that's out of your comfort zone, and obvious example as well, but. I don't even like doing that stuff because in my eyes when I look at going on a roller coaster or. Zip lining or skydiving I'm like. Yeah, you know, facing a fear. Makes you feel good in a lot of different ways, but I'd rather face a completely different fear. I don't want to face that fear like that's. A waste of energy to me. It's too uncomfortable and frightening for me. I just don't want to do it and I tend to live my life like that in many areas, I. I definitely avoid uncomfortable situations and you know. I've talked about it before, but I. Stay home a lot. I'm in my bed at home a lot. I choose to spend time with people I'm very comfortable with 99.9% of the time. I don't really like going outside of that. And I say no to a lot of opportunities that are out of my comfort zone because I just prefer. Not to do them. And in life, majority of the time you have a choice of whether or not you want to do something and if something's uncomfortable. Usually I'm the type of person that's going to. Choose the most comfortable option. Recently I. Have kind of shifted my perspective and for whatever reason, I've been wanting to get out of my comfort zone a little bit more and it wasn't like. A conscious. Decision that I made. By any means. It was something that kind of happened subconsciously. I didn't even notice it happening. I didn't even realize that. I had this desire to kind of push myself a little bit until. After the fact and I'll explain. So. Recently I got an offer. To public speak. At an event. In Miami, FL. And. For the past three years, I've said no to every single public speaking. Opportunity I've gotten. Immediately without even second thought because. Three years ago. I had a traumatizing experience. And I'll tell you about this traumatizing experience. I think I've told this story before, but whatever, we'll tell it again. So. Three years ago. In about. 2018 I believe. I was very new to. The world of the Internet. I had only started. Posting. Things on the Internet a year and a half prior, maybe even just a year prior. At that point, and I was very new to everything, I was fresh meat, as some may say. And. I was at a point where I was starting to become recognized for what I was doing at the time I was making weekly YouTube videos and they were starting to gain traction and I had hit my first million subscribers and. Things were shifting, you know, I was going from just a girl who was making YouTube videos for fun and lived at home to this girl who was making videos and then now somehow can support herself and lives in Los Angeles by herself. At 17 and. Has no idea what the **** is going on. And so. I was in this really uncomfortable place as it was in my life where I. Had just recently found success in creating content on the Internet and I was starting to get recognized. Which was just a ******** but meanwhile. I'm moving out. At a young age and trying to figure out how to be an adult. A few years earlier than I thought I was going to have to and. The whole thing was just. A huge ******** for me. But. I got nominated during this time 4. In a ward. At an award show. Called the Streamy Awards, I got nominated for a Streamy Award, which is like basically the Internet. Award show it's the award show for people who make. Videos of some sort on the Internet and I got nominated for Breakout creator, which was basically like. The award for. In emerging. Content creator, if you will. I was nominated for that. And this was extremely exciting for me because. Everything was so new, I was so uncertain of so much and it was so reassuring to be nominated for an award. In the midst of this chaos and massive life shift. And so I was very excited and of course I wanted to go to the award show. I didn't think I was going to win the award, but I just wanted to be there and. Meet. People that I'd idolized for so long that were going to be at this event, I was very excited. But I also didn't anticipate. Winning, so I didn't prepare to win. The you know, the only preparation I did was just pick out an outfit that, in retrospect, was absolutely atrocious and so ******* ugly and I can't even look at it now without cringing, but whatever. That was all the prep I did was. Picking out an outfit. Other than that, I just went into it blind. So. Here I am at this award show. It's streamed live. For whoever wants to watch and. It's time for them to announce my. Category. And. All of a sudden. They say, and the winner for breakout creator is Emma Chamberlain. Umm. I wanted to start crying, but not because I was excited. I wanted to start crying because I had to go up and give an acceptance speech. And I had never done that before. I had never thought about what that would be like. I didn't plan at all because I didn't think I was going to win. And unlike most award shows where they tell you beforehand whether or not you're going to win. Or at least I assume that that's what they normally do, allegedly before, like ******* the Oscars. Sue me or something. I had to go up and give an acceptance speech in front of all of these people that I had idolized since I was. As young as 10, on YouTube and other platforms alike, I had to go up and give a speech. Rip something out of my *** in front of all these people that I idolize. Meanwhile, my identity is in shambles. I just moved to LA Super Young. All of this is so new to me. I was so incredibly overwhelmed and terrified that I went up there on stage and I don't even remember what I said. But. I basically gave the worst acceptance speech possibly on the planet OK? And when I tell you that I've never been able to live it down, I've never been able to live it down. This speech is so awkward. I was. My voice was shaking and I was like, thank you guys. Like, hi, mom. And I was it was bad. Everything about it was bad. You know what? If you want to go Google it, go Google it. But also, if you care about me, don't ******* Google it, OK? Please. It's so bad. I there's no way I can bury it. Like, I don't know how to bury it. It's it's there. It's there. It's out there. I wish I could get it deleted from every single ******* platform on the planet. I wish I could remove it. Wipe it clean. But no, it's out there and. I have never ever been able to live it down. To this day, I get tagged in this video and people are making fun of me because it's cringy. I get it. I was a mess. I was a complete mess, OK? Like the speech was terrible. Obviously I can defend myself all I want and be like, but I didn't know and I just moved that way and I was. Everything was so new to me and I didn't know what to do and I was so inexperienced. Whatever it is, what it is. And yeah, it was embarrassing, but also, So what? Like, it's fine, but ever since then I have said no to every single opportunity to public speak, because that situation traumatized me so bad and I've never been able to escape it. And. Instead of me thinking to myself after this terrible experience. Wow, I wanna learn how to public speak better and I wanna learn. How to feel comfortable on a stage in front of people that I respect? I've never thought that I've always been like, oh, I'm just never going to do it again. Simple as that. I will just never do it again. And so I've said no to every opportunity that came up until this past week. Where I got an opportunity. To public speak at an event in Miami. In front of. A unique crowd it it wasn't people my age. It wasn't people in my industry, it was people in a completely different industry. Adults, actually mainly adults. Over the age of 40. But for some reason. I said yes to this. I was like, yeah, you know what? Sure, like, I'll, I'll public speak in front of them. Sure. I was honestly shocked at myself when I first said yes because I was like, I'm a deep, like, this is new, you know? You haven't. Even considered for a second public speaking ever since your meltdown three years ago, you know. I was shocked. At how? Automatically, I said yes. But let's Fast forward to the event itself. OK, so if I were to host a live radio show and I could play any music I wanted. I would honestly probably have the time of my Life OK, but I'll admit I would probably end up playing. Just sad music. I don't know what it is about me, but I love sad music, OK? And so I'd probably end up playing. A lot of sad music. Specifically for the people who are listening in the car by themselves. 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I'm sitting there. And at first I feel very calm. I'm like, you know what? Like. Worst case scenario. I freeze up up there and it's a terrible experience. But. I never have to see these people again. You know, a lot of these people I will never see again. It doesn't really matter. And I felt pretty calm and then about 5 minutes before it was time for me. To go on. I started to convince myself that I had a migraine. I get the type of migraines that makes you go partially blind. Like they they it ***** with your vision. Your vision. I get those types of migraines. I started to convince myself I was getting one of those, and those are really scary because when you get those types of migraines, you can't see properly, like it gives you blind spots in your eyes. It's very weird. And you become really sensitive to light and you get a really, really excruciating headache. For some reason, I started to convince myself I was getting one of those headaches. Umm. And then I started to feel my heart beating and my heart rate started going up and I got clammy the whole 9 yards and I was like, OK, I'm. Not getting away with this one. Easy, you know. I'm having a full bodily reaction to this experience. I thought that I could calm myself down. I thought I could be chill and just be like, well, worst case scenario, it's fine, but my body made the decision for me that it was nervous and it started reacting. But I was like, well, it's too late now, you know, I gotta do this. And I. In the moments leading up to going on stage was like, there is nothing I want to do less I I literally. Would love to just walk away right now and not ******* do this. I've never wanted to do something less in my life. I was so scared, but alas. My time comes, I get called up on the stage for my interview. Slash speech of sorts. And. For the first two minutes. I was a complete mess. Every word that I would say, my voice was shaking. It was like, I can't even explain how my voice was shaking and what it sounded like, but. My arms, my whole body was shaking. And you could see it and I know everybody could probably see it. I looked terrified. I didn't know what to do with my face. My facial expression was so bizarre. It was like a it was a mix between, like, smiling, but also looking like I was going to burst into tears simultaneously. It was very. Unique it was probably a unique facial expression to look at. As the crowd, but anyway. About a minute and a half, two minutes in. My heart rate started to go down and I started to feel. Calm. And I was like, wait, Oh my God, I'm relaxing. I'm relaxing up here. And about 5 minutes in. I forgot I was ever even scared at all. And I was enjoying myself. I was enjoying talking about all these different topics to this crowd. And then 15 minutes in, I was like, I love this. Like, this is actually really fun. I'm not scared. I'm not nervous. I'm excited about what I'm talking about. People seem to be relatively interested in what I'm talking about. This is great. I actually am enjoying myself somehow. And I walked off of the stage after the hour long interview. In felt. A unique feeling that I haven't felt in a really, really long time. I felt like. I had just unlocked. Something new that I enjoyed. That I used to be bad at, but that now I felt like I maybe wasn't so bad at. And. That in turn made me feel capable in a way that I normally don't feel capable. I tend to be pretty hard on myself as it is, but. Because I also don't challenge myself very often. And I don't push myself out of my comfort zone very often. It's very rare that I'm reminded. Of what I'm capable of, because I just don't. Ever put myself in situations that would show me that? And. My brain tends to tell me that. I'm only good at what I'm good at. Like there's nothing more that I could possibly be good at out there. My brain loves to tell me that. But. Suddenly not doing a terrible job at public speaking just shattered. That dialogue in my head. Of me saying to myself, how? I'm only good at what I'm good at, and there's no reason to, you know, try new things because. There's already hundreds and millions of other people who are already good at it. What am I gonna add to that? You know why even try? Blah blah blah. This experience made me realize. There are so many different things out there. That I could possibly be good at. That I don't even know yet about. And. My fear of public speaking. Was rooted in one experience. And by never giving it a second chance. I never allowed myself to learn how to do it and to learn how to enjoy it. And that's a shame. But it's not too late to start now. This experience of. Putting myself in an uncomfortable situation and then coming out on the other side. Alive and well and fine. Gave me. A boost of confidence? In a big, big way. I. Felt really good about myself and I again don't feel great about myself all the time like I, you know, like. I don't feel confident, incapable every day. I really don't. I am somebody who again. Loves to beat myself up all the time and try to convince myself that I'm a ***** ** ****. Probably has some sort of coping mechanism. In order to help me avoid uncomfortable situations my brain loves to be like. You're not capable of this. You're not capable of that. You're going to fail if you try this. You're going to fail if you try that. My brain convinces itself not to push itself out of its comfort zone, to avoid failure and to avoid discomfort, but this situation. Pushed that thought out of the way. And made me feel excited about the idea. Of what other ways I could possibly push myself. To try something new. Or to get myself out of my comfort zone. The outcome of this was really great. I learned so much about myself. About. What? Ways I can push myself. In my career and job that. Make me feel excited and make me feel inspired. I learned that now the challenge of public speaking is something that I can handle and is something that makes me feel good, and I wouldn't have known that otherwise. The outcome of this? Was successful. But. Sometimes pushing yourself out of your comfort zone isn't successful, and I wanted to touch on a situation that also happened to me this weekend. That's a little bit less profound, maybe, but. Is an example of where pushing myself out of my comfort zone. Didn't maybe end as successfully. As I wanted it to. So. While I was out of town this weekend, I. Wanted to kind of push myself to. Go and be social. Whether that was going to dinner with someone or saying yes to an invite to a party or an event, I wanted to just kind of. Say yes to things that I would normally say no to. Because I'd rather just avoid the social interaction and I go through phases where sometimes I'm. Open. To pushing myself socially and other times I'm not. This weekend I was kind of like I don't really know where I stand. But because I was kind of neutral on it, I was like, you know what? I'm just gonna push myself and I'm just gonna kind of say yes to everything because I had a lot of free time. While I was. There and I was like, I'm just gonna. Kind of say yes to everything. And. See who I can meet. See what types of experiences I can have. And just see what happens. So there was one party in particular that I went to this weekend that I said yes to, that I probably wouldn't have normally said yes to, but. I was like. I don't know what it's going to be like. How am I supposed to know what it's going to be like? Before I arrive. I could. Sit in bed all night and just guess what I think this party would be like. Or I could go check it out, see if it's something that I like, and if it's something I don't like, then I leave. So I went to this party and. I did not like it. I didn't like the environment I I didn't like. The people that I was surrounded by, I don't, I don't. Not that I didn't like them. They're probably great people. I don't know, but I I didn't really feel comfortable. In the environment that I was in but. This discomfort was not like. Discomfort in a healthy way. It was discomfort in an unhealthy way. It was discomfort that I don't need to. I don't need to feel the type of discomfort I was feeling. Was not. Positive. I just felt like. The people around me were. Not on the same wavelength as me. To put it simply, and. You know, when you're at a party, people will try to suck you into staying longer. They're like, no stay longer. Staying longer. And that started to kind of happen to me and I was like, ah, I really, really want to go home. You know, I really want to leave. But people were like, no stay, stay longer. Like, let's hang out. Let's hang out. And I was like, ah, I don't want to do this. I want to go home. Like, I want to go back to my room, like, whatever. And. I kind of let these people. Forced me to stay out for longer than I would have wanted. And. Obviously, this is not to say that they're bad people or anything at all. But you know. They're kind of trying to get me to stay out longer and. In that moment, you know, I could have been like, Oh no, I'm gonna go. I really think I need to go. But like, thank you for being cause it was strangers, by the way, that we're like. Being like, you know, like, hang out for longer, whatever. I could have been like, Oh no, like. I'm gonna go, but I didn't because I was uncomfortable by that. And I was uncomfortable. With the confrontation of being like, no, I actually want to go home, so I didn't and instead I. Stayed out longer than I wanted to and. I ended up going home feeling spineless and terrible. I went home feeling stupid. I was like, alright. I went out to kind of push myself out of my comfort zone, and I went home feeling like a pushover and like a loser. Because I didn't. Have the guts. To say Oh no, I want to go home. And instead I was appeasing everyone else, and that made me feel really ******. Because. The only person there is to blame for that is me. Those people would have been fine if I would have said, oh, I gotta go, you know, I gotta go. They wouldn't have ******* cared. They would have gotten over it immediately, but. I'm a yes man. I just want to make everybody happy. So I put myself out and I inconvenienced myself and I. Upset myself. In order. To please these people. And. That made me feel achy. It made me feel bad. And at first I was like. God. What positive could come out of this? In theory, I push myself out of my comfort zone, and that should always reach some sort of benefit, right? Where's the benefit here? And then it dawned on me. The point of pushing yourself out of your comfort zone is not to always have a success. But instead it's to. Help you solidify. How you feel about something? And it helps you grow your confidence. In your beliefs. And it helps you. Become more comfortable. With who you are. Like for example, my public speaking experience. Showed me that I actually enjoy public speaking. And that I'm not really so afraid of it and that if I get an opportunity moving forward, I should say yes, so that I can continue to get better at this, because it's something that actually does shockingly make me feel good and I do actually enjoy doing it. In the act of doing it makes me feel very capable and confident and excited and inspired for whatever reason. I learned that from that experience, whereas. Me going to this party and. Taking that risk. Showed me that I need to learn to stand up for myself. With new people. When I'm in a new environment. And I'm meeting new people. And I'm. Kind of going into it blindly, not sure what I'm getting myself into. I need to learn how to remove myself. From those situations immediately when I realized that I'm not really enjoying it. I need to learn how to. Leave immediately when things are just not the right vibe, and I realize that, but also how to. Tell people. No. Because I have a really hard time saying no but. I went home feeling so guilty and dirty and gross about not staying true to myself in that environment and not going home when I wanted to go home and. It made me feel. The opposite of how the public speaking experience made me feel. It made me feel. Incapable and insecure and small and like a pushover and like an idiot. But the way that I was able to turn that into something useful was that. Not only did I learn. That. That certain type of party environment maybe isn't for me, but I also learned that I need to work on standing up for myself and saying no. And risking may be hurting someone's feelings. So that I don't go home and look at myself in the mirror and just see a pushover. In the yes man. The moral of the story is. I would argue that anytime you push yourself out of your comfort zone. You're going to learn something. Even if it's something really small. It could be. Trying out a new workout class. That you've never done before, and you're afraid because you feel like you're going to look stupid. And that it's going to be too hard and that it's going to be like, it's just going to be an upsetting experience and it's going to be awful, but at the same time you want to try because. Everybody's raving about how amazing these workout classes are. So you wanna try for yourself? Well, let's look at. Both scenarios. On one hand you could go and you could love it. And everything could go perfectly and. It could give you confidence knowing that you're capable. Of accomplishing something that you thought could possibly go terribly wrong you're capable of. Trying something new and nailing it. Or you could go and it could be a terrible experience and you know, it could be way too hard and make you very uncomfortable. And maybe people in there were mean and it was just an awful experience. Well, now you know that you don't like this ******* workout class and you don't want to go again, but you can at least look in the mirror at the end of the day and say that you didn't give up, you tried, and that within itself should give you confidence. So. In every. Scenario when you push yourself out of your comfort zone. You learn something even if you have to make a mistake along the way. Even if. You don't realize immediately what you learned from it. I think that pushing yourself out of your comfort zone. Always leaves you with a lesson. And. I'm not going to sit here and say that every time I get an opportunity to go outside of my comfort zone, I'm going to take it. That's just not true. You know, you have to choose which things. Make the most sense for you, and that's going to look so different for everybody. But I think it's just something to be aware of. 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This profound conclusion like the example that I gave in the beginning of my public speaking. Experience. It may not be that profound, but even pushing yourself out of your comfort zone in small ways. Has an effect. And that effect is that number one. It proves you that you're capable of doing more than you thought you were. And two. It helps you solidify your opinions and. Your beliefs and your personality. It helps develop those things and solidify those things and. All of these small little. Acts and things that you can do. Will help to slowly but surely. Solidify who you are in your head. Because. The small stuff is just as important as the big stuff. The first thing that you can do is you can. Ask somebody to hang out that. Maybe you're not super close to, but that you want to hang out with them, but you're like, uh, but it's going to be kind of awkward because we're not that close, but I want to be close with them, but. It's just so much work to get to a point where we're going to be closed. So I just have, you know, I'm just gonna avoid hanging out with them because it's too much work. Ask that person. To lunch. To coffee. To go get your nails done with you. Ask that person to hang out. Because. You might learn wow. That was actually really pleasant, and even though it was a little bit tense in the beginning because we're not super close and there's, you know, a little bit of unfamiliarity there and it was a little bit uncomfortable. Despite all that, I was able to get through it and we were able to have a really good time. Which then proves to you that you are more socially capable than you thought. Or maybe it went terribly and you were like, you know what? This is not really the type of person that I actually get along with and. I don't think I'm gonna maybe go to lunch with somebody like this again just because. We didn't click. Now you know. Even more about what type of people you like to have in your life just from this simple. Lunch. With this. Person that you don't know very well. Another thing that you can do is force yourself to read a book, because a lot of people think. I don't have the attention span to read a book. I just don't. That's not true. If you want to read a book. You can read a book. Even if your attention span is terrible. Because listen, it's very common to have a very bad attention span. I know, trust me, mine ebbs and flows. Sometimes my attention span is amazing, and sometimes it's awful. Just depending on how much I'm using my phone and blah blah blah. Force yourself to read a book and prove to yourself that you can can control and can alter your attention span that you can push past. The boredom. To finish a book if you want to. Because no matter what you think about yourself, if you really, really dedicate yourself. To something like reading a book, you can do it. The only person getting in the way is you O. Forcing yourself. To read a book cover to cover. Will prove to you that. Your determination. Is stronger. Then your weaknesses. Your weakness being to close the *** **** book and open tick tock. You know what I mean? It feels good to know that. You're stronger than your impulses. To give up on something. Just because. Your attention span is destroyed from the Internet, which again is not your fault. We're all dealing with it. But you see what I mean. Next you could delete an app that you're addicted to because. This is a similar. Thing to reading a book where a lot of people. Say, you know, I'm addicted to take talk, I'm addicted to Instagram and I cannot stop using it, you know? And I can't delete it, because if I delete it, I'll be missing out on all this stuff. And also I don't know what I'll do without it, because I'm on it every single day and it's a part of my routine and I don't think that I could live without it. Yes, you could. Yes, you could live without it. You can. I got a comment on one of my Instagram posts the other day that said I wish I could delete Tik T.O.K like you did. But I can't and I read that comment and I wanted to respond and be like. But you can. You absolutely can. Why can't you? Because you're going to miss out on stuff and maybe you'll be bored. None of that's going to kill you. You can delete the app. You can delete the app. It's just difficult and it's uncomfortable and it's out of your comfort zone. It's uncomfortable because. There's fear. Involved, you know, what is my brain going to think about when I don't have Tik T.O.K to scroll to scroll through? You know, during my downtime? To consume my mind instead of letting it roam free. What does my brain gonna think about? That's scary. What am I going to miss out on if I'm not on Tik T.O.K or on social media? That's scary. I understand that. But challenging yourself to delete an app off your phone that's not serving you, that's not having a positive impact on you? Proves to yourself. That you have the power. Of your own life. You are in the driver seat of your own life and if something is not working for you that you have control to remove it, even if. You're addicted to it. There, it's so empowering. To. Remove something from your life that you're addicted to. Because nothing is more powerful than addiction, and I know that that's like a whole other thing. I'm talking about social media addiction specifically because. I don't like the. Addiction as a whole is a very complex subject, but when it comes to social media addiction and phone addiction. That's something that I feel comfortable talking about and that's something where. You can. Control that addiction yourself. It's not something that requires. Help from anyone else you. On your own? Can cure that addiction. And I can say. As somebody that has cured my own Internet addiction to a certain extent. That. By curing it, you proved yourself. Wow, I can fight against my own. Addictive. Impulsive thoughts. For my own long term gain, I. Have enough willpower. To do it. And that feels so good. It's so rewarding, and at first it's tough, but you end up. In a place where you feel more confident. More capable and happier as a result. Next, you could literally cook a complex recipe. Whether you succeed or fail at cooking this recipe, it doesn't matter because. It's a very low risk way to go out of your comfort zone. But doing anything that's new. Or. Challenging. We'll leave you in a better spot than you were before you tried it. You could take a class at school that intimidates you. Let's say you're really interested in biology, but you don't think that you're smart enough to take. In advanced biology class, but you've been offered a spot in the class. Take the ******* class. Worst case scenario, you have to drop the class. You're like, oh, it was too much like I couldn't handle it and it was ruining my day-to-day life and it was destroying my well-being to a point where like it wasn't worth it. Well, Lisa, you can say that you tried. And that you challenge yourself to the utmost degree. And again, that leaves you. In a better spot than if you had never tried it all. And then if all goes right and you take the class. It could be an incredible experience. Next, you could choose to have confrontational conversations in real life rather than over the phone when your friend is upsetting you instead of. Sending them this long text essay being like, here's what you did wrong, call them on the phone. Or arrange to meet up with them in person, have a conversation with them. It's so uncomfortable and it's so much easier not to. But. The result? Of having a face to face conversation. Is so much more impactful. Than sending a text essay. For infinite reasons. In conclusion. I'm just planting the seed. In myself. And in you that. Pushing yourself out of your comfort zone. Is important. And no matter what, the outcome leads to growth. And. I just think that that's. A reminder that we all need sometimes and that's all I got. Thank you for listening. I really loved hanging out with you guys today. Just discussing. Just discussing. If you want, you can subscribe to anything goes on any platform that you stream podcasts, you can leave a review on Apple Podcasts, and you can follow the Twitter at a G podcast to participate in future episodes. And also, I never mentioned this, but I do have a coffee company and if you want to check that out. The website ischamberlaincoffee.com. The Instagram is at Chamberlain Coffee. Go check it out. We have macho, we have cold brew we have. Coffee beans. We have cute Mason jars. We have cute cups. We're coming out with instant coffee. That's actually good, because a lot of times instant coffee is not so good. But we're coming out with instant coffee that's actually really good. You pour coffee into a cup or like this, powder into a cup of water, mix it up, and you have coffee. And it actually isn't awful. So that's coming out. It might already be out by the time that you hear this, and if not, it'll be out soon, so stay tuned for that. Some very excited about that. And. That's all I got. Thank you guys so much for listening. I really appreciate all of you more than you know. You guys are the freaking best. You I haven't said the word freaking since I was like maybe 16. I used to say that all the time I used to be like. Oh my God, this is so freaking awesome. I would say, Oh my God, I can't. I actually can't. I shouldn't have even brought that up because like, that's exposing myself in a way that I really can't handle. So I'm going to turn off my microphone now before I expose more about myself that I just don't want to talk about. I love you all so much. Thank you for listening and I will talk to you soon. Bye.