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Before I get into the episode, I'm gonna give you a little life update. Because, because why not? I'm trying to cuss less. I almost said. Cause **** it. Because I'm crazy and different and I cuss all the time and it makes me cool, right? But I'm trying to cuss less because. The video I just uploaded today. I'm recording this on a Sunday. The video I just uploaded today, I cussed so much in it and it like made me cringe. But I'm going to post it anyway because. Whatever. But I don't know why I cuss so much in it. For some reason, every time I do something on my computer in a video, like if I'm reacting to something or I'm doing like, my subconscious like just makes me cuss a lot and it really makes me want to just sew my mouth shut. But. It's all about muscle memory, so I'm gonna try to train myself not to cut, so I'm gonna try to not cut this whole episode. No promises. It won't probably happen. So first I want to talk about something that happened to me yesterday. So. One of the few joys I have in life is getting my nails done. Always been that way, always will be. I love getting my nails done a little Manny petty, never heard nobody. Obviously. Right now things are a little bit running, a little bit different. But. You know like due to, due to COVID but. I decided to get my nails done in a safe and respectful manner of course. So I show up to the nail salon and. I get in and I'm like, hey, can I use your guys's restroom before I start? Mind you, I had to pee so bad I had two massive cups of cold brew before I got there. I was hurting. I had to go a little bit, number #2. #2. Also, I had to, so it wasn't just number one, OK, like, I had to go and I was like, can I use your restroom before I start? Not thinking you'd be a problem. They're like, Oh no, due to COVID, we've closed our bathrooms. But sit down and I was like, oh. Ohhh. I don't know, but I was like, OK, I guess I have to. So I like rush. I pick out a color, I get acrylics, so. That's even longer of a process. I sit down. She's doing my nails. I'm squirming, I'm tense. My hand is all stiff. She's like telling me to relax my hand like I can't. I'm clenching my. Southern region. As hard as they possibly could, like, it was miserable. I was gonna get my toes done too, but by the time we were done with my nails, I was literally I couldn't stand up straight. I was in so much pain and. So I just went home. It was awful. Not to mention the lady pressured me into this, like new way of applying acrylics that, like it's some sort of polygel thing, but it's like not polygel. I don't. I don't even know what it is. And they're kind of weird, but they're also kind of, I don't know how to feel about them, but I am so easily manipulated that literally. She just was like, do you want to try this new thing? And I was like, I don't know. And then she was like, you should do it. And I was like, OK. Like, I don't know how to say no. So anyway, I'm still working on that, but whole experience was a nightmare in addition. What else has been going on with me? Oh, just drove my friend to the airport this morning at 5:00 AM. So like my brain is a little bit broken today, brain is a little bit broken, but we're still gonna record anyway cause like this is the best time to record this when my brain is like slightly broken. Yeah, just wanted to give you guys a little treat. Broken brain treat and. I drove her to the airport. I got up at 4:45. Got to her house by 5, drove her to the airport. It was super beautiful out this morning. Like fog everywhere. God, I literally love fog. Like imagine the slender man. Scene with all the fog. I love that. I love that ****. If you don't know I'm talking about just think of a lot of fog and you'll kind of get the same idea. I love fog. It was super foggy. I think it might have been because of all of the fireworks last night because it was 4th of July yesterday. They I don't know what was going on but this Scott the like sky and everything was so hazy. But it was kind of amazing and I'm listening to cigarettes after sex driving home and they're banned and I'm just. I just felt like I was being sent to a different dimension. It was. It was quite magical and different, so I just wanted to share my morning and I like watched the sun come up. God, it was really special. So that was that. That's my little life update. That's what I'm up to. Umm. But today's topic actually I want to go in with my. What? Emma. Speak normally. Thank you. So I really struggled to come up with a topic for this week. Like completely. Brain. Not work, worky brain, not worky could not come up with the topic. But then I remember that I said in last week's episode that I wanted to do a. An episode about giving advice. To guys that want, like, girl advice, right? Because you know. I'm a girl. And I know all the secrets. So I wanna, you know. Wanna give the let the boys in on the secrets, right? Like what they're missing out on what they don't know about so. I'm really excited because I've always felt like I give really good advice to my guy friends. Black. Say bless you. Thank you. I always felt like I gave really good advice to my guy friends whether it came to like dating. Although for some reason my guy friends in the past, like every guy friend I've ever had, they don't want to take my girl advice. Like, I will give them free girl advice, but I've never had a guy friend that like comfortably and openly accepted my advice about girls like. It makes them uncomfortable for some reason and I've noticed that. So this is a great opportunity for me to give advice to guys about girls that. You know, maybe guys are too nervous to ask. I know so many people make videos like this but or like podcasts or whatever. But like, I wanna take my own little special spin on it. Because I feel like I have some good insight because I am a woman, so I'm excited. I got not a lot of questions because I don't think a lot of dudes listen to this, but this is a great opportunity to send this podcast to your guy friends that either need fashion advice, girl advice, like they're just not doing it right. You can send this episode to them and be like, hey, let me help you out a little bit, you know, and. Do what you will. All right, let's get right into it. Oh my dad's calling me. Hi, actually I'm recording my podcast right now and my episode. No wait, but my episode is questions that guys have for women. If you want to send any over. Like when you were younger, like things that you worried about girls. That would be awesome. Like anything that you wondered about girls when you were younger, that you wish you would have known, and that you think I should answer. I know exactly what you're saying. Like, will a girl ever show when they like you? OK. That's a great one. Thank you so much. By. OK, great. So I don't know if you guys heard my little brief convo with my father. My dad did actually ask me a question, so this is a great start to the to the appisode my dad had little a little. He's like, you know, he's obviously. A dad now, so he I don't think he wonders this anymore, but I think. This is a question that he had when he was younger. At least that's how he phrased it. First question from CP. How do you know if a girl likes you? Because girls never show when they like a guy. Or at least they rarely ever do. So how do you know? And why do girls not show that they like you? Why are they not bold about it? This is a great question, because I in fact. Am so good. And so talented at making it seem like I don't like a guy that I like. I am the CEO of it, in fact. So to address the first part. How to know if a girl likes you? This is a very this is a question that needed to be in here. To be honest, good luck. Point blank. Good luck. It's really hard to know because I think girls are amazing. Oscar winning, Academy award-winning actors when it comes to acting like they don't like you, OK? They're going to be saying things that'll throw you off on purpose. They're going to be saying things like, hey, you should date her. To gauge like where you're at, they're gonna. Not text you for days just to like keep you wondering they're going to play the game like Girls play the game, at least most of them. I mean, for me, I actually, I think it depends on what type of guy I'm talking to. Like if I'm talking to a guy that's obviously. A little bit more of a of a player you know then you're gonna play that game, but if you're talking to like a good guy, you're not going to be playing games. That's at least my experience. But some girls are like that with any guy because they just assume every guy is a player, so they want to keep the guy guessing and they don't want the guy to get comfortable. I would say if you want to know if a girl likes you. They might be doing those little things, like they might be not texting you for a few days and then they'll randomly pop in and ask you how you're doing or they'll like. Tell you that you should date their friend or something like little things like that that seem kind of off where you're like, why are they saying that? Like, that's unnecessary to say. Like there's no reason for them to be saying that. Why would they say that? That's definitely one way to tell. And I think if a girl is like. You know, gravitating towards you. I said this in another episode about guys because I think guys do this too. But. If a. Girls kind of gravitating towards you in a public setting or in like a group setting always wants to sit next to you subconsciously. Even like, sometimes girls don't even know that they're doing that, but they'll, like, choose to sit next to you, or they want to be your partner for like, group activity or like little things like that. Like they want to be close to you. But like, even if they're acting like they don't care or that they don't want to be around you or that that was just a coincidence and like, they don't actually want to be sitting next to you, it's probably not a coincidence. It's these tiny little things. They're going to give you the tiniest of Easter eggs. And you're just gonna have to guess. I feel like girls don't feel comfortable showing that they care until you show that you care. Because a lot of girls have been played before. A lot of girls have trust issues. I don't know one girl that doesn't. And so girls have a hard time showing like, hey, I'm interested because. They've done that before and it led to them being heartbroken because they showed weakness. And it led to them being played, right. So they don't trust guys anymore. They don't trust that process anymore. They're like, I need to have my guard up to the fullest extent because. If not, I'm gonna get hurt. It's a protection thing, so that's why girls do that. Also because they think showing weakness in general is scary. Like. Girls want to seem too cool sometimes. You know, for guys, they want to seem like they don't care to seem cool. You know what I mean? I do this subconsciously and I I'm actually having to teach myself to undo it. Like to undo that part of myself, like and learn how to be like affectionate. Verbally with guys. Be like, Oh my God. Hi, you're so awesome. Like, I literally have trouble with that because of my because, you know, people have. Played me and such in the in the past and so. You know, I have to, like, relearn how to not be like that because not every guy's using you, you know what I mean? But it's hard once it happens once. To believe that it won't happen again because the thing about girls is that. When they go into their first few relationships or talking stages with guys. Girls are very, like, naive, right? And they just think, Oh my God, like, this guy's into me and he's. Definitely not just saying these sweet nothings in my ear, like he actually means the things that he's saying, like whatever. And then six months later you find out that he. Only liked you for like superficial reasons and used you for XY&Z and was saying these sweet nothings to you to get what he wanted from you and then he dropped you. And then you're like, Oh my God. You lose all hope in love in general because you're like, if somebody can fool me that well, like I'm never letting somebody fool me like that again. And then the trust issues just last for the rest of their life. So that's kind of why that happens. It's really too bad. But yeah, it's really sad and I think, I think girls can grow out of it a little bit. 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Just tap into like a cool part of your personality that you're proud of, right? I think that. Whether this sucks, it sucks to say. But, you know, personality and first impressions do make an impact. I mean, I'm not saying that, like, you can't turn it around if you **** ** the first time. Like, you can always get a second chance or usually, but I think that. Tap into your funny side. Tap into your intellectual side. Have a conversation with this person. Get kind of like distract yourself with your conversation so that you're not thinking about. How you feel about them on the outside? Because listen. Even if somebody's really attractive, there's still a normal human being and. They have a similar brain chemistry to you, probably. So, like, they're not that different from you, you know what I mean? And. There's no reason to be nervous. They're probably not thinking much about it. So just be funny. Show your smart side. And don't like, you know, close up and do a little ball. Try not to do that. Because trust me, they wanna know who you are, you know? I mean, they wanna know you, right? So don't like. Curl into yourself because you're nervous. I know it's sometimes not up to you, but try your best. To like, be outgoing as much as you can and like. Make them feel like. You want to be talking to them because I think that sometimes they can. When you're nervous or quiet, it can come off like. Oh, I don't wanna be. It makes the person think like, oh, I don't want to be talking to them, which in your case is not true. So, you know, let them know that you like to talk to them. Start a conversation about something and you can ******* do this. King, you got this. Have fun with it. And I think that if you show your personality, the more you show your personality, the more there's. A future in that. Relationship, possibly. You know, because girls love. Guys with. Personality. And even if it takes you some time to come out of your shell and show that personality, that's. Totally fine. I think just trying to get there eventually and show her who you really are. And I think she's gonna, I think she's gonna love it. So moving on. Next question. I love this so much. I love this one. Do girls actually like nice guys? OK, so this is this is a controversial question because I actually know so many girls that are only attracted to absolute ********** like I I know women like this. I know them. They exist. And that's totally fine. Whatever, girl. Enjoy it. Have fun. Do take him. Get him off the rest of our hands. OK? I but I get it, OK? I get it. I think. Like when you first start dating and you're younger, you like the ****** *** for some reason. Like, I don't know, I I went through phases like this. Like, it just happens. You wanna date the ******* or you have a crush on the *******. Like, even back in the middle school days, like, I had crushes on guys that literally bullied me because I was like. Oh my God, he's bullying me. But like, that's why I, like, want his approval, which is very bad and not the right mindset. But I'm just being honest and I'm honest on this podcast. I'm not recommending that mindset, but I'm just saying that that's the truth of the matter here. I think in the beginning, girls really, like, romanticize the ********** for sure. And they're like, well, I'm going to change him and turn him into a sweet Prince and whatever or, Oh my God, yeah, he's a ********* but he's so hot. Well, let me tell you. I remember I used to love ********** myself when I was younger. Way younger, but still. And. Here's the here's the heroes journey in my opinion, ladies. Let me know if I'm wrong. But here's what happened. Here's what I feel like happens, OK? You're younger, you grow up, and you're looking at all of your celebrity crushes are like the kind of cool jock in the movie, right? So you're kind of, like accustomed to being attracted to the ****** **** right? That's all you know, that's what you saw in movies and found attractive. So then when you start to become attracted to boys in real life, you're like, Oh my God, that's perfect. That's what I like. Just this, like, super tough guy, right? Just plain sports thrown around the the pig skin, you know? And it's a stereotype for sure. And I don't think that it's, you know, whatever. But that's like what I think a lot of girls are initially attracted to. Don't worry. I'm not. I'm. Trust me, I'm not speaking for everybody. I'm just speaking for most of my friends, if not all. And many girls that I've known in my past. Then the next step is you date one, right? You date a *********. Oh my God. Dreams are coming true. You finally get to day one. Wow. Best day ever. Yeah, he's an ******* but he's so hot. OK. Then you do that. And then you get treated kind of like ****. Or you have a crush on one. You never even date them, but you have a crush on one and they end up doing something that hurts your feelings. You might do that a few times. You might date a few **********. After that, you might be like, well, maybe that was just a bad one. But then. You're like I'm done with this? It's nice boy time. I just want a nice guy that's not gonna break. My heart's not gonna put me through emotional trauma. I just want somebody that's gonna treat me right. That's still a good looking guy. Like, OK, The thing is like. Girls will choose a guy that's like. Good looking. Well, OK, good looking. When I say this, please take this with a grain of salt. I'm talking about what you're personally attracted to. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. This is not like I'm not talking about the standards of of beauty here. I'm talking about, like, what you find attractive. Does that make sense? So. Who you think is cute so that I'm not saying, like, in the broader scheme of things, who's attractive and who isn't because that just doesn't really even exist. It's all up for interpretation. So I'm more saying, like, somebody who you find attractive, right? OK, so girls, I feel like in the beginning will choose a cute guy that's a ****** *** over a cute guy. That's really nice because they like that challenge, right? And they like the fact that it's like. You know. What's the stereotypical like? Hot *********. Like you know what I'm saying? But then eventually they're like, wait, I've been ignoring the really cute, sweet guys that are actually nice and care about my feelings and actually want to have a healthy relationship with me. And actually. Care about like. Me? And then they're like, Oh my God, what have I been doing this whole time? I love nice guys. And then they end up marrying a nice guy. So that's I think why it says why the the saying says nice guys finish last. Because yes, a lot of girls will choose a ****** ***. In the beginning. But then. Where are the ****** **** left? When it's time to get married, nobody's marrying the ****** ***. And the people who do end up marrying the *********. I'm praying for you. Alright. Because. That sucks, but. I think that. Trust me. Even though nice guys may finish last. They still cross the finish line. And they may do it in an. In a more. Amazing way. Then, then the other ones. You know what I'm saying? Like, I don't know. I don't. I don't understand why women sometimes like **********. Like. I don't get it. It doesn't make sense to me and I don't know where it stems from. I try to analyze it just now. I don't know if that's what it is. I really don't get it. But girls do usually grow out of it. Some of them don't, but most girls grow out of it and just want to. Sweet guy. It's all they want. They ******* manifest it for their whole life and wait for the nice guy to come along. That's. Their dream and finally they end up finding one. Usually, but like. You know girls, it takes them some time sometimes to figure out that that's what they want, you know? So be patient and. The the ladies will come around once they get older and get ****** over a few times. All right, next. Do girls care about acne? Personally, I don't. At all somebody who's had acne. For years. I can't imagine not liking somebody or like my opinion on somebody changing due to their acne like this is the truth. I don't. I don't care. I get it. It's out of your control. It's like. And it has nothing to do with whether or not somebody's attractive. Again, like I said earlier, like somebody's attractiveness is not. Very superficial. It's like I was thinking about this other day, actually. I was like, I wonder if like I. If something like happened to me, that made me look completely different. You know, how would that affect? Like with that effect. Things, you know what I mean? Like with like, would people not be as attracted to me? Or people who already knew me especially, like, would I like, you know, I was wondering like. How much of this is personality based? And then I thought about it and I compared it. To like my opinion. Or my view on somebody. And I was like thinking about like, OK, what if something like this happened to them or something like that. Would that change my my view on them? And I kind of switched it around, right? And I was like, no, not at all, because I don't love people for how they look on the outside. Obviously there's something to be said for physical attraction. I'm not saying that like. That. Is irrelevant because it totally is. I mean, you know, you need to be attracted to your significant other, in my opinion, at least a little bit. I mean, that's crucial because there's a whole other element if if you're not attracted to somebody, then you might as well just be friends and then have a fun friendship and call it a day. But if you're attracted to somebody, that's when it becomes a relationship, if the feeling is mutual. So obviously physical attraction is necessary, but. I think physical attraction. Is more than just like how somebody looks on the outside. It's how they carry themselves. It's. Their personality affects the way that people look. I mean, think about it, you could meet somebody and be like, oh, they're cute. And then, you know, six months into knowing them, you're like, wait, this is the hottest person I've ever met because it's more than just the way that they look. It's like they become better looking to you over time once you get to know them. And. You know who they are. It it grows overtime, so something like acne is completely irrelevant because. It's about how you carry yourself and about. You know, your personality and how you click with that person. There's nothing to be girls. I mean, if some girls might be like, you know, kind of superficial like that, those aren't girls you want to mess with anyway. **** girls that are that would think like that and be like, no, I'm not gonna date a dude that has acne. Because, like, oh, he's perfect, but he has acne. You know what I mean? That's just, I don't think that that's fair. But then again it's like to each their own, right like. Whatever. I mean, you can't control how your brain chemistry works, but I do think that. Girls usually aren't going to care about acne or about like. You know, weird things like that. Like, I feel like girls if they're in love with you in a sense. Like you can have acne, you can smell bad sometimes. You can **** your pants. You know, at a restaurant, and they're still gonna love you because they love you in a way that maybe is kind of unconditional. I think that if you're in a good relationship, your love for somebody is unconditional. This comes. This is for friendships and for relationships, so you're not judging somebody for superficial things like that. OK, so if I were to host a live radio show and I could play any music I wanted. I would honestly probably have the time of my Life OK, but I'll admit I would probably end up playing. Just sad music. I don't know what it is about me, but I love sad music, OK? And so I'd probably end up playing. A lot of sad music. Specifically for the people who are listening in the car by themselves. That want to shed a tear in a good way? Well now there is a place that I or you or anyone can host a live show. Amp is the platform that allows people to come together and create live, unfiltered radio shows with whatever music or content that they love. 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So download AMP today in the App Store that's a amp, or ask Alexa to play amp. Next to girls like it when guys make fun of them. To a certain extent, I think it can be really fun, like playful banter, you know, girls and guys going back and forth and just it's pretty and playful. Ah, you know, ah, it's a little bit of playful, just playful stuff, but I think it can be kind of like it. There's a fine line because girls are really sensitive, so, like, they will act like what you said didn't hurt them, but it probably did. So if you're like. Oh God, it looks like you. You bought your pants from *******. Children's place in the mall. Like, a girl will be like, ha, **** you. You know, your hat is from lids and like, you think it's like this funny banter, but actually the girl's gonna go home and burn those pants because you said that they're from justice, even if you're kidding and didn't mean it. So I think it's like, it's fine sometimes that I think it's just be careful and make it. Try to think about it in the sense of like. Is this girl going to get offended deep down? Is is this going to hurt her feelings? Because girls deep down really do like, you know, want to feel? Pretty or wanna feel? Cool to tip. Not even just guys, but girls. Everybody. So like and that's human in general. So when you get picked on, it can kind of like. Girls will not think it's a joke. They'll be like, Oh my God, there's a truth, there's truth in every joke. So he meant what he said. He just was saying it in a joking manner. Like now I'm offended and I need to burn my pants. Like that is how girls minds works. So I mean every year, like here and there, it can be fun. But just know that girls are probably thinking about it 10 times harder than you even would realize, and maybe just compliment her instead. But also playful fun, playful, fun banter is fun, so I think it's just. You know, it's a balance and just be careful with it because just know that girls are sensitive and if she starts to act weird afterwards, be like, hey, that was a joke. By the way, girls are so sensitive. I mean, and I am, I'm sensitive. So I'm guilty of this, and I don't know one girl who isn't like literally my friends and I will talk about like, Oh my God, so and so said this to me and like, I know it was a joke, but I'm literally taking it personally. Please help. Like, why am I taking it personally? Girls will do this. It's ******* crazy. I don't. OK. Next one. What's a good way to impress a girl while still being respectful? Great question. I love how you included the respectful part. That's really sweet and smart of you. I think if you want to impress a girl. I mean, I really think it depends on like the girl, what they think is impressive. It's obviously not going to be the same for every girl. So I'm just going to kind of speak for myself, my friends, you know, the community of women I know. I think that. When it comes to like personality wise, it's impressive when? Guys. Listen. This may sound random, but like it's very true. When guys like are interested in you and, like listen to you and want to talk to you and are like attentive with what you're saying, it is beyond impressive. And. That's something that's universal. I don't know one girl that wouldn't be impressed by that. It's like super attractive. It's really. Like, sweet, you know, like it's just great. So that's one way you can impress a girl #2 of you know how to skateboard, bring it out. I can guarantee that that will impress her. She will act like she doesn't care, but she does, and she's very impressed. Most likely. Speaking of that, any like talent that you have? You know, if you like, post it on your Instagram story or something or post it somewhere for her to see it, she's probably going to be like, that's ******* cool. Like, if you can. Crochet God, I don't know if you can crochet sweaters and you post and be like, Oh my God just crocheted the sweater like showing little talents that you have. I think girls like guys that have their own like passions and things that they're interested in, hobbies. So if you show those off, I think girls are really impressed by that when it comes to like being in a room with people if like you can. Fit into any room doesn't mean you're the most outgoing person in the room, but if you can, you know, fit into any group of people and just like. Hold your own. I think that that's really impressive and that has nothing to do with the girl. You know. It's not like the girl. The girl will just observe that and be impressed. And I think just being able to hold a conversation that's like. Smart, funny. And interesting with the girls. Impressive. I think those things are all really fun and impressive and different. Sorry, coffee break. Delicious. I literally drink coffee and this is the most basic thing I'm ever going to say, but I don't drink water when I'm dehydrated. I drink coffee and then it like makes me more dehydrated. Just thought I'd share and then I have constant headaches. He he he anyway. Oh my God, somebody ******* asked me, does size matter? You mean size of your heart? Like size of like your. You're like metaphorical heart. Yes, girls love when guys have a big heart. Because we love when guys care, you know? I hope that's what you meant. Oh, this is really. I love this. OK, so somebody said I'm not a guy, but this is a question coming from a queer girl for a straight girl to answer. Does it make you uncomfortable when a gay girl hits on you? Like, how does it make you feel? I'm so curious. It doesn't make me feel uncomfortable to be up personally. To be honest, I don't feel uncomfortable when anybody hits on me. I take it always as a compliment as long as it's, you know, respectful and. Not. Crossing any lines, right so. And I don't know if this is like the same. I I feel like this might be universal for everyone, like being hit on is a compliment. I mean, some people don't like it and it makes them uncomfortable like, regardless, but for me, I don't. I'm just like. Honored that somebody would do that. Like, I mean, I don't know if that's like. Normal, but I I think it's really. It makes me feel good, right? Like, you're like, wow, that's so sweet. So yeah, I mean, but as long as I think in any scenario, like, as long as it's respectful and you know? An innocent. I think that there's no harm in it in general and hitting on people. I just don't think that there's. I think most people are not going to get feel weird about it in general from anyone. This is broad. But yeah, me being hit on in general, always a compliment. As long as it's respectful. That's my answer. I'm getting so many. Good questions. I'm so excited. God, I just liked so many. I have so many. I'm gonna have to, like, answer these quickly so that I can get through all of them. This is so fun, OK? So apparently a lot of guys don't understand how tampons or pads work. I'm getting a lot of questions about this so I will explain to the best of my ability. As for a pad? The pad goes on your underwear, so pick your underwear if you're looking at it. Let's say you have underwear around your ankles. You're on the toilet. You're looking down. There's that little middle section. That covers your. Little vijji, OK. God, I don't think I've ever said the word vagina in any capacity on the Internet, so that was interesting, have I? Probably anyway, but. Basically, a pad sticks right there on the underwear and that little spot in the middle that goes in between the legs. And so then when you bleed on your period, the blood, instead of going into your underwear, gets caught in the pad. As for a tampon, there's a little applicator. So it's a. This made no sense to me before I got my period at 16. So literally I went 16 years without understanding how tampon worked until I finally got my period. Basically, there's this plastic applicator and inside is a tampon. So you stick the applicator inside of you that already has the tampon in it. Then you push this little button and it inserts the cotton tampon into you. And then you pull out the applicator, the plastic applicator. That probably made no sense, but you could also watch a video on YouTube and figure it out. Next, what kind of style the girls like? I mean, obviously, totally. Like, totally. You know, depending on the girl. I mean, I know some girls that like really like the whole kind of sporty guy look a lot of girls really like the more like skater boy look. Some girls like the surfer boy look. Personally, I like. When guys are like into fashion in a sense and have like. Are like in the. That whole thing, like that's my personal preference, but at the same time I think that clothes are like people's personal expression and so. Dress how you feel, makes you feel confident and comfortable. And I think that, you know, most of the time a girl is gonna be OK with that as long as you feel confident in what you're wearing and like, you know, whatever. I mean, obviously there's certain things that are a turnoff, but. I think as long as you're comfortable and. Happy in what you're wearing? Also, girls will help you out if you want some help. So like, if you're like dating a girl and you're like, God, I want to dress cooler for her, ask her be like, how could I dress cooler? Like, I really want some advice. She'll probably take you shopping and swag you out. OK, so I've told you guys about circle before, right? Spelled CIRKUL. 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Because, you know, that's something that women can't control. They're born with those things. And so if a guy just likes you for that, it seems really superficial and it doesn't seem like the guy actually likes you for you, obviously. Or the guys interested in you for you also, I think it's kind of a respect thing, I think. It's those are in the sense. Private parts. And it can feel kind of. Unnerving. It's like obviously a compliment when somebody finds you attractive, but I think that you know. Looking at somebody's ***** like I just don't. I just don't know if that's really come. Like, I think a compliment would be more to like, get to know somebody and like, find out if they're cool and then compliment their personality or their. You know, whatever. And then you can compliment their ***** maybe when you're dating them, but I think when you don't really know someone, it can be a little weird. So maybe don't do that. Moving on. A guy asked does height matter and if so, why does it matter so much? I think that girls wanna feel like. Subconsciously protected by the guy, right? Like this is obviously you know for. I don't know. That's not always true. Like, I think some girls don't care about height as much, but I think that subconsciously a lot of women are attracted to a guy that's taller than them than them. Not necessarily a guy that's super tall, but just a guy that's taller than them because it makes them feel safe with them and it makes them. You know, feel protected in a sense. And also like there's something about a girl feeling smaller next to a guy that's like, weirdly. I don't know if it's attractive. I don't really know the word to use, but I think it's kind of like, it's just nice, you know? But I think that everything is so circumstantial. And I think that if, like, there was a short guy that was maybe like a girl's height who's also short, like if, let's say a girl's 55 and a guy was 5-5 and like, they really loved each other. Like, I don't think that that would get in the way. I think it's just something that tends to be a preference. But I don't think that there's no room for exception exceptions, you know what I'm saying? Like. I think that a lot of girls, I mean it also might be an aesthetic thing for some girls. Again, like a superficial thing like ohh it looks good because the guys taller and it's like society says blah blah, but I think that don't, you know, feel discouraged because they don't think that. That's a deal breaker for most girls. I think that it's a preference for some, but I don't think that it's a deal breaker. I think that, you know, girls always have an idea of what they want in their head, and then the guy comes around and, you know, they're different than what they imagined, but they're still great, and girls will see past those things. So yeah. Guys said how to get out of the friend zone. I really think. You need to God, this is so hard. I think you honestly have a have to have a conversation because I. I I think that just like making a move can be really risky and can like make the girl you don't know if she well if you know that the girl is interested in you. Like 100%. Like you have confirmation, but you're still in the friend zone, cause that totally happens. I think you make a move as long as you're aware that she's interested and you're aware that she would be OK with that. If not, you're kind of like, I don't know if this girl likes me, be like, even as a joke. Be like, I really like you a lot. Like, you could literally make it into a joke and be like, Oh my God, I really like you. Sorry. And like, if she's like, Oh my God, that's weird because I feel the same way, ha, then amazing, make a move and then, you know, get into it and date them. Whatever. But if they're like, Oh no, then you then you handle that accordingly. But, like, somehow find out whether or not they like. I mean, you could even ask their friend. That's kind of a middle school thing to do, but. You could be like, listen, I really like this person and I am too scared to ask, like, do you think that they like me or should I just give up? I've done it. I've done it. So just, you know, and then regardless, find a way to kind of make it a little move on. Someone asked the girls really care about replying. I'm assuming that means to text, yes? Girls absolutely care about replying. I mean, you know, no girl wants to be ******* ghosted, you know? Nobody in general wants to be go said hello. So yes, definitely girls care about replying. They aren't just like, oh, it's fine. I don't care, girl. Everybody cares. Everybody cares. 99% of people care about that. Next what's the best way to pick up a girl in real life, for example, at the mall park somewhere public? With other people around. OK, so I actually heard this on another podcast. Shout out to call her daddy. It's a great podcast although. If you are young. Uh, it is very rated R, so just, you know, proceed with caution if you take that wreck, but if you're like over 18. Go check it out. It's a funny podcast. Very raunchy though, I'm warning you, but it's I love the host and she's just great. So anyway, but she was talking about how she picks up guys by writing her number. On like a napkin or a piece of paper and just handing it to them. And then walking away and then they can do what they want with it. I think that this is so ******* genius. Here's why this is genius. Number one, it, like eliminates the awkwardness. Like, there's no awkwardness now because you just handed it to them. You walked away. If they want to hit you up later or like, even come over and talk to you, great. It was kind of in their court. You shot your shot. But. It's not uncomfortable. You didn't like, get into their personal business. You didn't talk to them too much and make them kind of frustrated or annoyed if they didn't wanna have a conversation with you. And you just suddenly start talking to them like, it's like the safest bet. And it is probably the most attractive option too, because it's like, wow, kind of mysterious. Like he just gave me his number. Like, wow, that's crazy. I think that that's genius. But if you for some reason don't. Have like a piece of paper or something. I would say that you could go up to them and just give them like one compliment and just be like, wow, like I really love your outfit or while you're. Eyes are beautiful, you know, and then just walk away. And then see what happens. But like, keep it brief. I think the key is brief. Like if you can start a conversation with them and like a line at a store or something, great. But if you like, walk over and linger. That can sometimes feel kind of weird, you know what I mean? So I think keeping it brief and like, chances are like. If a girl's interested, after you do a little something like that, she's gonna be like, wait, I can't miss out on this opportunity. If they're interested, I'm gonna go over and I'm gonna talk, so I'm gonna talk to them. Whatever. Try it out. I really love the whole phone number on a piece of paper thing. I think that's ******* genius. But if that's not an option, try the other one. Yeah? Next a guy asks, is it weird to ask a girl to go shopping with you so that you can shop in the girls section comfortably? I have to get girls jeans because I'm really skinny and I like wearing girl clothes, but I'm scared of being harassed if I go by myself. That is not weird at all. That is not weird at all. And find a girl that you feel comfortable with in that. Would help you feel comfortable in that situation and ******* go for it. And I can guarantee like. Nobody's gonna like anybody. If anybody judges you for that, they're an *******. So. Do it for sure. Nothing weird about that. Next, do girls find guys who dress more feminine or that don't care as much about being manly more attractive? Personally, I think yes. I think that it's so attractive when a guy is like just doing his thing and like isn't concerned about like. The. Gender role element like and isn't so concerned about what's masculine and feminine like. Personally I love to pick up on masculine quote UN quote masculine. I mean, what even is all of that anymore? But I'm using stereotypes here. I love to wear like maybe more quote UN quote masculine outfits at times. Right. And because I feel comfortable in it and I feel like and I like the style, so why would I not ******* do that? Hello? And I think it's really cool when. Guys are just wearing things or doing things that they think are cool and aren't concerned about whether or not it makes them seem manly. My I did just did finger quotes. Umm. I think that's ******* cool. I think that that is inspiring and way more interesting. I think that's way more attractive. Some girls like a manly man, and that's, you know, to each their own. But I think that a lot of girls think that that's really cool, and a lot of people in general think that's really cool when you're just being yourself and you're not so concerned about seeming, you know? Super masculine or feminine? I think it's you do what you want to do and that shouldn't even exist or matter. Next. What's the best gift for a girlfriend? My friend wanted to ask you. We love you so much. Love you too. I think girlfriends really love stuff that's like sentimental, like something that has been discussed. But OK, so girls, OK, OK, Well, this is really good advice. Girls really like, what to know that a guy's listening, right? Girls want to think that, like, their boyfriend is interested in what they're talking about and like, cares, because girls I feel, like, tend to talk a lot and be like, you know, whatever. So. Girls want to know that, like guys care about what they say and what they have to say so. If you get her something that's like sentimental. Like, let's say you guys talked about. This one really cool jacket once, like, you like, she sent you a picture of this jacket and was like, God, this is my dream jacket. Like, I'm so obsessed with it. But it's like, I don't know, it's too expensive. I'm not gonna buy it right now. And like, months go by and like, she keeps talking about it. She's like, God, I wish I could have bought that jacket and you get her that jacket, like something like that or even something smaller. Let's say she's been talking about how she really wants. To go on a trip to. This beach town that's like an hour away, she's like, God, I really want to go down there. And then as a gift you give, you know, you pay for the trip to go with her there, like something that like, she's been talking about something that's like not just random. I think that obviously getting somebody something nice that's like random is really sweet too. And gifts in general, I mean, anybody who complains about a gift, just. Deserves to get no more gifts ever again, but like. You know, I think that something about sentimental stuff is even more important. Like, even if she was like. Talking about how, like, her home doesn't feel homey and she wants something that, like, makes her house feel. More homey. Like, let's say she just moved or something, and you get her a cute little framed photo of you guys like something like that. It doesn't need to be something extravagant, like anything that. And you know, you didn't explain, like, I wanted to get this for you because I want your place to feel more, homie. Because I care about you and I want you to feel comfortable where you live, you know? And I want you to feel safe, and I want you to feel comforted. Whatever. She's going to ******* melt. So that's that. Next. Why do girls go to the bathroom together? Girls go to the bathroom together to gossip, to hang out. It's like fun. Like, I don't think it's that deep. I mean, I do think that a lot of gossip does go on in there. A lot of gossip goes on. Girls go to the bathroom. Be like, Oh my God, did you see what? He said to me, like, I think he wants to like, kiss me later or like, Oh my God, his outfit is so cute tonight. He looks so cool. God, his hair looks so good. Or like, Oh my God, Becky was being such a ***** out there. I can't believe she would act like that. That's what's going on in the bathroom along with. Fixing makeup, peeing. Pooping the whole 9 yards. Yes, women do poop. It's crazy and mind-blowing. Sorry ladies, didn't mean to expose us like that. Alright, next a guy asked why do girls constantly change their look? Whether it's clothes, hair or anything? I think girls like to well, I mean, this is, you know. This is for a specific genre of person. Not every girl does this, but I think there's something so exciting about changing how you look and like, changing things up. I mean, I know I look different every month. I swear to God. Like right now I'm blonde. Who knows what I'll be next month, but. I think it's like fun to switch it up and kind of try something new because I think girls get bored with how they look. I mean guys too, but I think guys changed their look up a little bit less like stereotypically. I mean, again, everybody's so different, but so situational. But I think it's fun to change things up and like, see how you look. With like different hair, different style of makeup, to like, see and find your own personal style and what you think makes you feel the most confident. I think when a girl's like, I'm not really feeling really confident like how I'm looking right now, they tend to change something to see if it will maybe fit them better and make them feel more of themselves. And I think that's why girls do that. Somebody wants me to explain how bad periods really suck. I just actually got off my period. I'm, I'm in the process of getting off my period right now and I just had probably the worst. In my life. Umm. For example, I was bleeding so much that I was bleeding through the largest size of a tampon. In 20 minutes. It was ruining my and it would bleed through everything. It would bleed into my pants just just ruin my jeans that I love so much. I'm actually at one point I was wearing shorts and I got blood on the ground because it bled through everything onto the ground. Uh, so but in addition to the. Uncontrollable amounts of bleeding that can happen, you also feel. Constantly full, like you just ate a full meal. Like you feel that discomfort, like bloating, feeling all the time, even when you're not full. So that's awful. You get headaches. You feel like angry. You just wake up angry. You angry. You wake up in a rage. Sometimes you just want to punch somebody for no reason. You also feel really sad. You feel really sad and you feel like everybody's turning on you and your brain basically feels like. Broken like you're mad at everybody. You're upset about everything. It's like. The combination of like every bad sensation all together at once and it's ******* miserable. Thank God it's only one week out of the month. I don't know if I could survive it. Anymore than that. Somebody asked what's a boys fashion turnoff for girls for me? I really don't like. I don't like the preppy look very much. Like, the whole, like, you know, frat boy kind of look. It's just not for me. I mean, honestly. A turnoff for me, I think. Not even a turn off. But obviously, like, if there's like, no sense of style at all, it's not necessarily a turnoff. But I'm just like. I wanna help you. You know, like if there's no sense of like. Like artistic, I just like love. Like the. The beauty of clothes and fashion, and I'm so passionate about it that when a guy like doesn't care it, it doesn't. It's not a turnoff, but it's like, I want to share that joy with them. So, like, if they don't already have that excitement about it, I would hope to teach them and if not, then whatever. It's not like a deal breaker. But I do think that, like when a guy is really good style and like is into, you know? Fashion and even like runway stuff and like, likes to watch runway shows. Like, I like that. Like, I think that's really cool when guys are into fashion and the more artistic sense, I think that's really ******* cool. But that is also just me. Some girls don't give a **** about that, so that's just a turn on for me. But. Turn on. God, I sound like a *******. That's just such a cringy term. Yeah. That is such a cringy term. Somebody asked what are your thoughts on toxic masculinity and the patriarchy actually to look at what patriarchy meant, I am not very smart. From what I understand, patriarchy is like basically the ideal ideology that men are the head of the household. I'll start with toxic masculinity. So. I mean, I just for me personally, I always have wanted to be a space for guys. To just be themselves if they want to, you know, dress however they want to dress. And. If they're, you know, quote UN quote feminine in some ways like I want to be a safe place for the for people who want to show those sides of themselves because I think that not every you know. I don't know if everybody, like some people, you know, expect men to be very manly. I just have never believed in that. And I think growing up with a creative dad, I. Who? You know him being an artist, he has some like. What? You know, stereotypical feminine traits. Like what? You know, being really sensitive can be considered feminine. I don't believe in all of this stuff. I just think it's all stupid and fooey. I just don't think it even matters. But I'm discussing it because it does exist, you know what I mean? Like, people do think like this, so I'm I'm saying that I don't, but I it does exist. I just think that like, it doesn't matter. Like I think that. Guys should feel safe to cry. I feel like guys should feel safe to be upset or to talk about their feelings. Like, I just think that all that is so important and so. Necessary and I would never, ever like. I just. It makes me so sad that some guys don't feel safe to show that sides of that side of themselves. Actually, I find it to be really attractive when a guy can open up about their feelings and can cry and like all those things, I think that that's so raw and special and I like. I think it's a really beautiful thing. And along with also anybody else like, I like when people are really vulnerable with me and I like seeing vulnerable sides of people, and I like being like, a safe, nonjudgmental place for people to. Be that and do their thing so that they feel understood and they don't feel judged and they're being their true selves and they don't feel. Like they need to be any certain way or fit into any society standards. So I really hate toxic masculinity. I think it's really, I think it's slowly but surely I think that people are starting to become, it's starting to become less of a thing, like not less of a thing like of course everything, you know, whatever. But I think that. A lot more. I think it's starting to like fade away and a lot like I think that it's disappearing in in. A lot of guys are. Pushing through that and not. You know what I'm saying? And then As for patriarchy, I mean, I just grew up in a house where, like, that was just not the way that it worked. I mean, well, my parents were divorced, so I didn't have, like, when I was at my mom's house, my mom was like the head of the house. When I was at my dad's house my dad was at, I had the house. And even when we all lived together, like, it was always like an equal split of everything. And it was never like, you know, my parents. Split things financially and like. You know, my mom never leaned on my dad. My mom had a job and my mom, you know, my dad would do the dishes and do the chores. Like, there was not really that stereotypical thing. So I never really grew up around that type of situation. I don't believe in it. I think like. You know, we're at a place now where relationships and households, you know. I think everybody does their part, you know and like and whether it doesn't need to be like everybody has their set rules or their set, whatever, I think that. You know. We're in such a different time now where there doesn't need to be that structure, like sometimes the the woman is gonna financially carry the house, like she's gonna pay for everything and you know, the man is going to be. Maybe more the one that does the stereotypical woman thing, like take the kids to school or do the dishes or cook like. I just don't think that there's any need for that structure. I think it's whatever works for the two people and their family and whatever system works best. There doesn't need to be rules like it's existing. It's simply existing in making existence work best for everybody involved. There doesn't need to be these rules, you know what I mean? I just think that it's dumb. That's my opinion. Whatever. So yeah. Next Emma, is it OK to fart on the first date and Emma when you find the right one? How long do you wait to burp out loud in fart in front of the boyfriend? Great question. I would not fart on the first date. I just wouldn't. I mean, if it happens, yeah, what are you gonna do? But I would avoid it just because I think it's gonna. There's no way it's not gonna be awkward, so maybe just avoid that one. But As for how long do I wait to fart or burp in front of boyfriend? I never fart in front of people if I have the choice. Which is funny, which is funny, which is very ironic because I will literally fart in my videos and burp in my videos fully, but in front of people. No, I don't want to do it. I don't want to. I mean, like there's maybe like my parents or something to share, but like, I just don't like farting, and while my friends do, I burp actually more in front of people. That doesn't bother me, but farting I avoid at all costs. For so many reasons, but I do think that like once you get to like. You know, once you're like a year in, like, **** it. I think you're just kind of like over it. Like all walls are down. Like there's no way to hide a fart at that point. Like, it's just gonna happen. But personally, I I'd wait. I'll wait as long as possible. Burping, though, I mean, I'll probably do that immediately just because it's not up to me. Like if you burp like. What are you gonna do? Next are girls insecure when boys, like other girls, pose? I think definitely. I mean, I think it depends like. You know, if like a guy is like liking really hot photos of girls, I think girls can definitely feel a little bit insecure because they're like, Oh well, my boyfriend likes this photo of this girl who looks so beautiful in this bathing suit. And. I'm a little bit jealous. I think that's really normal. But I also think that that's something that a lot of people grow out of, you know? Like, I think that at a certain point you realize, like, just because he's liking this photo doesn't mean that he's going to cheat on me with her, doesn't mean that he's going to, you know, like doesn't mean that he doesn't care about me. I do think that it makes girls uncomfortable, though, so I don't know. I mean. I don't really know about my standing is on that. Like how? Like what? The protocol is like our guys not supposed to like photos then of girls like, I mean, no, that's not fair. Maybe it's just like about the content of the photo. Like if it's a full *** pic, like, you know, maybe the girl's going to get mad. But if it's like a regular photo of a girl just smiling with her ******* dog, like, that's a little bit out of control. But I think if it's like. You know, I don't know, but I mean, then again, who? I don't know. Let me know what you guys think about that. Next. I feel like girls always move on quicker than boys. I do not think that this is true. I always thought that guys moved on quicker so this just like made me feel really good. I OK. I don't think that that's. I just simply don't think that that's true. I think that it's very situational and I think that girls and guys. It it is not, it has nothing to do with like. I don't know. I think that girls take longer to get over guys like. I know girls that are hung up on guys from years ago, but I also know guys that are hung up on girls from years ago. I think it's just normal to be hung up on people after you break up. In general, I don't think that there's any like. I think it's so normal and I think that everybody does that. Next thoughts on waiting until marriage. It's none of my business. What other people do? Like, you know what I mean. I actually used to really think it was so interesting because I did not grow up religious, so I never understood, like, you know, why somebody would wait until marriage. Like, I just didn't get it. But then as I grew up in, like. Thought about it more. I was like, wait a minute. It's none of my business. It is none of my business what somebody else wants to do with their *******. Like relationship life like that has nothing to do with me. I mean, if it does it kind of blow my mind a little bit, like, does the concept of it kind of blow my mind? Yes. I don't know that that is like. You know, I don't know. I wonder what that would be like, you know, because I don't know. But, and I don't know anybody personally who's who made that decision and I think that would be really interesting. I mean I'm definitely like, you know, I am interested in like what that would be like but at the same time. That's also none of my business and I. Think that if that's what somebody wants to do, you know, whether it's for religious reasons or it's just for like. You know, they don't feel comfortable with being intimate with somebody unless they're in a committed relationship because. They don't want to get ****** over or whatever. Like that is. Absolutely. That individual's choice. And it is not my place or anybody else's place to judge that. So I don't know, but I am really fascinated by it. I do wonder like you know. Would it be weird like OK? I'm not gonna get into this. Because I don't know how to get into this without it being really an uncomfortable conversation. I just. I'm so. Curious about it and like. Is it weird that, like, I don't know, I'm really, I'm super. I'm not really educated on that topic, so I will. Uh, maybe I'll watch some YouTube videos about it or something like what that's like. Next question, what types of dates do I go on? Well, I don't really go on. I don't. I'm gonna rephrase this question for you and say what types of dates would you like to go on or what types of dates do girls like to go on? Well, I'll give you guys, give you give the boys, give me the book, give the boys some date ideas to bring the ladies out. Girls love cute **** for one. Not me though. For some reason, like I like if I'm. I'm gonna like hit both sides here. Like there's, I think there's many different types of girls. Some girls I think get cringed out by like cute **** like. Picnics or like. You know, like some girls do get cringed out by that. But I mean, they're not gonna they're not gonna hate it if you did it. I don't think any girl, actually. That's a good point. I think girls maybe get cringed out by the idea of it, but then, like, if a guy did it for them, they would ******* melt regardless. So I don't think that that is true. So I mean. I know that my, uh, my friends actually did this date once and it was really cute. They drove to the beach and then they set up. Their back seat, they put down the seats in their back seat and then they laid out a blanket and they ate food in the back seat and just talked. By the beach. I think that's like during sunset time. That's really cute. Or just go to the beach. In general, I think the beach is just a fun place to go. Get in the ocean, you know, together, enjoy it, have fun, be yourself at the beach together. I think that's always really fun if you don't have a beach available. I think I hate the idea of going to the movies for a date. I mean, watching a movie with somebody once you kind of already know them, that's great, because. You know, like, whatever, you already know them. But I think, like for the first few dates, like do things to get to know the person, because if you just sit there and watch a movie The whole time, just awkward and then it's like, yeah, I don't know, it's awkward. I think getting food with somebody's really fun, I actually really like going on drives with people, like driving around late at night with people. I know that's not really a day, but like, I ******* love that. Like I could, because I feel like the talks that you have with people when you're in the car are so. Easy, because you don't have to make eye contact. You're just kind of like sitting next to each other and like enjoying the nighttime vibes and just talking. I think that's really fun. I love that. Also, you could. You could go to a nice restaurant, you guys could cook together. I think that's really fun. You could just hang out. And like. Talk. I don't know. I really like simple things like that. I don't think it needs to be so complicated. She's somebody who really likes activities. You could go do an activity with her, you know, you could. I don't know, go to a ******* pottery. One of those things you paint pottery? God, that actually sounds really fun. I haven't done that since I was younger. Hmm, maybe I'll do that. By myself, I wonder if those things, those things probably aren't open right now. I shouldn't be. Yeah, won't be doing that. Do girls like it when guys get dressed up just to take an Instagram photo too? Yes. God, what a dream. What a dream. What a dream would it be to be dating somebody that also likes to get dressed up just to take an Instagram photo just to take off everything that you had put on? That is a dream. Because I hate that I do that. And to have some company in my misery would be absolutely beautiful. So I think that's amazing. And I think I think girls probably like it because girls do that. And so that's something to bond over. You guys can go take photos of each other. Although if I'm like, if I like a guy even remotely, there is just no way that they're taking a photo of me and I'm gonna pose for them. Sorry, it's just not going to happen, but you know, whatever. Somebody asked. Do I need a drink and smoke to talk to a girl? No. No. Even if you feel like you know. Being under the influence helps. You don't need to and you shouldn't. I mean, if you're 21 and like you enjoy a little a little buzzed evening. And you're being responsible and you're drinking responsibly. And you wanna be. And you think being buzzed helps you talk to like people. I mean, there's no harm in that as long as you're not out of control and doing things that are dumb. But I also think that you should before you do that, you should be comfortable with. Doing those things sober, you know, and then of course, like if you're into those things and you're responsible about it and you're whatever. And you're like of age. I don't see a problem in, you know, enjoying those things with your significant other as long as you're doing it responsibly. And you know what I'm saying so because I think it can be fun, you know, from what I've heard. Next, I've been talking to this girl for about five months now. We've confessed her feelings and I don't know how to ask her out. Just ******* do it. If you have the go ahead from her. She's waiting, honey. She has been waiting. She's ******* marking the calendar, putting little tally marks on her wall behind her. *******. Headboard on her bed like she is waiting. She's been waiting every day. She wakes up every day thinking you're gonna ask her out. Just get it over with. Like, get it over with. She's going to say yes. If you've already confessed your feelings, you're totally in the clear. Just be like, listen, we've been talking for so long, like, it's just dumb for us not to ******* make this **** official. Let's make it official. Love you, babe, you know? Get into it. A guy said we prefer if girls text 1st and initiate the convo. I actually agree that I think it's important for both guys and girls to be initiating and showing. You know, putting an effort and talking like starting conversations first. I don't think that anybody should be doing it first, like I think it should be equal, although I do think that. Like nobody should be carrying more weight than the other. Although I'm really bad at texting first because I get like a full panic attack when I text first, so. That's is a disease that I have. Next why do girls? Why don't girls like having deep convos about life, the future, conspiracies, the universe, etcetera? I don't know what girls are talking to, but like I feel like most girls are very into talking about that stuff. That's like one of the most. Those are like, I love talking about those things. I mean, not to be ******* cliche or whatever, but I I think those things are. I mean, I think a lot of girls like to talk about, you know, insignificant stuff, too, because it's just fun. But. I don't know, maybe she doesn't want to open up to you because she doesn't like feel like. She feels like you might judge her or something. Maybe you could start a conversation about that stuff. But she also just might not care about those things, so I don't know. But I think that those girls do exist. So you could find 1. I'm not sporty. Does that turn girls off? No, you don't need to be ******* sporty. Like it. There's so many stereotypes that I think. Are really toxic and unnecessary, like. It doesn't matter if you play sports. I mean, obviously some girls are like they have their own preferences and whatever, but there's also girls that probably would prefer a guy that doesn't play sports. So just find somebody who likes you for you. Hey, I'm I love the podcast. Me and my girlfriend have been dating for three months and we still haven't kissed. Is that OK? I just don't want to push anything. Or should I just full send it? Hope you're having a great day. Thank you. Oh my God, the profile picture is of him and his girlfriend. This is the ******* cutest thing I've ever seen. You guys are very cute together. OK. If you feel ready and you feel like she's ready and she's your girlfriend, I would say. You could maybe have, like, a kind of a joking conversation about it, like, I always approach things with jokes. Is that good? No, but it is safe. It's a safe option to be like, what if we just, what if you were just like, literally, you're like. God like I. I care about you so much in the OR. No, that's not that's not funny. What, that was like deep? No, you could just be like. God, I wanna kiss you so bad. Ha ha. Like, literally say it in that exact tone and then if she's like. Wait, same. Then you're like, alright, word. And then you just lean in and get the first one over with and then after that it'll be fun. I think you send it if you feel like you're ready and you feel like she's ready and you guys kind of like, you know? Get on the same page about that. ******* send it. Yeah, I mean, if you're dating and you've been dating for three months, I think you're probably ready. Do girls want to have space when they're on their period? No, I actually feel like I want more attention when I'm on my. But because I'm like, I feel like everybody hates me when I'm on my period. So I'm like, Oh my God, they hate me. So I like, need extra love and affection and I need a lot of attention and but I'm never gonna ask for it. So everybody's just going to have to like, guess that that's what I need. Isn't that amazing how that works? Somebody said my boyfriend wants to know if girls have ever tried peeing standing up. I have multiple times. Peed in the urinal and in a toilet standing up? It was hilarious and very fun. I would recommend something to do with your girlfriends. You know, during one of those girls trips to the bathroom that everybody has. That's when you should try it. So, like, you know how like all the girls go to the bathroom? That's when you should try peeing standing up. Try not to get on your pants, because you probably have to go back out to wherever you are with the party, to the restaurant, whatever. Yeah, give it a go. Give it a go. Let me know. You think, ladies. I think we're done everybody. This was a nice and long episode. I hope you guys enjoyed two my boys that are listening to this. I hope that this helped. Listen. I'm no pro, alright? But I thought that this was really fun. This overall topic is a little bit cringy and I'm probably going to cry myself to sleep now. Because I just gave. Boy or girl advice to guys. And there's something about that makes me want to cringe really bad. But regardless, I really enjoyed recording it. I had fun giving you advice. I always do. I love you all so much and I appreciate you guys coming back every single week and listening to me if that's something that you do. And I hope you're having an amazing day and I hope you have an amazing week. I'll see you guys next week. You're all awesome. Be yourself ******* full send it and tell your crush that you like him this week. God, follow your dreams, alright? I love you all. So much peace and love and I'm outta here. We're here with Phil talking about what's new with heart Nissan. Phil. What are some good reasons somebody should buy now? That's a great question. We all know that car shopping give me an overwhelming process. Plus people are uncertain about a lot these days. 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