Emma prefers to share her thoughts with a microphone rather than a physical human being, so thank god she has a podcast. Recorded from the comfort of her bed, Emma talks at length about whatever is on her mind every week. Anything really does go on this podcast. Sometimes philosophy, sometimes a random story from 10 years ago, sometimes advice, and sometimes nothing at all. You never know what you are going to get, but that’s what keeps it interesting. New episodes every Thursday.
Thu, 06 Aug 2020 10:00
Emma’s been off her phone for a while and feeling GREAT. Why it’s really helped with her anxiety and how it may help us all, too. Plus, insights into a new project (or two!) she’s working on, thoughts on TikTok potentially shutting down, how to deal with cheaters in relationships, and the three celebrities she’d want to be stranded on an island with. And is the blonde hair here to stay?? To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: https://www.audacyinc.com/privacy-policy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit https://podcastchoices.com/adchoices
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I'm actually in a really good headspace right now. Oh my God. What? Like what the ****? Is going on. Emma's not. Recording the day after a full panic attack like this is insane. My anxiety has been great. I've been doing really good. And I actually think I know why. And so I'm gonna get into that in today's episode. Just kind of this journey I've had over the past week that's ended up leading me to less anxiety, so. I'll get into that later, but first I want to talk about a dream I had last night because I think it's ******* funny, so. Basically last I've been having vivid dreams, OK, I don't know what it means. And there's like specific people in it every time. They're not reoccurring dreams, but it's like. It's weird. I'm not one to remember my dreams, but recently I've been having them all the time and there's actually a study that came out that said that. Nobody cares about your dreams. Like biologically. Like our brains cannot get excited about a dream because it didn't really happen. So like, your brain literally cannot care about dreams. So I'm not going to like, tell you about my dreams because. Literally, science told me that no one cares about them. I mean, it's kind of true. Like, I feel like if somebody tells me their dream, like, what do I do with that? At all. It didn't actually happen. And I didn't experience it. So how am I supposed to care about it? Anyway. That's really true, but. I did have a dream last night that I got cheated on. And I've never had a dream like that. And I woke up this morning. And I was ******* livid. I was livid. About it. And I literally texted this person and I was like, you cheated on me in my dream. And like, I'm actually mad at you a little bit, because the thing that's crazy about it is that I had to like, see the whole thing in my dream, but yet it like didn't actually happen, but it still traumatized me. So anyway, I genuinely was angry at this person for probably like 5 minutes, but like I once I woke up, I was literally mad. Like, as if they had done it and it took me a second to realize, oh wait, they didn't actually do it. Do that. So anyway, I don't know why that is, but like I'm I'm still like. It's weird. I would dreams if something ****** ** happens. Like, yes, it was a dream and all, but you feel that emotion still. It it almost shows you what it would feel like if that actually happened. You know? Like in my dream I was like ******* screaming and so mad. And it was like, I actually lived that. Like, I I didn't, but like I did, you know? So it's weird. It's weird when that happens. But anyway, I've had so many dreams like that. Like people. You know, getting hurt or me getting hurt or something. And then, like the next morning I'm ******* a wreck because I just lived that, but no one else did, and you're just, like, in your own thing. Speaking of dreaming, I've been seeing all these tick tocks about all this stuff about dreaming with other people, and now you can, like, enter the astral plane and, like, join other dreams with other people. I don't know what the **** that means, but basically some people say that you can meet up with other people in your dreams. Anyway, I hope I didn't accidentally meet up with the person who cheated on me in my dream. On the astral plane, I really am praying that that didn't happen. But anyway, I think that you have to set that up or something to make that happen. So I'm I'm feeling pretty hopeful that this was just my own imagination. Still angry about it, though. OK, so moving on. Two other things. So basically. I. Have barely been on my phone for the past week. And it's just because I was really busy and I think I hadn't been busy in a really long time because, you know, quarantine or locked in. I mean, 90% of the time I'm at home, you know what I mean? So I have a lot of time to go on my phone and there's only so many things you can do in a day. I'm, you know, I try to workout, try to cook here and there, you know, whatever, but then like. At a certain point I'm I'm laying in bed on Tik T.O.K on my heating pad like that's my resting position at all times, so been on my phone a lot, but things are kind of starting to pick back up. And so I've actually been busy, for example. It was my friend's birthday, Olivia, my friend Olivia's birthday. She turned 21, wooo, and so we did little activities for her birthday and stuff like that, which was really great. Super distracting, wasn't on my phone the whole time. And then after that I did a shoot for three days. Each day was like. 10 to 12 hours for this little project thing that I'm doing. I can't. I don't know if I'm allowed to talk about it. You guys will see it eventually. It's not. I hate when people are like, oh, I did this project, but I mean, I did so whatever. But I was on this set. It's not a movie. OK, that's a spoiler. I did not do a movie. I will. And I will never do a movie. Ever. So anyway, I was on the set for literally 10 to 12 hours a day, so I was not. On my phone, like, I literally couldn't be on my phone. Like I had no breaks. Like, I mean, I'd have little breaks, but I mean, I was like focusing on eating. Drinking my coffee and like talking to my parents or my friends. Like I wasn't going on social media, so I barely went. On social media at all for for about 5 days and when I tell you guys. That I've never felt better. It is not an understatement, like I truly have never felt better. I. I didn't realize it until today when? I was like, done shooting and, like, today I'm like, I have kind of a free day so I can do whatever I want. Like my anxiety is just down. Like, I have no anxiety right now. I mean, obviously anxiety is always kind of in the back of my throat in a way that's just like how life is. But it's barely there. I'm barely anxious. I feel so calm, like, you know when you're anxious and your chest feels all tight and like your body feels all tight and whatever that is gone for me and I almost live in that state. Constantly. I'm. I'm almost always anxious, so to feel none of it is insane. And honestly, I think it's because I haven't been going on my ******* phone. I mean, don't get me wrong, I'm texting people, calling people. I'm watching cooking videos and stuff like that, but I'm not going on Twitter and I'm not going on Instagram and it's been really, really amazing. I mean, seriously, and this, I think that this was a huge learning lesson, not to mention even before this kind of week of. No phone. I was also like, I started going to the beach a lot more and like, you know, swimming in the ocean a lot more. And. Honestly, like what it's done for me, as I mean. It's been so amazing. I really, really encourage you guys to do something. Don't go on your phone for a little bit. I I normally, I know people say that all the time and I get it, but I just feel so passionate about it right now because I just. Got off of a week of like, barely going on it and now now I don't even want to go on it anymore. I mean, I definitely have a severe addiction to my phone, don't get me wrong like I do, but. I feel like I kind of broke it this week, and I also realized that. Everything that goes on on the Internet, yes, don't get me wrong, like. It is a part of my life and everybody's life and it definitely is in a sense real life, but it also. Is not as. It's not as big of a deal as it seems when you're on it all the time. I just. Got this feeling in my head that like. The Internet was like. The end all be all like this is like everything that happens on the Internet is a big deal. Everything that somebody says about me is a big deal. It's so easy to fall into that when you're on it all the time and you don't have a life outside of it. But like the life that we all could have and can have and do have outside of our phones is actually so much better. And it really. Helps. And then when you have to go back on your phone, you're in such a stronger mindset to deal with it, deal with all of the punches that are thrown at you. And so I don't know. I mean, I know that. This is white noise. People ******* say this all the time. Like. My parents are always like, am I swear to God, you're anxiety would be so much better if you just. Got off your phone and. I would listen to them, but I was also like. I do what I like, you know what I mean? So then. I just like, wouldn't. I mean, I would listen, but I like. I wouldn't put it into action. Like, I would always be like, I would almost kind of not humor them because that's kind of like, not what I'm that's not what I'm saying, but I would. I wouldn't do it. I'd be like, yeah, you're right. But then I wouldn't do it. Well, now I'm like, **** that. I'm not gonna go on my phone as much anymore, like permanently. It's almost like. Changing an element of your lifestyle if you're like. OK, I'm going to start. I'm gonna start exercising a little bit more. And that's a goal for you, right? Because that's something that you know will make you feel really good and it will keep you healthy and happy, etcetera. And then it becomes a goal for you. My new goal like that is getting the **** *** my phone and not going on it as much. I don't want to read through things anymore. I don't want to read through Twitter. I don't want to go on Tik T.O.K and read through comments like I don't want to see that right now. Because that **** makes me really anxious. And so I'm ready to just kind of like enjoy social media, the good parts of it, which is posting, seeing a few nice comments here and there, seeing a few nice tweets and stuff like that, and then going off of it. And I know that that may seem like. Not smart. For me, it's like, oh, I'm a you. You know, social media is like what you do or whatever. I don't care. Like this **** is not good for my brain. And when I'm not on it, I'm a lot better of a person and. My whole entire life is gonna improve from that so. That's that. Also working is going to be easier for me. Like, you know, if I'm going on my phone all the time, I I just get so drained mentally that when it's time to, like, turn on a camera, I'm just, like, bummed because I've been on my phone too much and I'm thinking about **** too much and I start to forget about what's really important, which is like. You know, loving people and like being passionate about what I do in life. You know what I mean? And that's it. So. Ah, yeah. Done with that topic, but just had to share. OK, so I've told you guys about circle before, right? Spelled CIRKUL. 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When I'm in front of a camera, you know what I mean? I can't be in front of a camera for a really long time and that's something that I did this past few days and like, I just get burnt out for some reason. Which is why I think YouTube is so perfect for me, because I just can't. Like, I it's up to me, you know, on my own director of my own producer and on my own videographer. So, like, it's all up to me. And, like, I get to choose, like, you know what? I'm kind of tired right now. I'm going to film in an hour. Like, there's so much flexibility in that. And. When you're an actor, there's none of it. So, like, I learned that **** real quick. I mean, don't get me wrong, I love filming this project and I'm really excited about it. But I also now know that I will never be an actor. So if any of you guys were, you know, wondering, oh, I wonder if Emma's ever going to try to be an actor. I know I've said multiple times before that I would never do that, but now you know for sure it is not going to happen and I never would. So yeah. Another thing I want to talk about is Tik T.O.K shutting down. So apparently Tik T.O.K shutting down. Here's my thoughts. Listen. I feel this. I'm very mixed. I've mixed emotions on this topic. Here's the thing like. I like to talk a lot. I go on it a lot. And. I don't feel like it's the most negative platform. Like I think it's usually kind of fun. I I don't it doesn't like, OK, so like Twitter and Instagram can be pretty toxic. I would say they can get toxic pretty quick. But Tik T.O.K not as much for me because I'm just scrolling through my for you page and like watching videos that are. Random and weird and like. I love watching all the cooking tick tocks and all that. So I feel like I use Tik T.O.K as more of an entertainment platform. So I don't like meaning for me. Like I use that platform as a viewer more than I I don't really use it as a poster as much. I mean, don't get me wrong, I post take talks here and there, but like it's not something that I. Am super. Concerned with all the time. Like, it's not like, ohh, I need a bus to Tik T.O.K soon because I haven't been on there in a while. It's like, not like that. I just follow my gut with that. I'm like, I don't care, you know? So there's no pressure and I use it as entertainment for myself because I like watching them. I'm sad to see like all the cooking, tik tokers. Go. But I also think that they will be on YouTube and I can just watch them there. You know what I mean? Most of the stuff that I enjoy watching on there could easily be on YouTube. So I think that my entertainment will continue from those people that I love so much. When it comes to like all the funny **** I'm going to be sad because it is funny. Like I definitely get some good laughs out of it. I mean, I will belly laugh out of ******* tik T.O.K and that brings me joy for sure. So that's kind of sad, but I mean. I also think that. It's. Not good for my attention span because everything about it moves so fast that. I feel like my attention spans awful now. , so there's that. So I mean. I'm not super heartbroken about it going, but also like. If it stays, I'm gonna be kind of happy, you know what I mean? But if it went, I would also be OK. Like, I'm not super sad about it, but I just think it's crazy. How like. There's so many parallels with the Vine era and the tick tock era. I mean, it was like with Vine, it was the exact same thing. It was like a bunch of people blew up on vine then, like, you know, there was a bunch of groups that were made. There was houses that were made XY and Z and then, you know. It shut down and then everybody went to YouTube and then. That was fun. There's beef. There was everything it was. It was a time to be alive. And then that all kind of chilled out a little bit. And then tick Tock came along, and it's just like the new generation of that. And it's just crazy to see history repeat itself. So I wouldn't be surprised if there was a new Tik T.O.K that's even better in, say, five years. I mean, I wouldn't be surprised if something new happened. Or if somebody made like some company made like a new Tik T.O.K. I don't know. I mean, we'll see. I guess it's kind of scary. Like, I guess they're stealing our information or something, but literally the only thing that you can steal from me is ******* photos of my camera roll, of me crying all the time, although I haven't cried in a while. Except for happy tears. Randomly. I never used to cry when I was happy, but the other day I was like talking to my parents about something. And I was like, so happy about it. I started crying and I was like, Emma, what the **** are you doing? Like hello? You don't show emotion or weakness. What are you doing right now? I only show emotion or weakness when I'm sad. But like me, showing emotion or weakness about something that I'm happy about couldn't be me. I don't know what I'm going through, but I literally like. Never. Ever. Cry about something I'm happy about like that, just I honestly hate showing. Weakness and I feel like being happy about something is being weak, which is not true at all. So please don't think that that's advice like that is not true, but my brain is weirdly wired like that I feel like. Being excited or happy about something makes me weak, so that's just something I need to work on. With the therapist I don't have because that's not good. Like. When I'm happy about something or excited about something, I should be able to ******* cry about it and scream about it as much as I want and I should be. Happy that I'm feeling that way, but yet I literally will cry of happiness about something and be like. You're a little ***** to myself in the mirror. I will go to the mirror and bang on it and pound on it and be like you are a little *****. Grow up. But. Maybe that means that things aren't so bad after all. I feel like. This year started out for me really ******. But. And there was a lot of ****** moments throughout it, too. But. I also think that. This was probably one of the most transformative years of my life. And I think a lot of you can probably say the same. It was one of the weirdest years ever. And you know, things will go back to normal eventually and we will all be OK, but. I don't know it's interesting how like. Crazy this year has been and I like me, like crying about being happy is like a very new thing. You know. That's weird, but I'm very happy about it. I'm very happy about it. I also am on my period right now. I OK I was having this problem where I was getting my period twice a month. And it's finally settled down. I think it's because I'm off Accutane now. And so now I have regular periods, but it's back. So you guys probably haven't heard me talk about my period in a while. It's because it's back to normal, but but. But it's here now, so got the cramps going on and I'm going to the beach today and I'm like bleeding and I'm like, how the **** do I handle this? Do I like, what do I? OK POV for a second. A little POV here POV. I'm at the beach, I'm wearing a bathing suit, I'm running into the ocean and my tampon string falls out. Honestly, POV what do I do? I'm kind of anxious about it, but. I need to get in the ocean because it makes me feel good. Even though it's freezing here, which I didn't. Realize like last year I went to the beach a bunch of times and it wasn't that cold, but for some reason I'm literally in a lot of pain. When I go in now, I don't know why that is. I don't know if the oceans colder randomly this year or something. Does that happen? Guys, I'm not that smart. I mean I am OK smart but not really a very smart always. So yeah. Anyway, I think I'm done talking about this. Things that I had planned in my head. I kind of feel like. I am easing into this podcast in a sense where I. You know, don't get me wrong if like a topic comes up that's pressing for me. I will address it, but I think that. Sorry, I'm putting my blanket on, but I think that, you know, I've talked about so many things and kind of given my two cents on so many things, those episodes are going to be great to look back on. And you know, when my views on those things change or I gain more insight on more things, I will bring those up. But I think for now it's just kind of fun to sit and chill with y'all and whatever. And talk about **** that's not as. A emotional I guess, but. I'm ready to answer some questions, so let's see what you guys are asking. We're talking about Macy's again. My favorite one stop shop in such a beloved friend to anything goes. Macy's is the best because it really has something for everyone in every occasion. 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So I will be picking up a few things from Macy's if you need to get some stuff for fallcheckoutmacys.com, that's macys.com. You'll find what you need. I can guarantee you that somebody said favorite song at the moment. Don't think, just go. You know what? I'm. I'm put you all on. I mean, my summer I'm listening to my summer 2020 playlist on Spotify. My username is Emma chamby. I think it's like one of the only Snapchat in Spotify are the only ones left that still have Emma Chamby, which is the username that I thought was genius and hilarious when I was in fifth grade. Turns out bad news. Emma Chamby is not funny. Hilarious. Or quirky at all? And I know that the Internet loves to call me quirky. It's very fun for them, but. Newsflash, I am not quirky, so grow up anyway. I'm gonna give you guys a few songs. The adults are talking by. The Strokes is really good. I'm obsessed with that song right now. Middle of somewhere by the neighborhood is really good. Lava by still woozy is not a new song, but I kind of just rediscovered it and I really love it. And politics and violence by Dominic Fike I really like all of those right now. There's a lot more on my summer 2020 playlist. If you want to check it out that are really good. Somebody said with all this COVID going on, I'm having constant thoughts of regret because I think it could have done so many things last year. But because of being sad now, I feel like I've wasted a lot of time and that's stressing me out. Does that ever happen to you? So I think I'm going to sum this question up and kind of rewrite it to. Do you ever feel like you wasted time being sad? OK, like, probably yes. Like I definitely think I've wasted time. Well, no. You know what? No, I have not wasted time being sad because every time I've ever been sad in my life, I've learned millions and trillions of things. And you might not even realize that you were learning things whilst you were sad, but I can guarantee that the person you are now wouldn't be the same without that. OK? You being sad and you having those struggles made you who you are. And I don't think you'd be able to appreciate life in the same way without that experience. I don't think that anything is a waste of time. Nothing in life is a waste of time, OK? As long as you turn it around and you learn something from it, it's not a waste of time if you just don't learn anything and you ******* are close minded and whatever and you like. Continue doing the things that you're doing that are making you unhappy or you continue. You know. You get what I'm saying? Like, I mean, obviously being sad and stuff, that's not up to you. I mean, you can't choose like if you're, you know, struggling with. Your mental health, I mean, that's like not something you can change. You can take the right steps to help, but I mean. There's more to that, you know, it's more complicated, but. So that's definitely not a waste of time because you're going to learn something from that no matter what. But I'm more saying, like, if you feel like you wasted your time doing anything in general, like let's say you were in a relationship that was not good, or let's say you went to college and then you ended up not using. Your college diploma for your job and you now feel like that was a waste of time. None of that was a waste of time. Because you learn things from that and you experience things from that and. That's a beautiful thing. There's nothing to regret about that. So. All we have is. Right now. And all we can do is make the most of right now. You can't dwell on what you should have done, could have done. What's that going to do for you? That's just gonna make you miserable if you think you know what? Ah, it would have been. So fun. If I wouldn't have been struggling, you know, last year I would have done so many more things if I would have known well, guess what you know now? And. You can. You can make today. An amazing day and when this whole COVID thing is over. You're going to live life to the fullest because let me tell you. I think we're all going to appreciate it. I think we're all gonna appreciate it in a new way once we can finally do all of that again, so. Don't regret it, please. Somebody said my ex wanted to meet me a couple times, but I said no. The last time he asked me, he was being so nice and I agreed. But now I feel like I miss him. What do I do? He cheated on me multiple times, by the way. OK, listen, we don't we don't **** with the cheater. We don't. We don't do that. Because The thing is, there's 7 billion people on this planet and I can guarantee that there's somebody out there that won't cheat on you. Uh, guaranteed, 100%. There is somebody out there in this world that wouldn't cheat on you. So why the **** are we going to waste time with one person? That ****** you over. Cheaters, don't I? I don't believe that they change, to be honest. Once a cheater, always a cheater. I do kind of believe that. I mean, I don't know. I just like. I think that people who cheat are maybe wired in a different way. And I mean, don't get me wrong. I think that people can learn and grow they can. Change I. I don't think that, like, let's say you're dating somebody who's cheated on someone else before. I think that there's a decent chance that that person might not cheat on you. They might have learned from that experience and been like, **** I'm never doing that again, or they were just in the wrong relationship. But if someone cheats on you, I that kind of makes me feel like the connection between you two wasn't right. Because that person wasn't scared enough to lose you. When you guys were together, they didn't value you enough. Like when you're dating the right person. The thought of cheating on them and then them finding out and leaving you should be terrifying if you're with the right person, which would make you not want to cheat on them. Also, when you have the right connection with somebody, you don't have eyes for anyone else. Especially when you're young. I think when you get older and you've been with somebody for a long time, you know things can change and things can be different, but. When you're young and **** there's no reason to waste your time with a cheater. When they cheated on you, I'm saying obviously if you find somebody new is really cool and you guys have a great connection and they've cheated on somebody before, I mean you I don't, I don't really believe in judging somebody for their past necessarily. I feel like you kind of have to judge them for who they are to you, you know what I mean? So that's the different thing. But because this man has cheated on you before, I say we say **** him and we do not. Not actually or literally. I mean metaphorically. We are not messing with this guy. There are 7 billion people. Find a new one. Moving on. Thoughts on guacamole? I used to be really scared of guacamole. Still kind of am for some reason. But ever since I started eating avocado toast, I kind of realized, OK, well, guacamole is literally the same and the seasoning in it is really good. So definitely into guacamole, but I'm not a huge fan of. Tomato or onion and those are two ingredients that are commonly used in guacamole. So. I mean, I'm on the fence. I mean, I don't love every guacamole, but there are definitely some good ones. Next, somebody said, what did you have for breakfast? I had Chamberlain coffee. Generalcoffee.com. And I had eggs and avocado and. That was kind of a little starter meal, but I'm probably gonna. It's still the morning right now, but I think I have some plums, so that's my breakfast. Somebody said, how do you know that you've met a good lifelong friend? I don't think you ever really know because I think that you can think that a lot of times in your life. Like, Oh yeah, this person is going to be my life forever. But people change and we grow and we evolve. And you outgrow friends, and friends outgrow you, and things happen. And I think that the thing with friendships is you have to be in the moment with it. I mean, obviously it's nice to think about. Your future with this friendship, you know, or that friendship it's fun to think about. Oh, I can't wait to have this person at my wedding. I can't wait to, you know, raise my kids and have this person, like, down the road. And we can like, whatever. It's fun to think about those things for sure, but I think that. You just have to live in the moment with the person, so if somebody's a good. Person in your life now, I think we focus on that. We focus on, you know. How they're treating you now? If they're being a good friend now and then, you know, we can always hope that it'll last. But. It doesn't really matter because as long as it's working right now and they're a good friend, then **** it. And that goes for relationships too. I mean, I know that it's it's really. Scary sometimes. Even when you like, care about somebody so much and you like. Love your friends or you know the person you're in a relationship with so much and you're like, Oh my God, like, I can't imagine my life without them. And that can create a lot of anxiety. But the thing that you have to, you just have to be like, listen, they're working in my life right now. We have an amazing relationship right now. I'm not going to sabotage this by thinking about the future. Nothing about the future. As promised. We don't know what the ****** going to happen tomorrow. Ever. We just have to live in the now and appreciate the people that we have in our lives right now that make us happy. And that's that's the ******* tea. Somebody said I've been struggling with anxiety for the past two months and for me it's really hard to open up to other people about it. Do you have any advice on how I can open myself? Up and not feel bad or guilty after I do it. Listen. Never feel guilty about venting. OK, nothing to feel guilty about. Imagine this. Your friend comes up to you and. Tells you that they're struggling with anxiety and that they feel really ****** and they start kind of confiding in you about it. How are you going to feel? Are you going to be frustrated or annoyed? No, the ****. And if they if like you did, then that's something you need to reflect on because that's not good. And I and I can tell that you wouldn't feel that way just based on the way that you wrote your message. I mean, like you have to understand people are. Not that selfish. I mean, there are a lot of selfish people, but even the most selfish people would probably hear you out and try to help. Don't feel bad, don't feel guilty. We're all on this planet together. We're all working together, OK? And we also only live this life once. We're all just trying to make this **** as good as it can be. I think that we're all on each other's team. So try to remember that and. Just kind of push your discomfort aside and be honest. Find somebody that you feel comfortable with. Find somebody who you feel is nurturing and just let it go and and and and. Let it out. Somebody said if you could be in any place right now, where could it be? I would be in Paris for sure, Europe. Paris, Italy, something I just like, wanna go to Europe really bad. Although I don't wanna sit on the ******* plane, so. Yeah. I'd go to Paris, but like teleport vibes I don't really wanna. Be on a plane for that long. 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Buying from a brand that really, really cares and pair provides glasses to a child in need for every pair that you buy. Get glasses as ever, changing as you are with pear. Go to pair eyewear.com Emma for 15% off your first purchase. That's 15% off at PAIR eyewear.com/emma. Ohh this is a really interesting question that I just got from two guys. Somebody said, let's say I'm walking behind a girl late at night on a quiet street or something. What can you say to show her that you're not a threat? I feel bad because I don't want her to be scared or think I'm trying to kidnap her. And then. Another guy said lol this point I either crossed the road or walked past them so I'm in front. I think that's really great. I I. And really, really sweet that you think like that, you know, because I do think that, you know, I mean as a as a human being in general. I mean, walking at night and **** like that is scary. You never know. But I think especially as a girl, you know, it can be frightening. And especially right now where we're starting to learn about all of the. Things that go on in this world that are so ******* terrifying, uh, you know, with people getting kidnapped and stuff like that. And I think that it's a really important time to. As a woman, you know, be ******* on your a game. And I think that a lot of girls do get worried about somebody following them, even if it's totally innocent and so. I think. I I don't think you even need to say anything. I think the whole crossing the street thing is great, just crossing the street and and trying to get ahead of them. I think that that would definitely ease their mind. I know that for me. When I felt like I was being followed. When they've gotten in front of me, I was like, oh, we're good, we're totally good. And I was like, totally fine because it just showed that they're not watching, like, they're going on their own way. They're not. They don't care about where I'm going. You know, I remember one night I was in New York. And I was on the phone. And I was walking around and I was walking around my hotel in circles during winter actually. And I was talking to my parents and. Some guy followed me in the circle. Because I was walking in a circle. I wasn't. I had no end destination, OK? And this guy followed me in a circle the whole time until I went back into my hotel. I mean, it was fine because he didn't. Do anything. But it was ******* frightening, like, for sure. And I don't know, maybe he was just going for a walk too. Maybe we were on the same page. Doubt it. But I mean, that's a crazy coincidence. I walked around the building probably 15 times. But. If he would have like speed up in front of me. I would have not given a ****. I would have been like, oh, we're good. But I also think that that is, you know, that's an important thing to talk about in general. I think that you know. Keeping an eye out and being wary. You can never be too careful. You know what I mean, ladies? I mean and and guys too. I mean, who knows? Anything like this can pertain to anybody just watching your back at all times. You know there's something to be said for that. So just like staying aware of your surroundings and being smart, you can always go into a store, you can always go into a restaurant. Could knock on someone's door even if you really feel like you're in danger. I mean, there's so many, so many options. Not always, but. If something like that's happening to you, you know. Just be wary, you know, be wary out there. Be careful, everybody and and dudes, it's really respectful of you guys to think like that and do that. So I really appreciate you thinking about that. Somebody's asked me what my favorite hairstyle I've had y'all. I'm loving the blonde. I never want to be brunette again. I'm sorry, guys. I'm sorry I ever doubted you. Everybody always told me, like, Emma, you need to be blonde. You need to be blonde. You need to be blonde. Blonde. Emma back and I was like, no. And then now I'm blonde again. And I'm like, wait, I get it, I get it. I love being blonde. And I also love my hair length right now because it's not too long. Not too short. OK, so somebody said I'm in high school and all of my friends are super boy crazy, but I'm not. I just feel like I don't want to waste my time worrying about some shallow guys who aren't people I see myself with in the long run anyway. But they think I'm weird for not wanting a boyfriend. Thoughts? Y'all. Wow, OK, you are really, really 10 steps ahead. Because in high school I knew deep down that, like, the guys that I was dealing with were like, you know, not for me long term. Like, I'm definitely somebody who I think I'm more into. A lot of the guys in high school that I would was interested in, they were all like sporty dudes and I'm not saying that that. I don't want to put anybody in a box or anything like I I don't. Wanna stereotype? But? I kind of knew deep down that that wasn't really my type, you know what I mean? But I was kind of like. That was kind of what was available, so it was like. You kind of work with what you have when you're at school, and those people are sometimes not for you. You know what I mean? I I never had a boyfriend in high school. I didn't really. I tried to like. I mean, I like would have little talking phases with guys, but I never like dated guys in high school. I was more of a friend zone girl to be honest. Which is fine in retrospect. No regrets. Who knows what type of ******* mental damage I would have. Experience from dating somebody in high school? I don't know, don't want to know, but anyway. I think that stay true to yourself and honestly, it kind of sounds like you need new friends because kind of sounds like your friends are not on the same page as you, and you're really, really 10 steps ahead. I mean, I wasn't even there yet. I was still trying to, like, make the guys work and I was still kind of boy crazy even though I didn't. Really like, like these guys that much because I knew that they weren't up my alley really. But, and I mean no **** to them, like that's they. Whatever. But they, you know, I was trying to make something work. I was trying to make a puzzle piece fit that didn't fit. And I think you're one step ahead just knowing that it's a waste of time because it totally is. So I think you just tell them, y'all, I don't want to waste my time. This is not my type. These guys are not my type. I don't care. I'm going to find a guy that's more up my alley in college or when I, you know, work here or whatever so y'all can mind your business. Thanks. Oh my God, I can't believe somebody said are you gonna make music one day? No, God no. I leave the music to the musicians that I **** with, and then I listen to their music, sing it in the car, and then call it a day. The thing is, I don't know how to like, I wouldn't even know how to write music. The **** I. I mean, I had a freestyle rapping phase with my friends that was so embarrassing. We were literally, we would freestyle on the car for hours and it was so funny. But it was also like, really cringy in retrospect, at least on my end. I mean, my friends were, you know, spitting and I appreciate it, but I mean, for me, I just was probably. So cringy, UM, and that was fun at all. And it. I mean, don't get me wrong, the adrenaline rush when I would come up with something good was really ******* awesome. But I I'm gonna keep it to freestyling with my friends once every blue moon and listening to music and singing it in my car by myself. Sorry. Somebody said what's your favorite vegetable? Y'all, let's talk about it. Definitely I have a lot. Surprisingly, I like cauliflower when it's cooked. Right, so like if it's kind of like I like when. You put batter of some sort on cauliflower and then you turn it into like a chicken wing. That's really good. I also like broccoli a lot if it's cooked right. I also like kale a lot again, if it's like the right kind of kale and it's like. All the stems are cut out. I like kale. Sometimes. I like butter lettuce. Yeah, I like corn, but I don't know that that's a grain, so never mind. Sorry, I'm ******* dumb. Hopefully that helped, I don't know. Somebody said have you ever physically fought someone? No. Interesting question. I am not a fighter. I am a lover. I really am, although I did. I did try to start a pillow fight yesterday with my friends. That was probably the closest I've ever got. To a fight, to be honest, but I actually hate. Like, I don't like that **** you know? I don't even like pillow fights. Like, I was like lightly hitting everyone because. I like, don't, OK, so I've had friends before that were, like, really violent. You know what I mean? Like, do you guys ever have friends where they just will, like, Pat you on the back, but they'll ******* fully five star you on the back? Or like, they'll. Be like pillow fight and then they'll hit you in the head really hard until you're almost concussed. Like, I am not like that. I like to be gentle. I don't see the need for that. I also don't like when people jump, scare me, like jump out and scare me. Like, **** that. No, no, no, no, no. None of that for Emma at all. I don't really think that any of that ****** fun, but some people do. So I mean, more power to you and enjoy yourself, but not for me. Somebody said, wait, wow, y'all ******* predicted something. Another club? Sorry collab, someone said another collab with wildflower cases in the future maybe? I'm not going to answer this, but I'm just going to say that I wouldn't read it if it wasn't an important question. Do what you want with that. Somebody said, do you think you were born in the right era? If not, what era? You know what? Yes, I do think I was born in the right era. For sure. Because, OK, listen, a lot of people are always like, oh, I was born in the wrong era. You know what? We don't know **** about what it would have been like to live in that era. I'm sorry we romanticize different eras. Don't get me wrong. I'm obsessed with 40s, fifties, Sixties, 70s, Eighties, 90s, early 2000s fashion. I love the fashion I love, you know, hearing stories from people who lived through those times. I love, you know, the movies, the aesthetic of all of it. Don't get me wrong, very awesome. Appreciate it so much, but I like that. I get to. Appreciate it as somebody who didn't live it. I don't think I'm living in the wrong generation. I like I'm, you know, I was placed on this Earth right now to live right now, and I don't I wouldn't want it any other way, I think. People romanticize these times, right? Like, you know, I talked to my dad about, like, the 80s, for example. And yeah, it sounds like it was pretty fun, but like. You know, based on his stories, like there was also **** that was not fun at all, and there were things that. People don't maybe talk about they were shady about it and also. I wouldn't. Be living the life I live remotely at all. If I didn't live right now, it's the first time in history that I that this is. A possibility for a life, you know, on the Internet, like, and I really do love it and I wouldn't want it any other way. So no, I appreciate other eras, but I do not think I was born in the wrong era. And I think that a lot of people say that, and I even used to think that, but I don't think that we know enough as kids. To say that you know what I mean. Anyway, it's not that deep, but I mean, maybe some of us were born in the wrong era, but I personally wouldn't want to be born in 1810 when I had to brush my teeth with a rock like I just that doesn't sound fun to me. So anyway, somebody said, which celebrities would you choose if you had to survive on an island? Name three. Explain why number one, Harry Styles for no other reason besides the fact that I feel like. He has a really good luck and is like really like he would almost be on the island for a good luck charm. I feel like he does everything perfectly. So I feel like if I was like Harry start a fire, he would like snap his fingers in. The fire would start. If I was like Harry, I really want to roast some hot dogs, vegan hot dogs over the fire right now. I wish we had those. Too bad we only have like nuts and seeds. He would snap his fingers and he would have hot dogs in his hand. See what I'm saying here? Harry Styles would be the ******* the Magic token to making this fun if I was like Harry Styles Ugg. Like, I really need some sunscreen. I'm getting really sunburned. He'd snap his fingers. Sunscreen. Boom. So I just would use him for that. Next one would be. I feel like I need somebody funny on the island that would like make me laugh so that I could kind of like to kind of lift the spirits, like I'm trying to think about somebody would lift the spirits. OK, so. The next celebrity I think I would have on the island would be Joe. I don't know his name, Joe Kinney or something, the guy who's the voice of SpongeBob. Uh, he's a comedian probably because he does SpongeBob, but also I would just kind of want him to. Hide behind a tree or hide in a tree or something and just talk to me in SpongeBob voice while I couldn't see him? And if that makes sense so that I could like imagine that I was like in Bikini Pond. Became the way he just said that was crazy. Leave that in. So that I can imagine that I was in Bikini bottom. It would, like, make it more fun, right? Like it would OK, we're stranded on a desert island. This is deserted island, Desert Island. I'm literally losing it. I need to ******* turn this **** off. I'm, like, slurring my words. Did I get drunk from my coffee? I don't understand. I didn't like. I don't. Chamberlain, Coffee goes crazy making me. Making me not be able to ******* say words correctly anyway. I would want the voice of SpongeBob dude Joe Kinney, I think that's his name, to be sitting up in a tree somewhere and just. Constantly having dialogue with himself in SpongeBob voice, just as kind of entertainment. Also to kind of set the tone and the mood of the island. Bikini bottom vibes. It would be fun to have him there. I also feel like I get the vibe that he can cook. I don't know why, but I feel like he can. I also feel like. If you spend that many years doing a sponge Bob voice, there's no way that you're not kind of going insane. So he probably has some violence he wants to get out. Which I think could be helpful when I need him to chop down a tree. Like he could probably chop down a tree and like two hits with an axe because he's been doing SpongeBob voice for so long that he's probably. Exploding with anger like there's a lot of pent up anger. I don't know. I'd love to have a conversation with him about it, but we can discuss that when we're on the island. Yeah, I feel like he's necessary. Last but not least, I would have. I would probably have Margot Robbie just because I want to be her best friend for some reason, and she's just so beautiful, so I just love her, so I probably have her on there. And then, uh, just for like, girl time, you know, so that I can be like. I can tell her a bunch of stories, she can tell me stories, and we can just bond. So like, while Joe Kinney is in the is cutting down the tree. While making SpongeBob voices and then we got Harry Styles like floating or something in the air like levitating or something. Me and Margot are just like getting our tan on on the beach, chilling and talking about boys. Sounds like a dream. Anyway, I'm done with this episode. I hope you guys had fun hanging out with me today. I had fun. I love you all so much and I really appreciate you guys. Thank you for coming back every week if you do that. I don't know, this could be your first episode. Thank you guys for listening in general if you got to this point. Don't know why you would. I don't even remember the last. 100 things, I said. I blacked out, so Oh my God, I have to fart. Don't listen. Oh no, I hope you didn't hear that. I. Alright guys, I love you all. Bye guys. We're here with Phil talking about what's new with heart Nissan. Phil, what are some good reasons somebody should buy now? That's a great question. We all know that car shopping could be an overwhelming process. Plus people are uncertain about a lot these days. Partisan recognize that. So we rolled up a heart rewards program. All new and pre-owned vehicle purchases. Get one year identity theft protection 3 Virginia State inspections and multi point inspections. 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