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Dad, who's your delicious? You need to show them. You should, mom. No, seriously, let's set you up on Shopify. It's easy. I always knew you would build your own business guys. Yum. When you're ready to bring your idea to life, build it on Shopify. Sign up for a free 14 day trial at shopify.com/offer 22, shopify.com/offer 22. Hello. Today's drink of the day is a cold brew. Nothing crazy. You guys are used to it by now, I just. Mainly drink cold brew that's that's pretty much my drink of the day every week, but I mean. I don't know what to tell you. It's it's my favorite drink. At some point, my drink of the day will will switch up. You know what I mean? I go through phases with stuff. At some point, though, there's going to be a riveting change. I'm excited for that day to come, but for right now, it's cold brew. And it's every day, so I don't know what to tell you. Anyway. Today we're going to be talking about me. Yay. But no, listen, we're going to be talking about me. Because. I've been analyzing myself recently. I'm somebody that loves analyzing people. It's my favorite thing to do. I love it. I love analyzing. People's behavior I there's nothing that is more exciting to me. Then. Just trying to understand how other people think and function. It's just very interesting to me. But that doesn't stop at other people. That also applies to myself. I also analyze myself. In third person, which is kind of weird, but I do do that. Sometimes. And recently I've been analyzing my own behavior and I've been realizing that. I've been a little bit crazy. I've been, kind of. In my in my Yolo era, recently I've just been saying Yolo. To everything recently. Not like verbally saying Yolo like not. In conversation, am I saying Yolo? I would never do that. I actually am kind of doing that right now, but I I refuse to, you know, use the word Yolo in a conversation because. There's possibly no worse word, but at the same time I don't have a better word to use to describe my recent behavior. I've been yoloing recently. OK, it's weird. Also I should? Clarify for those of you who are over 50 and don't know what Yolo means. Yolo means you only live once. Now that that's out of the way. I have been. Living by my own mental rule book. For my whole life and very few times have I strayed away from it. I I mean I have but. I just always followed my own rule book that I have set for myself, and some of the rules are things that are non-negotiable. Those mainly being moral rules that I have for myself, like don't treat people like ****. Don't lie to people unless it's for something cute like a surprise birthday party. You know those things are non-negotiable. But. There are some things in my mental rulebook. That are less severe. In less. Serious. That I've been living by for my whole life. For example. I'm never going to get tattoos like that's always been something that's been in my rulebook. I've just always said. Emma. That's not your thing. You're never going to get tattoos and a story. It's just not you. But recently? I've been kind of going against my own rulebook and saying Yolo and it's so weird because it's just so unlike me. But it's actually been really fun, and so I wanted to talk about some of my yoloing recently. Because. I don't know, you know, like, let's just analyze my own behavior in third person. I know that we're talking about me, but I'm able to fully remove myself from myself and talk about myself in third person. And so that's what we're going to do today. We're going to be talking about me going against the rule book I've lived by my whole life and why it's actually been fun and exciting and why I think I need to loosen up on the less serious. Elements of my own mental rulebook. So the first thing I did was get 10 tattoos. Obviously, I just mentioned that one of the. Rules in my rule book was that I was never going to get tattoos. And then now you see me and suddenly I have 10. Uh. I would like to explain myself. O. For my whole life, I always believed that tattoos were not for me for many reasons. Number one, there are two permanent and I'm too indecisive. I changed my mind constantly. I'm always shifting my views and opinions on things because I think that that's. Healthy, you know, if you stick to one. Opinion or one ideology on something for your whole life, you're never going to grow. I think you gotta be constantly. Evolving your beliefs and things like that and. Your taste as well. Your taste should be evolving as you grow up in all of that. Heavily ties into tattoos because a lot of times when you get a tattoo, it's a direct representation of your ideas, your beliefs and your taste. And because that's something that for me is constantly changing. Why would I get a permanent stamp of something on my body that represents me in one? Blip of time. If that's just not going to stand the test of time, why would I do that? Number two? You know, getting tattoos removed seems like a serious *****. O. That element of it is not worth it. You know, getting a tattoo and then me hating it down the line and then having to get it removed sounds like. It's something I don't want to deal with. #3 tattoos are very trendy if you look back in history to how tattoos have evolved and how there have been trends with tattoos, like how there's been trends with clothing. That's kind of frightening because trends come and go, right? And so if you get a trendy tattoo. It might not be cute in 20 years because that trend is over and there's a whole new set of trends. So you can't really trust the trend cycle of tattoos. To stand the test of time. And last but not least. I don't know if tattoos match my personality. You know, I associate tattoos with, like, ****** cool kids, and I don't really see myself like that as much as I'd like to and as much as. A little bit of myself probably got the tattoos so that I would look cooler to strangers. I don't know if I'm ready to admit that to myself yet, but. You know, I know that deep down, and there's somewhere I wanted to get tattoos so that people would think I looked cooler because for whatever reason, people with tattoos look cooler. Like, if I see somebody with tattoos, I'm like, wow, they're so cool. And I'd like to believe it's because of, you know, their demeanor or something like that, but I really do think that. Subconsciously we look at people with tattoos and they're like, wow, what a ****** you know what I mean? I don't know why it is. I hate it. I hate to admit it, but it's true anyway. Yeah, I just never felt like tattoos matched my personality. And people have told me in the past they're like, yeah, you don't really strike me as a tattoo girl. So that always stuck with me. But. Simultaneously, as I've held these beliefs about tattoos in regards to myself. I've also always brainstormed what I would get if I ever worked to get a tattoo and so. For fun, sometimes I would think about like what I would get if I ever were to get a tattoo. And I kept these ideas stored away in my brain just for fun. You know? I never thought I would get them. It just. Never seemed like a me thing, but. Then one day eight months ago. I was laying in bed in a hotel room. And I was on Pinterest. Scrolling through my feed, looking at random stuff and all of a sudden I saw. A photo of a girl. With a bunch of tattoos and I was like. You know, I don't want a bunch of tattoos. But I actually do want tattoos. And I hadn't thought about it in a long time, but just seeing a photo of somebody with tattoos, just like. Brought the thought of tattoos to the forefront of my head and I was like, you know what? I really do want tattoos and I have like 15 ideas that I've been just storing in the back of my head for my whole life. And the fact that I've stored them in the back of my head for my whole life and I've and they've never changed, you know what I mean? Is a sign that these actually might be tattoos that will stand the test of time. It's possible. I kind of want to do it. Why not? Right? And I just had this, like, epiphany. I was like, I actually kind of do want it, you know? I kind of do want them. So anyway, I made an appointment very spontaneously and a few weeks later I went and I got 2 tattoos, 1 dedicated to my mom and one dedicated to my dad and my thought process behind. Getting these very simple. Not overly stylized tattoos in honor of my parents. Was that these will never get old to me, you know, they're they're not super trendy. They're just very simple tattoos that are dedicated to my parents. And no matter what happens between me and my parents and my life, they're always going to be my parents and they're always going to mean a lot to me. And so I was like, you know, this is the perfect balance for a tattoo. It's something that is meaningful to me. But also, it's not too serious. My tattoos aren't like, you know, these serious. Quotes you know that like are. Have potential to get corny? They're also not huge, they're pretty tiny, and so they're not super obvious necessarily. And. They do really mean something to me. And I was like, OK, this is actually a balance that I feel comfortable with. This is a balance that I think actually could stand the test of time and. Won't be something that I regret. I also decided to get all of my tattoos inside of my arms, so on the inside of my arms, so that they're not super visible. They're only visible if my arms are lifted up or if I'm moving my arms around. Otherwise they're not visible. And that's comfortable for me because I'm like, alright, these are things that I can cover up. Like if I want to wear a long sleeve shirt, you can't even see them. Etcetera. And so after getting these first two, I was like, alright, I'm done for a while. And then eight months went by and then I was like, OK, I'm actually going to get. Eight more now you might be thinking, Emma, why did you decide to get eight more in one day? Well, because I really. Just felt like, why don't I just get all of the ideas I've ever had at once? Why not? You know what I mean. I've had all these ideas my whole life. Why not just get them all at once? So. About a week ago I got 8 new tattoos. Basically checking off the list of all the tattoo ideas I've ever had. And now I have 10. And it all happened really fast. But all of them are meaningful. Truly, they might not seem like it on on the outside. Like if you were to look at them, you'd be like, I don't really know what that means, but to me they mean something, right? They're all very simple. None of them are super trendy or like. Extravagant. They're all very simple. Hand drawn looking, doodle almost looking tattoos that aren't very serious. You know, they're not super serious and I'm, I'm into it, you know, and honestly. Nobody's treated me differently in public. I I was honestly expecting for people to be like. Oh my God. I'm super intimidated by you because of all your tattoos. Anyway, like can I take your order at like a restaurant? I've been expecting that type of shift in in opinion towards me hasn't happened unfortunately, but I do really like them because I do feel like. They represent stamps of my childhood and stamps of the impactful things that my parents. Have. Done to me what I don't know. They they represent, you know, impactful moments throughout my life. Mainly in regards to my parents, but also some of them being just for me personally. On my own life journey and there are all things that I I just think will never lose their meaning because they are so personal. And so you know what? I'm happy about them and if I do at some point regret them, I cross that bridge when I get to it. But right now I really like them and. It's not like no thought went into it. There was definitely a lot of thought that went into it, but the actual decision to pull the trigger and to get them was kind of spontaneous. But I think that it's OK because. At the end of the day, it's not that big of a ******* deal. I think I always looked at something like tattoos. Is like this will permanently change my identity and this will permanently change who I am forever. Not really. It's just a *** **** tattoo. Everyone has them. Who cares? And also. I want them. I wanted them before I got them in. Even though it did go against my own personal rulebook. It's OK for your own personal rule book to change every once in a while. So now I have a bunch of tattoos and I'm a ******* ****** because of it. For no other reason, though, I am not a ****** in any other way except for now that I have tattoos, so I just want you to know that for the record, but. It was definitely weird. Behavior on my part to just like decide all of a sudden to get a bunch of tattoos. I don't know but. In my defense, they're all meaningful and I'm I'm actually stoked about them, and I think it's actually a fun. Way to express yourself. You know what I mean? Because. I think it is a reflection of. Kinda. Your taste and your priorities in life and things like that. Umm. So now I'm a tattoo girl. I'm already, like, ready to get more. But I I I promise I'm not going to get out of control. I only ever want to do tattoos on the insides of my arms and then call it a day. That's kind of where I'm drawing the line. But anyway, super weird that I had this. Impulse to get all these tattoos, but. I haven't had any regrets so far. Umm. I think if if you are thinking about getting a tattoo, my advice to you would would be #1 to get something that's truly meaningful. #2. To get something that's extremely personal. Because. Then you know this is all in order to avoid regretting it later. #3. To choose a style of tattoo that is. In your opinion, you know timeless to try to not follow tattoo trends and to rather go your own way and and do something that. Is kind of uniquely you in a way or something that's kind of simple and will never get old, right? That's another approach. And last but not least. Take your time to really think about it like. I think if you do all of those things you have a pretty good chance of not regretting it, I think. The regret comes in when. You get a tattoo for, like, the wrong reasons. You know, you get a tattoo because you want to fit in, and so you get something trendy and it may be something that's not that meaningful. In something that's sort of a sign of the times rather than a sign of you forever, right? I think that's where the regret comes in. But I think if you. Follow the tips I just gave. You're probably good to go. So, yeah, that's me saying Yolo with tattoos. OK, so I've told you guys about circle before, right? Spelled CIRKUL. Circle was created for people like me, OK, who don't drink enough water every day circles basically this water bottle with over 40 flavor cartridges that makes drinking water way more tasty. The flavors cover all the bases. They have fruit, punches, iced teas. Some even have caffeine or electrolytes, but there's no sugar, there's no calories, and there's no artificial flavors. My favorite flavor is strawberry Kiwi. 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And through doing that I've realized that. My priorities have been all out of whack for my whole life. Now let me explain. When I was growing up. I didn't grow up with. In excess of stuff like I I grew up with. The perfect amount of things that I needed to survive and that is all you need as a human being. Truly, if you have. Resources to be fed, clothed, go to school, get an education. Feel safe and comfortable? Then. That's all that matters. That is the most. Incredible. Thing to have in life and. Gratitude for those things. Is so important, but when I was growing up I was like. I want more. You know, I think a lot of young people feel that way, right? They're like, I want more. And so when I was younger, I was like, I want more. Like, yeah, I have what I need to be comfortable and safe. But I'm a little ******* and I want more because I didn't understand, you know? I think you don't understand. What good priorities are until you're older, which is I guess I try to forgive myself for my own ****** priorities as a young person. But I always was like I want. A massive walking closet full of clothes I want. An entire vanity filled with the nicest makeup I want. The nicest car and the nicest this and the nicest that. Like, I wanna live that life. I want an excess of stuff I don't want. Just like the bare minimum to survive. I want excess. And I always craved that. And I always saw that as the epitome of success, as one does right. And so when I started making my own money, I was like. I also now want excess, right? I have the money to buy whatever you know I want now, not whatever I want, but like I have money now to to kind of choose what I want to buy. It's not based on my parents anymore and so. When I first started making money, I. Was definitely not reckless because I definitely knew that I needed to be careful, but. I definitely started buying a lot of things that I didn't need, you know, I started. Buying so many clothes, that was the the first thing, because I've always been somebody that loved clothes and I always wanted more clothes and I always felt like I didn't have enough clothes. And so that was the first thing I did. And it wasn't even about how expensive the clothing was. It was about having a lot of clothes. So even if I bought a shirt from goodwill, that was $5. It didn't matter. I just wanted a lot of clothes and so. Over the years. I've accumulated a lot of stuff, especially clothes, but. Make up. Hair products, like, whatever it may be, I've accumulated so much stuff because when I first started making money, I was like, I'm going to. Make these dreams come true, right? And. When I had a moment recently where I reflected on all of my belongings. I realized. A few things. Number one. None of this **** matters. None of it made me feel good. None of it made me happy. Yeah. It maybe was enjoyable for for brief moments, but. It never brought me as much joy as. I thought it would now. That was thing #1. That I realized #2. I realized that this excess of stuff that I own. Is actually making me anxious. It's making me feel overwhelmed. And I've talked to quite a few people about this concept because I was like, you know, it's so weird because I always felt like. If I had a bunch of stuff, my life would be easier, right? I would never, ever stress out about picking out an outfit again. I would never run out of a lipstick to use. I would always have a bunch of lipsticks to use. If I'm going out to dinner. I you know, I it would make my life easier. I always thought that. But then what I found was it actually makes me feel overwhelmed and stressed out when I go into my closet. I don't even know. I'm like, I don't. I feel overwhelmed by all of this stuff I have. You know, stuff I never want to wear again, mixed with things from. That don't even fit me anymore, like, you know what I mean? It's like I have so much stuff. Then I just feel overwhelmed and you know it. It makes me actually stressed out. And that was the other thing I realized. And I was like, how ironic is that? That I believe my whole life, that having. Whatever I wanted. Having an excess of stuff would just make my life feel complete. And now I'm just more stressed out and uncomfortable and I just. Feel overwhelmed and anxious by the excess of it all. And last but not least, I realized the reason why I hadn't been giving it all away was because I was holding on to this feeling that I had when I was a child, that these things were going to bring some sort of meaning or happiness to my life. And so I think I was holding on to all the stuff that I had been collecting over the years because I was like. This is supposed to make you happier, but it's not yet. But maybe if you hold on to all of it at some point it'll it'll have some meaning. And so I was holding on to all of it. But recently? As I've been moving in and reflecting on all of this stuff that I own and it's all been in front of me in boxes, I've been like, you know what? Yolo. I'm getting rid of everything. Not everything, but I'm getting rid of. As much as they possibly can, and you know the great thing about. Realizing that maybe you had a lapse in judgment and you maybe made money for the first time in your life and you bought a bunch of things that you you now feel like are unnecessary for your well-being. You know there's there's. A positive thing that you can do with that stuff and that is to donate it. You know what I mean? And so that has been the silver lining, at least for me, because I felt this guilt. I was like, wow, what did you do, Emma? You know what I mean? Like you. You have so much stuff. And you were wrong about how that was going to impact you in life. But I do think that the silver lining is that, you know, you can donate. There's so many incredible places to donate things that you no longer need. And so I've been utilizing those resources as much as possible just to, you know, give my stuff to people who are actually going to appreciate it and and. That's that's a really beautiful thing to me, but I think that. Letting go of all of this stuff and. Admitting to myself that it was kind of a waste of my energy and time and money and it. It means nothing. Admitting that to myself. And then saying Yolo and getting rid of it. Has been a journey for me, but I will say that it's been a great. Experience for me because number one I realized. Truly, for the first time in my life, that the only thing that really matters is. Your health, your safety. In the health and safety of those that are around you and if all and if you have the resources. To make those things happen. Then that's really all that matters, and that's all I should have ever prioritized. But it I didn't know that, you know, when I was younger, and now I realize that and I'm. And it's it's been really good. That's definitely. I don't know if that's. I guess that is me saying Yolo. Me saying Yolo is like. You only live once. If you want to get rid of all the **** that you own and start over. Yolo. You know, I'm not getting rid of everything because I still have a lot of things that are sentimental to me. Or. Whatever, but. You know, it's it's really putting my foot down and saying, Emma, you don't need all of this ****. Only keep what you truly use. And what you truly need. And the rest. You don't need it. Amen. OK, so if I were to host a live radio show and I could play any music I wanted, I would honestly probably have the time of my Life OK, but I'll admit I would probably end up playing. Just sad music. I don't know what it is about me, but I love sad music, OK? And so I'd probably end up playing. A lot of sad music. 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Fashion related stuff like attending the Louis Vuitton fashion show. Every year over the past few years. But. When it came to traditional red carpet events, I pretty much said no to all of them. Kind of out of fear. And feeling like I didn't belong except for the Met Gala. Because that was something that I just couldn't say no to because it was just too special. And even though I felt like I was like. Ohh no like. I'm surely not fancy enough for this. I decided to give it a chance. By going to the maccalla and that kind of showed me like, OK, you know what? I might feel like I don't belong here a little bit. I might feel like I'm not fancy enough for this a little bit, but maybe I will give it a try. And then more recently I've been like, you know what? Let's give it all a try. And maybe. Maybe it can be something that aligns with me and who I am. The reason why I've never felt like I belonged at these events was because #1. You know, I don't take myself that seriously. And the whole. Uh, sort of narrative around red carpet events is that they're very prestige and they're very serious and they're very fancy and they're only for, you know, the most sophisticated of people. And I just don't believe that I am that I'm like, listen, I know I'm not some sort of like, I do my best to be. Classy in the areas that I need to be classy but I'm not like. Some sort of sophisticated. Preppy person. Like, I'm just not that. And so, you know, in that way I've always felt like I just don't fit in in these environments, but also #2. I don't feel comfortable. Dressing up. Or at least I never. I never did in the past. I've always seen myself as a very casual person. And as a very. Approachable, casual, not fancy person and again, red carpet events showcase. People in their fanciest outfits, in their fanciest hair and makeup. With their fanciest. Poses when they're on the red carpet and I've just never felt like I have any of that unlock, you know? I've always felt really uncomfortable dressed up. In fancy outfits. I remember going to high school formal. And that was obviously a formal event where we were to wear dresses and dress up. And I remember shopping for dresses for that and just feeling like nothing fit me. I always felt like nothing felt right. I felt like. I wasn't being myself. I've never really felt myself when I'm dressed up, but. Within the past year I've been. More open to saying, you know. I might not feel like I fit into these events, I might not feel like I'm fancy enough for these events, blah blah blah. But I'm curious about them and. I can't say no to everything, right? Like maybe I give it a try and. So I've been, you know. Saying yes to more red carpet events where I need to dress up and be fancy and do the whole thing. And it's been really interesting because what I'm realizing about, you know, the concept of getting all fancy for an event, is that. I don't think anybody feels. Truly themselves, when they're all glammed up like that. Maybe I'm wrong, but I don't think anyone does. I think that. It's all kind of an act. It's all kind of. A show that's put on. It's not like. All of these people walking the red carpet are showing up like, yes, this is my true self, me in this, you know, extremely expensive gown that I'm renting and all of this jewelry, like, I don't think anybody's showing up and feeling like that's truly who they are. I think everybody feels a little bit. Like they are. In a costume and like. They're sort of an imposter. I think that everybody feels like that. I haven't necessarily talked about this with a lot of other people, but I can just tell by the demeanor that. I don't. I I think everybody's kind of just acting. Like? They got it all figured out. I don't really think that's the case. And once I realized that, I realized that everybody's just kind of putting on a show, and that's the fun of it. I was like, you know what? I kind of get it now. I've always felt like there was something about these events that I didn't understand that I'd never understand. Like there's. Only a handful of people in this world that can attend these events and and it makes sense, you know, like it's for only the most sophisticated, only the most. Fancy people, but the truth is, I think everybody. Is just going. To these sorts of red carpet events. To have fun and play dress up. I really think it's that simple. And when I started to look at it like that, I was like, I love. The idea of playing dress up. Because that's completely different than showing up to an event. And saying this is truly who I am. In this fancy outfit, this is truly me. That's fake, right? But showing up to the event and saying I'm just playing dress up for the night like this isn't who I truly am. Who I truly am is like. A normal person that like is a human being and isn't perfect and is just like a normal boring person, right like. I actually don't think that. Anybody's even trying necessarily to seem like they are. All that, I think everybody's just having fun dressing up for the for the night. And everybody knows that deep down, that's not who they truly are. And I think seeing that. You know other people. Aren't taking it so seriously. Was really kind of cool for me because I was like, OK, wait. This is just an event where people are playing dress up for fun. And that's something I can get behind because. I can fit into that narrative. You know what I mean? I can't fit into the narrative of me being a fancy, sophisticated, you know, perfect person. Showing up to a red carpet, I can't fit that narrative, but I can fit the narrative of being a normal human being who's just playing dress up for the night, and there is space for that at these events. And so. I've been saying yes to it more and just like enjoying playing dress up and I really enjoy it, I actually do. I mean, don't get me wrong, it gets to my head a little bit sometimes. Because, you know, it's hard not to. Obsess over what you look like at these events, or what people are saying about your outfit. It's hard not to obsess about those things, but at the end of the day. I do think that there's a part of me that enjoys. Feeling fancy every once in a while, and I think that you can feel fancy and sophisticated while still feeling like yourself. Because deep down, you can know that you're still yourself even if you're in a fancy outfit and you're at a fancy event. I I think I worried that. I would either show up to these events and not fit in at all, or I would show up to these events. And accidentally change who I was. So that I could fit in. I think I was fearful that one of those two things would happen, but. I've been happy to see that. There's room. To, you know, be yourself and fit in to a certain extent. We're talking about Macy's again. My favorite one stop shop in such a beloved friend to anything goes. Macy's is the best because it really has something for everyone and every occasion. Whether it's clothes, HomeGoods, cooking Ware, whatever it may be, Macy's has something for you in the spirit of everybody having their own individual Macy's shopping experience. They're making us feel like true VIP's for the next couple of weeks because Macy's VIP sale has arrived just in time to get everything you need to cozy up this fall. From September 23rd to October 3rd, get 30% off regular sale and clearance items plus. 15% off beauty. And again, outside of beauty, that's 30% off. Pretty much everything from clothing, shoes and handbags to home decor and appliances. It's happening at Macy's. You want to know what I'm going to get? I'm going to get scarves because I really want to have a scarf. I live in California. It's only cold for like 3 months here, and it's not even that cold. Like it never snows, but I need to be leaning into the winter. To hire this year because last year I wasn't going hard enough. So I will be picking up a few things from Macy's. If you need to get some stuff for fallcheckoutmacys.com, that's macys.com. You'll find what you need. I can guarantee you that. The next way I've been saying Yolo is that I haven't paid for street parking. In literally like six months. In Los Angeles. It's really hard to find parking, and a lot of the time when you find parking you have to pay for it. Umm. I'm too lazy to take out my credit card in to pay for parking, so nine times out of 10 I don't pay for parking, and nine times out of 10 I don't get a ticket. It's kind of turned into this game that I'm playing with parking enforcement where I'm not paying. And they're not catching me. But they might catch me at some point and I'm loving the game of it, but I just. Kind of enjoy the adrenaline of it like. The other day, I parked in a 20 minute parking spot. That you're supposed to pay for. And not only did I park there for an hour and a half, but I also didn't pay. That is a double risk for a ticket. I don't care. I didn't get a ticket. Yolo. You know what I'm saying. So anyway, I've not been paying for parking, and I've been living life on the edge. This is like a daily encounter for me. Umm. I just felt like I'd throw this in there because I have been saying Yolo in that way and so I thought it was relevant. Anyway. Those are pretty much all the ways that I've been saying Yolo recently, kind of in my Yolo era, OK? You know, getting tattoos, getting rid of like a lot of the stuff that I own. For once and for all. Saying yes to red carpet events. Not paying for parking, I mean. All of these things are things that. I've just never done before. I always said no to tattoos. I always felt like I needed to hold on to everything I owned because. I thought it would bring value to my life, you know? I always said no to red carpet events because I felt like it wasn't me and I couldn't. Be myself and be there. And I always paid for street parking because I was like, I don't want a ticket. But. I don't know. I think it's OK for your own personal. Rule book to change and evolve overtime. I think that as you grow up. And as you learn more about the world. It's OK to realize. Like, hey, you know what? Maybe this rule that I had in my rulebook doesn't fit anymore and I'm going to change it? And I've always been afraid of doing that, because I I think I've always felt like if I stray away from. The rules I've been living by my by my whole life that I won't be me anymore. But that's not true and. I think to a certain extent, you know, living by. A certain set. Of ideals. Is important for you know. Staying grounded, I think that if you stick to it too hard. Then life loses spontaneity and excitement, and there's not there's actually not room for growth at all. It's almost like. You need to find a perfect balance of. Sticking to who you are. In sticking to those rules. But also being open to shifting your own rules. If it makes sense to do so. I think that. I've always struggled with having limiting beliefs, feeling like. I'm not cool enough to get tattoos, even though I kind of want them, so I'm not going to get them or. I don't belong at red carpet events because I'm not fancy enough, I'm not cool enough. And even though, you know I like playing dress up every once in a while, I don't fit into these events. I've always lived by these limiting beliefs. But I think the truth is, is that. That just holds you back. From experiencing life to the fullest and. If you can, let go of those limiting beliefs. That are holding you back from trying new things. And doing what you. Really want to do? Then I think that life becomes a lot more fun. And that's all I got for you guys today. Thank you so much for listening. I loved hanging out. I'll be back next week to talk about more stuff. Who knows what it's going to be? I don't know yet, but thank you for listening. I hope you have a beautiful rest of your day. You can follow anything goes, subscribe to anything goes on any platform that you stream podcasts. You can leave a review on Apple Podcasts if you like. You can follow anything goes on Twitter, at a G podcast, and on Instagram at anything goes. You can check out my coffee company. Chamberlaincoffee.com or at Chamberlain? Coffee on Instagram? What else? What else? That's all the promo I got for myself. Thank you for listening. And we'll talk soon. By all.