Anything Goes with Emma Chamberlain

Emma prefers to share her thoughts with a microphone rather than a physical human being, so thank god she has a podcast. Recorded from the comfort of her bed, Emma talks at length about whatever is on her mind every week. Anything really does go on this podcast. Sometimes philosophy, sometimes a random story from 10 years ago, sometimes advice, and sometimes nothing at all. You never know what you are going to get, but that’s what keeps it interesting. New episodes every Thursday.

growing up as an only child

growing up as an only child

Thu, 17 Jun 2021 10:00

Growing up as an only child is a really unique experience that can really have both positive and negative impacts on your life and relationships. From feelings of independence, desires to be alone more often than most, relating more to adults more than people your own age, difficulties sharing with others, and much more. Emma discusses her experience growing up as an only child and the differences vs. having siblings, and how that’s impacted her personality and her approach to life. To learn more about listener data and our privacy practices visit: Learn more about your ad choices. Visit

Listen to Episode

Copyright © EFC LLC.

Read Episode Transcript

Ramble. No one is slowing down in this hiring race for the best talent, and offering the right benefits may help you reward and retain your team, helping them feel valued, motivated, and ready for the future. And that can make all the difference for your business principal offers retirement and group benefit plans, customized to help you meet your goals. Your company's future depends on its people. Show them they are valued and give them the tools they need to succeed. Talk to your financial professional today about the right benefits and retirement plans from principal. And visit us at business. This message was brought to you by Principal Financial Group. But it's important to our wonderful lawyers that we share our legal name, which is the principal life insurance company, Des Moines, IA. For important information about our products, visit Hello, everybody. Welcome back to anything goes. I'm Emma Chamberlain, your host. I hope that you're having a gorgeous wake. I had a good week, although nothing interesting happened. I cooked. I cleaned. I went to the gym, I. Did my chores. I read my book. I journaled. And that was it. Like, that's all that happened this week, but it was a good week. But because I have no life updates, let's just get right into the episode today. What are we talking about today? Today we're going to be talking about the stereotypes of only children. I grew up as an only child and I feel like throughout my life. Stereotypes have just been thrown at me, you know? People who aren't only children definitely tend to judge only children for whatever reason, and I kind of get it because. When I think about the concept of being an only child, it's very weird. Like, it is kind of weird and it's not super common. Like I don't meet a lot of only children on my day-to-day. Excursions like it's kind of rare to meet other only children. And as much as every human being and every only child is different, I thought it'd be interesting today to go through a list. Of stereotypical behaviors of only children and I want to give my opinion as an only child and say whether or not I think that they're true, at least for me. Obviously every only child is different, but. Let's see how much I fit. The only children stereotype. I found an article online the website And they wrote an article called 15 Dead Giveaways that you're dealing with an only child. I'm going to give my opinion on them and we will see how they did. Number one, only children are independent to a fault. One of the biggest perks of being an only child is also one of its pitfalls. Only children get so used to being alone that they have an independent streak that's difficult to break. That can often mean that as adults, it's their way or the highway. And if you have a strong independent streak of your own, make sure that you know the 15 ways to be a safer female solo traveller. Oh. That would actually be a really good article for me to read after this, because I do like traveling by myself, but anyway. I do think that I'm independent to a fault. I would say that this is true because. As much as I. Enjoy. Talking to people and as much as I enjoy. Hanging out with my close family and friends. I definitely tend to prefer my time alone because I'm very selfish about. My own schedule and routine like. I have certain things in my day that I need to get done or else I am not a good person. For example, like I need to exercise every day and I need to well not every day, but like do something kind of active every day. I like to have the time and freedom to get my work done at my leisure, stuff like that, and so. Because of that. And because of the fact that I enjoy being alone anyway, I do end up spending a lot of time alone and. I do tend to lean towards that. Like if I have a choice, I'll usually choose to be alone. Which? Is good for my productivity, but bad because. I think that I can. Get lonely without even realizing it. Like. I'll accidentally end up being alone for a week straight and then I'll be like, oh **** I have not seen anybody this week. And even though I'm an only child and I'm used to being alone, and I'm comfortable with being alone. As a human being, you still need to have social interaction. Like, you have to have balance. And I think that I tend to overdo it sometimes. And I'll spend too much time alone, and then it'll end up making me kind of sad, but I don't even realize that it's happening when it's happening. And then I'll be like, OK, I need to. You know. I need to plan like a dinner with my friends or plan a BBQ or something cause I've just been alone for too long and it's starting to make me subconsciously a little bummed out. So I would say that this first point is true. So. Off to a good start. 2nd trait of only children is that they're more sensitive. Having a sibling to take jabs at you throughout your childhood can give anyone a thicker skin. However, for many only children, that lack of playful teasing means that they're a bit more sensitive as adults. You know, I would disagree with this one because. I don't think that I'm any more sensitive when it comes to playful jabs and stuff like that. Then the next guy. I would say I'm sensitive in other ways. Like I would say I'm sensitive in a sense where I'm highly emotional. And. I cry a lot and I take things really deep to heart and stuff like that. When it comes to like. Playful banter and like people giving me a hard time, I would say I'm pretty good at handling that. For whatever reason, I don't think that being an only child is made me. A ***** in the sense where somebody? You know, makes fun of something that I'm wearing or something as a joke, and I get really upset. Like, I feel like I'm pretty good about that. I don't think that I'm super sensitive there, but in general I'm sensitive, if that makes sense, like. More on a personal basis less than on a social basis, I would say that I'm sensitive. So I guess that I'm 5050 on this one. But like, if somebody wants to pick on me playfully, like, I'm not going to be like, hey, that's not nice, like, no, I actually enjoy that stuff most of the time, so. I'm I'm on the phone fence with this one. 3rd characteristic of an only child is that they won't ask you for help. That coworker who would rather go back to school to learn print and repair than ever call for help. Yeah, they're probably an only child. In addition to learning independence at a young age, only children learn how important self-sufficiency is, meaning they're often unwilling to admit that they need a hand. Yes, this is actually very true. I will. Ruin my own life. If it means that I don't have to ask for help, I hate asking for help. All of my friends could tell you this like I rarely ever, if ever, ask for help. If I need a ride to the airport if, I need help moving if. I need help learning how to do something I will never ask. Anyone for help? I always force myself to figure it out on my own, like if I want to learn how to do something new. I will. Read a book about it. I will. Go on the Internet and look it up myself. I'll figure it all out myself because I hate asking for help. I don't actually know why I behave like that. I guess it's because I don't want to be a burden to anybody and I would rather just figure it out on my own. Instead of. Using somebody else's time. Because then I feel guilt. Like if I use somebody else's time when I could have just handled it on my own, I feel guilty about that. I'm very conscious of my use of other people's time. And I never want anybody to feel like. Them helping me is a waste of time, so instead I just don't ask for help. So I would say that's very true. 4th trait of an only child. They need their alone time. If that person you matched with on Tinder seemed like they were into you, but suddenly tells you that they want to spend a few days alone, don't necessarily sweat it. For many only children, learning to be alone is such an integral part of their childhood that they tend to crave solo time as adults too for sure. Like. After a weekend of hanging out with friends, I'm ready to be alone. For sure, and I definitely need time to recharge. Possibly more than. My close friends. Some of my friends are the same way, even though they're not only children, but. I I would say that like my social battery, I feel like it's drained pretty quickly. Possibly quicker than other people. And I need to be by myself and reflect and think and recharge and do things for me and get my energy back, I would say for sure, but in the same breath, like if I spend too much time alone. I get to a point where I need social interaction like I'm not. Somebody who could spend two months in solitary confinement and, like, be fine. Like, by no means is that true. It's like a balance, you know what I mean? But I definitely prioritize my alone time. I would say that that's very true. 5th trait of only children is that they're overachievers, with the extra parental attention that often accompanies being raised as an only child. Comes one significant benefit, some overachieving tendencies, many only children keep aiming high in adulthood to regain that high that they got from parental praise as a kid. I would agree with this. I would say I am definitely kind of an overachiever and perfectionist, which I don't hate about myself. It does make my life a living hell sometimes and most of the time, but I would say. It's worth it for me because you know what? I'm wired this way. I can't turn it off, so might as well accept it. But I don't think that it has to do with being an only child, because my parents never put any pressure on me to get good grades or, you know? Do any crazy extracurricular stuff or to be in any crazy crazy sports like I never had that pressure. My parents were always really chill. I think that that's just how I am wired naturally. Like I don't think that has anything to do with me being an only child, but yet it is true. So I guess you know. Maybe my only childness has something to do with the fact that I am a perfectionist and an overachiever. Who knows, but yeah. Clothes are one of the many ways that we express ourselves and we're constantly switching up our wardrobes. To reflect our interests and styles. But one thing that is a little bit more difficult to switch up is our glasses. Until now, because now with pair eyewear. You can have a different frame every day, OK? With pair eyewear, you start with a chic pair of glasses, right? That look great just by themselves, but they have a special secret. Which is that they have at little. Magnet inside so you can snap on. A cool frame on top of your existing glasses. I got the crystal clear Reese base frame which is just a really chic pair of all clear glasses. The frame is clear obviously the lenses are clear and I got a tortoise frame and a Plaid frame so I can now it. Basically I have 3 pairs of reading glasses now. There are so many options, iconic base shapes and then all sort of frames to go on top retro classic neon sparkle. You'll definitely find your vibe I also love. Buying from a brand that really, really cares and pair provides glasses to a child in need for every pair that you buy. Get glasses as ever, changing as you are with pear. Go to pair for 15% off your first purchase. That's 15% off at PAIR Next, only children are wives beyond their years. Growing up without a peer at home but with a lot of adult influence can have a major effect on an individual's personality. It makes them wise beyond their years, both kids and adults. Can have an old soul personality. That might be the result of spending more time with grownups than with kids in their youth. This is true. Like this is very true. And. I feel like. They forgot to mention a part of being quote UN quote wise beyond your years. Which is that I genuinely get along with adults better than I get along with kids and. That has been tough for me. Like, as you know, maybe. Nice as it may sound to be. Mature. I have always struggled with connecting with people that are my age because. I've just simply spent so much time with adults and like to this day I talk to adults. Equally, as much as I talk to people my own age, whether it's like my parents or, you know, even my team. That I work with on my like you know. Work. I talked to adults. Equally as much, if not even a little bit more than I talked to kids or people my age and I feel like I get along with adults better. But that makes me feel isolated sometimes because I'll go to a social event, I'll go to a party, and I'll try to connect deeply with people my age, and I find that it doesn't work. And I don't know why that is, but it's very rare that I'll find somebody my age that I fully connect with and. I don't really have an explanation for it, but I can say that I do think that that has to do with me being an only child and. It has its benefits because, you know, getting along with adults and being maybe a little bit more mature in a sense. Can help get you far in some areas, but it can also make you feel really isolated, and I have felt really isolated because of this trait, and I would say it's very true. So moving on. Next, only children know how to keep themselves amused. If you have that one friend who seems to know how to find endless ways to amuse themselves in any situation, odds are that they are an only child. In fact, researchers at Middle Tennessee State University found that only children are particularly good at finding ways to keep themselves occupied, whether that means playing solo or creating imaginary friends. I would say that this was pretty true, like as a kid. I don't think I was ever bored. Even though I was an only child, I was never bored. I was always doing weird ******* **** like whether that was, you know, experimenting with makeup or. Finding weird documentaries on YouTube at at like a 9 year old or. Making weird things like, he's like, make weird things like out of duct tape and stuff like that. I don't know. I don't think I was ever bored as a kid. And so I I would say that I was probably pretty good at entertaining myself as a kid, but as an adult, like, I definitely get bored sometimes, and sometimes I'm like. Yeah, it would be nice to like. Go to the beach with friends right now. I'd rather do that than go by myself like. I think in my older years I've gotten to a place where I do get bored more often. I would say that I'm less. Prone to use my imagination as an adult to entertain myself, which as a kid I was very good at. But I would say that in general, I'm pretty good at entertaining myself. So I would say that this is pretty much true #8. Only children hate to admit when they're wrong, while kids with siblings often have someone else to pass the blame on to. Only children have no such luck. And as such, they're often unwilling to admit their wrongdoing even in adulthood, knowing that any blame will fall squarely on their shoulders. Ohh. OK, this is interesting because. Initially, I would say that I disagree. Like, I'm fully OK with admitting when I'm wrong, like. If I hurt somebody's feelings or if I do something wrong and they come to me and they tell me, hey, you did something wrong, here's what it is. I enjoy the path of least resistance. I don't like arguing with people and. I just want everything to be fun and easygoing, so I'm always willing to admit my faults. Point blank. But. This did mention that. Only children. Even in their adulthood. Feel like all blame will fall squarely on their shoulders, and that's very true. Because I. Was an only child. I felt like I could get away with nothing. You know and. My parents were so hyper aware of everything that I was doing that. Any time I would even remotely. Mess up. **** ** in any way. My parents were on it and they were confronting me about it. Whereas they feel like. Kids who have siblings. Get to share that blame maybe a little bit more and it's less all on them, whereas for me, like. All the blame is on me. I think that as an adult that's caused paranoia for me. And almost this sense of wanting to be perfect. And never **** ** because I grew up. Knowing that I could get away with absolutely nothing. Without being confronted by my parents, which is a great thing. Don't get me wrong, that's not a bad thing, but I think that my brain is taking it to maybe an unhealthy level. Where now? I'm. Constantly anxious about. ******* up. In a sense or like. Doing something wrong because. I don't wanna get confronted, but I feel like. I'm always on the verge of getting confronted, even like, even if somebody misconstrues something that I said or did. Like I'm always paranoid about being confronted because. I didn't get away with **** growing up, which I don't know. I don't know if that's a good thing or a bad thing. Next point is that only children are very close with their parents. This is very true. And this can be a good or a bad thing because. I'm very close to my parents, and they are like, my best friends, you know what I mean? Like, they've been like, I've been extremely close with them since day one, and in a sense, they were the closest thing I had to siblings. Like, you know, they would play Barbies and Legos with me and they would watch movies with me. Like, they were like my siblings almost, which made me. Double close to them. And that's a good thing, because, you know, I'm grateful for my relationship with my parents. It's very close, but on the other hand, it's actually kind of. Emotionally taxing because my parents are so. Sacred to me. That I put a lot more weight on my relationship with my parents than some of my peers do and. I worry about them a lot more and that's miserable. Like, I constantly am worrying about my parents because they're like the only family I really have. And. That's scary because there's only two of them and they are one of one. You know what I mean? My closeness to them is amazing, but it also comes with a lot of fear and a lot of anxiety and a lot of. Protectiveness almost over them. Next point only children are not great at sharing. While many of the trades associated with only children are unfounded, their rumoured unwillingness to share may have some truth to it. Researchers in China have actually discovered differences in the brains of only children and those with siblings, the former being less agreeable than those who grew up with other kids in the family. One of the negatives is not learning how to share if parents don't ensure that. This developmental process happens. I would say that this is true to a certain extent, especially when I was younger, like. If I would come to school and I would have a new pack of erasers and one of my friends would ask me for one, the answer was no. The answer was absolutely not. I really hated sharing growing up. I think it was because I really liked taking care of my things and I really cherished my things, so sharing them like bothered me. And I always felt like people should just go get their own stuff, you know? So I would say that that's relatively true. But when it comes to like eating at a restaurant and somebody wanting a bite of my food or somebody wanting to borrow my clothes nowadays, I feel like I've relaxed a lot, you know? But even deep down, though, I still get a little bit irritated occasionally, like if somebody wants to borrow my clothes or. You know, part of my makeup or like, whatever, borrow my things like I do tend to get a little bit irritated, but I think that I've. Gotten better at being like Emma, you need to share. You know what I mean? Like, you do need to share, like you can't be an *******. You know? So luckily with my. Maturity I've like. Gotten better about it, but I do think that this is actually true. At first I thought it wasn't true, but I I actually agree. I'm not great at sharing. I'm gonna be honest. Next, only children. Are not good at compromising. Now let me do some self reflection here. Let me think about a scenario where there need to be compromise. Let's say that I want to see a movie, but my friend wants to go to the beach. A compromise would be that instead. We go to dinner. I would say I'm pretty chill about that. I mean. When it comes to like doing activities with other people, I just want everybody to be happy. So that whatever activity we do is fun. So I'm generally willing to compromise in order to make everybody happy. Although before I'm even likely to. Compromise. I'm more likely to just settle and just like, agree, because I just again want the path of least resistance, and I want everybody to be happy. So I I would not say that this point is true. I would say I'm pretty good at compromising and so that point is not valid. Next, they tend to think outside of the box. You know. It's funny that this is on the list, because recently I've been struggling with thinking outside of the box I found in the past. I've been. OK, at it. But in my recent years, like I feel like I'm on autopilot to a point where I don't really think outside of the box as much as I wish I did. So I would say that this isn't necessarily true because I have to force myself to think outside of the box sometimes, and it doesn't always come really naturally to me. Sometimes it does, but like. Definitely. Sometimes it doesn't, so I would say this is not true. Next, only children need a lot of affirmation. Only children need a lot of compliments. Yeah, that is very true. Like when I'm in a relationship, I need somebody to tell me that I'm the most perfect human being on the planet every day, or else I feel terrible. That's kind of a joke. But like kind of, not like. I need constant reassurance and affirmation and compliments. Not necessarily. Compliments more like reassurance in affirmations. Compliments are nice, but like, they're not as necessary. Like, I don't need that, but I constantly need to be reassured that people care about me, that they love me. That. I'm pleasant to be around, like I definitely need that a lot. According to this article. Because, you know, only children received so much. Praise directly from their parents. They need that. Also as adults, you know. In their everyday life, because they're used to it, they're used to getting. Praised and congratulated and reassured and affirmed often. Somebody said it takes them a bit longer to warm up and. Only children have a hard time making friends. I disagree. I've never had a hard time really making friends. Or warming up to people. My problem is forming meaningful connections like. I may have no problem making friends. Initially. My problem arises when it comes to. Keeping the relationship going, you know what I mean? And like maintaining a good relationship. That is when I struggle because. I tend to be very picky with who I'm friends with, and if I'm not vibing with it, like I'm gone, you know what I mean? Like, I will ******* disappear, which, I don't know if that's a good or bad thing, but I think it's because I'm. Again, independent to a fault because I'm an only child and. I don't feel like I need anybody so because of that. I just will. See myself out of a friendship that's not serving me. Possibly too quickly and possibly too easily. Umm. But I do disagree with the point that only children struggle to make friends. Because when it comes to making friends, like. The actual act of, like, creating a new friendship, starting a new friendship, that's like, easy for me. It's a matter of whether or not I want to pursue it. That's where I struggle. Last but not least, they're highly success oriented. OK, we already talked about this. I would say this is definitely true. I mean, I've always been very obsessed with succeeding, you know? Like, even though the pressure didn't come from my parents, it came from me. I was still always very obsessed with succeeding. I always wanted to go to a good college. I always wanted to get a job that paid really well. I always wanted to be successful and I don't know why that is. I think it might be because. The only person I was competing against was myself. And that kind of. Doesn't really give you a baseline. You know what I mean. Let's say you have a sibling. Who? You know. Ended up being a nurse and you're in college and you're like, I want to. Be better than my sister. I want to have a better job than my sister. Then you might go and get your PhD and be a doctor. You know what I'm saying? That gives you, like, a set goal. You're like, I want to have a better job than my sibling. I don't know if that's how that **** works, but like, that's just an example. Whereas for me, like, my goal was just, like, being as successful as possible with no limit, you know what I mean? Because I just didn't have anything to compare it to. Like, I didn't have anybody to go off of. I was competing with just me. I have some friends and family members who wear contacts, and honestly, I can't imagine how much of a pain it must be to always have to go to the eye doctor, go in for unnecessary tests. When you know that your prescription hasn't changed. It's so time-consuming and so stressful. I truly can't imagine one 800 contacts has been making people's lives so much easier and delivering contact lenses for 27 years. They make getting contacts super fast and easy. Even if you have a really strong prescription, all you have to do is order the same contacts you would get from your doctor. Just look on the side of your contacts box for that info. You can order online, over the phone, or with their app, and they ship them fast and free to your home. You can even renew your prescription. Online using their express exam and there are so many benefits to going through. One 800 contacts. They guarantee if you find your contacts at a lower price elsewhere, they'll beat it. And I mean, who doesn't like to save a little money? Speaking of which, new customers can get extra discounts when you check out their site, and their 24/7 customer support is so helpful that it's award-winning. So let one 800 contacts get you the contact lenses you need. Order online at one 800 contacts. Dot com. OK, so if I were to host a live radio show and I could play any music I wanted. I would honestly probably have the time of my Life OK, but I'll admit I would probably end up playing. Just sad music. I don't know what it is about me, but I love sad music, OK? And so I'd probably end up playing. A lot of sad music. Specifically for the people who are listening in the car by themselves. That want to shed a tear in a good way? Well now there is a place that I or you or anyone can host a live show. Amp is the platform that allows people to come together and create live, unfiltered radio shows with whatever music or content that they love. And this is like a real show where you can have people listening live and you can pick exactly which songs to play, and you can even have fans calling in to chat while you're on air. If I had a live show, I would definitely. Have people call in and ask me for dating advice honestly, so I think I'd have to do dating advice. You know what this actually sounds like? The perfect radio show. Sad music combined with dating advice. Because all of the shows on AMP are run by real people, you can tell that the playlists are authentic. A playlist generated automatically just sounds different than one that an individual is controlling based on their passions and tastes. And with 10s of millions of licensed songs to choose from, everyone will find the music that appeals to them. But it's not just music. You can have a talk show. Or react to news, or riff on pop culture. And that's one of the best parts about being a podcast host. You can just riff. On whatever. Excites your mind on any given day. So download AMP today in the App Store. That's amp. Or ask Alexa to play amp. So I guess the moral of the story is, is that? There are definitely some traits that. You inevitably get from being an only child. I don't think that they're necessarily always negative. I think that they can be negative, but I think that there's definitely negative things that come from, you know, having siblings and I think. At the end of the day, it's all very individual, you know? And honestly, looking at this article and kind of analyzing it myself put a lot of things into perspective for me because I am always thinking about my future and when I have kids and stuff like that and I always ask myself how many kids I want to have and I was always torn between having multiple kids so that. I could, in a sense, experience what? Siblings is like because I never had my own siblings, so I would give my kids siblings so that I could experience that in a family dynamic because I've never experienced it. But then I've also considered, you know. Just having one kid and. Stopping there. Because my personal experience being an only child I think was pretty good. Like I wouldn't want it any other way and so. Is there really a helicopter? Like, can you guys hear? I hope you can't hear that. Whatever, there's a helicopter above my home right now. I'm like trying to remember if I broke a law within the past 48 hours. It's like a police helicopter. I'm scared. OK anyway. They're here to get me. But no, I I think that you can't really go wrong. I think that at the end of the day, you know. Your circumstance is what you make of it, and there are so many factors that like. Being an only child or not being an only child is just a small part of what. Makes you you you know, whether or not you have siblings. It's a very minute detail of your personality and your development. But anyway, let's answer some questions. You guys tweeted me at the Twitter, on the Twitter at AG podcast, some questions about being an only child, and I'm going to answer them. And you can follow the Twitter at AG podcast if you would like to participate. In further episodes. Somebody said, were you jealous of other kids because they had siblings and you didn't? I definitely was jealous occasionally at people who had siblings especially. People who had older siblings because. I always felt like people who had older siblings. Had more connections, like for example when they'd get into high school, all the teachers. Already knew the kids that had older siblings and. Kids who have older siblings are always thought of as cooler, I feel like. So I definitely felt like I was missing out in that area, but when it came to my family life, I never. Wanted siblings. Actually, I was repulsed by the thought of having a sibling. Like I was so glad that I didn't have a sibling because I liked having my parents full attention and like, I wouldn't have wanted it any other way. I think more socially, like at school. That's when I wish I had an older sibling. But again, like, no regrets. In retrospect, I'm glad I don't have siblings. I wouldn't be the same person, you know. Somebody said as an only child, who would you go to for advice? Always my parents, and I think that that's what made my relationship to my parents so close, was that they were the only people I had to go to for advice and it. Made our relationship so much closer and it made our relationship. A lot more open and for that I'm very grateful because I think that. It's kind of rare for kids to go to their parents and tell them everything, and I've always been somebody who did that and I'm very grateful for that. Somebody said knowing what you know about being an only child. Do you think that? You will have an only child or have multiple kids, so I know I just talked about that literally 30 seconds ago, but. Here's my dilemma. Like, I'll be brutally honest. I want to have an only child because I had such a great experience with it. I had such a great bond with my parents. And. I just think, I I just think that it was great, you know what I mean? It was great. But at the same time I'm scared of only having one child. Because I'm scared. Of. Only having one child. And then something happening to that one child. Like? This is so morbid. But like them dying or something and then I'd be left with no kids. Like? That's the reason why I want to have potentially multiple kids is because. Not only you know would it be interesting and an eye opening experience to. Witness how the sibling dynamic works. But I also. Want to have a big family? And have a lot of people around me and like, have that be kind of guaranteed because family, when you're in your 30s and 40s is like the most important thing, actually. I would say. From the time that you're like 40 till the time that you die. I think that family is like. One of the most important things you have. Because you're not social as much anymore, you know, you're not partying and at school and all that stuff, your priorities shift to family. I feel like when you're older. Uh, whatever family may mean for you, it's very different for everybody. But I feel like I want to have a big family because. I want to ensure that. I have people around me for the rest of my life and and a lot of people, you know what I mean? I want to have a decent sized family and I don't have siblings, so I kind of have to make up for lost time by having extra kids. I feel like the happy medium would be to have like two or three kids. I think 3 might be too much. I think 2 kids is perfect. So maybe three, but maybe two, I don't know. But who knows, it might come down to it. I might just have one kid and be like I'm done. And that might be enough, you know. But I don't know. I'm so young, I don't need to know right now. Do you think that being an only child was harder because you had divorced parents? I would say. No. Well, yes, I would say yes and no. Yes, because I had nobody to relate to over the heartbreak of a divorce. I was kind of alone in that front. But I would say that after the divorce was like fully over and everything was kind of settled. I don't think it was harder. Because I got a lot of 1 on one time with both of my parents. And that was really special. And I think that was great. And I think that that actually made my childhood in a sense easier because I had. So much one-on-one time with my parents, not I mean I think that there are definitely some hard parts about it, but I would say that overall like. The only. Part about it that was ruthless was that when it was happening and in the midst of it. I didn't have anybody that was going through the exact same thing as me. Like my parents were, yes, going through a divorce with me, but. They were dealing with a totally different side of it than I was. I didn't have a sibling that was in the exact same position as me dealing with the exact same situation, and I think that was tough. Somebody said, do you think there's a lot more pressure to be successful when you're an only child rather than when you have siblings? I thought about this even more. Because I know we kind of touched on this earlier, but I thought about this even more and I actually think that I personally had less pressure on me because. There was no sibling to compare to. You know what I'm saying? So like. Any accomplishment was exciting to my parents, and they didn't really have any expectation because I was their only child. Umm, so I was lucky in that area, but I do think that some only kid children feel pressured to be Uber successful because they are their parents only chance at having a successful child. So I think it can go both ways, but I would say for me personally. I didn't experience that because instead, my parents were looking at it. You know, like, well. You know, this is this is our only kid. We have nothing to compare it to like she's doing good enough. Conversation over. You know what I mean? Anyway, I think it's safe to say that only children are definitely a unique breed. But they're not that much different. OK, so. Don't be afraid of only children. We don't bite. Trust me. We're not that bad. We're not that weird either, I don't think. But maybe just don't ask us to borrow our clothes. That's the take away from this episode. Anyway, I hope you enjoyed it. I hope you found it relatively interesting. If you enjoyed it, give anything goes A5 stars on Apple Podcasts. Subscribe to anything goes on any of the platforms that you listen to. Podcasts follow that. Anything goes. Twitter at AG podcast so that you can participate in the episodes. I hope you have an amazing rest of your week. I love you all and I will see you around. Bye. We're here with Phil talking about what's new with heart Nissan. Phil, what are some good reasons somebody should buy now? That's a great question. We all know that car shopping give me an overwhelming process. Plus people are uncertain about a lot these days. Part Nissan, recognize that? So we rolled up a heart rewards program. All new and pre-owned vehicle purchases get one year identity theft Protection 3 Virginia State inspections and multipoint inspections. One year tire Rd Hazard with roadside assistance, a three day vehicle exchange, and every purchase or service. Burns Heart rewards points. That's a ton of stuff. It's amazing. Offering all those benefits, it can really save people a lot of headaches and of course, money. Exactly. And we have even more savings right now. Get 0% financing on all new and certified pre-owned Nissan in our inventory. Phil, thanks so much for coming in. right, you got it. or check us out in the Apple App Store or Google Play Store. Use your head and trust your heart maximal finance $20,000 for 60 months with tier one credit approval with MC dealer for full details.