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You know, there's like a lot of holiday **** coming up where we need to dress up holiday parties, stuff like that. I'll be addressing some of that. Addressing some of the trends. Over the past year. Advice on just overall how to? Dress and feel your best. That kind of did that rhyme. Did does dress in best? No, that doesn't rhyme. OK, sorry. Moving on. Fashion advice session it's going to be fun. You guys asked me questions on the Twitter at AG podcast. And. I'm going to do my best to give you the best advice possible. This fashion advice session is actually presented by Macy's. And a lot of the trends that we're going to talk about in today's episode you can find at macys.com or on my custom giftguide@macys.com/emma. I handpicked everything on that list, and it's full of a lot of my favorite pieces and trends for the season. And it's a perfect gift guide for you guys if you're looking for some new items or you're stuck on what to gift somebody this holiday season, so go check it out. I know I mention Ugg boots in Kashmir in this episode. And those are on my Macy's list. And much more. So go check it out. So somebody said. Hey Emma, because of my religion I can only wear skirts and nothing that shows skin. So only T-shirts and sweaters. I struggle a lot to put outfits together because nowadays almost everybody wears jeans. Do you have any advice on how I can still look fashionable? Absolutely. I know that. Silhouettes of clothing play a huge role. In. Trends. And so you might feel stuck, right? I totally can see. How this would be frustrating. But at the same time. There's so much more to fashion than just the silhouette of clothing. You know, like the silhouette being. How pants fit or how a top fits. UM. There's so much more to fashion than those elements, and I think what you could have a lot of fun with is colors, because. Color and you know, pattern is just as important as silhouette when it comes to fashion and clothing and. Because you might be limited on the silhouette side of things, you know, like what types of pieces that you can buy. It sounds like there's no limit in what types of patterns and colors that you can wear, and so I think you just have to have fun with that. Start leaning into, you know, bolder colors. Maybe, you know, play around with some color blocking like wearing. You know, say like a bright yellow skirt. With like a burgundy sweater. And like some black, cool chunky leather shoes that is extremely fashionable. And it still fits in the criteria. Of your religion, you know. You might have to think outside of the box a little bit because you're. Working under some limitations here, right? But let it be inspiring to you, you know, like, how can I get myself outside of my box? You know, how can I? Change my perspective. On my limitations when it comes to fashion and turn it into a strength in a sense, you know like. The most creative ideas. Come out of some form of limitation. Do you know what I mean? Like. When you have to step outside of the box to be creative. You end up creating even cooler stuff, and my point of that is, is that because you have limitations? You're going to be forced to work a little bit harder to get creative, but that's not necessarily a bad thing, because you might come up with stuff that someone without those limitations would have never come up with. You know, like a really cool new way to. Layer. A sweater or a sweater vest or something like that under. A long sleeve shirt, you know, like. You might come up with some cool ****. So the first step to that is to. Stop. Looking at. Your clothing limitations as a bad thing, it's not a bad thing, you know, you just have to adapt and get a little bit more creative and that's OK and that's actually exciting. Play around with colors and patterns too. Like, truly like, have fun with it, you know? Get like a cool, you know, long Plaid skirt and pair it with a white button down shirt and then put a cool sweater vest over it. That's a sick outfit. Find a really cool long black skirt and pair it with. A kind of modern looking puffer jacket. And pair that with some like platform sneakers or something sick outfit. There are endless options for you. Somebody said how to make basic enough outfits that also don't look repetitive. My strategy for this is to have. A staple outfit and then to build around it. So for example, my staple outfit is a pair of Levis and a white tank top or a white T-shirt of some sort. And then I build around that, right? So. With that base outfit of the white shirt in the blue jeans, I can build hundreds of outfits around that. By just changing up. My jacket and my shoes and my accessories, and it always looks like a completely different outfit, yet I'm only changing. A few of the elements, but the foundation of the outfit stays the same. So find out what your staple outfit is. You know, it might be. A black skirt. Black. Loafers and a white button up. It might be the same thing as me. A white T-shirt and blue jeans. It might be a pair of black pants and a black shirt. It might be. A white turtleneck. In black pants or khaki pants, you know what I mean? Find your staple outfit. That's step one. And then. Have a little fun finding unique accessories and unique jackets and stuff like that. Unique belts, even. That you can pair with that very simple outfit to transform it into a a full new outfit, right, so that you have. This foundation staple outfit and you can just mix and match the shoes, jacket and accessories. Every day to kind of change it up. And then there you go. And the thing about having a foundation outfit in your closet is that. It's almost like you have a uniform. And it makes life a lot easier. But. It's something that you can rely on, you know what I mean? And it's also something that. Doesn't feel repetitive to the people that see your outfit every day because you're spicing it up every day. You know you're wearing a different jacket. You're wearing a different pair of shoes. I'll give you an example. You know, like my staple outfit is the white tank top and the blue jeans and. One day I might wear that outfit with. A pair of Doc Martens. And a race car jacket or something to do, kind of more of like a. A motorcycle vibe, right? And maybe I'll wear some black sunglasses and maybe I'll put on a hat. Like a trucker hat of sorts. Not a trucker hat, but like a hat. OK, and then I have one look, right? And then the next day I might be like, you know what? I want to go a different direction, so I might wear. A pair of clean white sneakers and a cardigan for a little bit more of a preppy look. And then the next day. I might wear a pair of loafers in a sweater vest with that outfit. All of those outfits look completely different. And have a completely different vibe, but they all. Are based around that foundation outfit. Somebody said. I have a friend that's really into fashion and I want to get her something for Christmas, but buying clothes for somebody else's really hard. Any advice? I I clothes are really hard to give somebody because. They're so incredibly personal. Do you know what I mean? Like, especially when it comes to sizing and things like that, I think that clothing gifts can be really difficult. So. For a fashion lover in your life, instead of, you know, getting someone a pair of pants or a shirt. Think more accessories. For example, a really cool scarf, or a really cool beanie, or a really cool pair of socks, or a really cute bag, or some cute jewelry. Like I would say go the accessory route because. That's a lot safer, but if you do want to go the clothing route. I think doing something that tends to fit a little bit more. Loosely, like maybe a sweater or. A coat of some sort like. That's a great gift too, because the sizing on things like that is a little bit more flexible. Although if you do find something that is just so perfect for somebody. But you're not really, you know, sure, on their size, you could always get them a gift receipt. You know what I mean? It's obviously like. It's like, yeah, I'm gonna get a ******* gift receipt. Genius like good work. Like thanks. But like, as long as you provide them with like the proper receipt and stuff, you can't really get wrong. But I would say going the accessory route is. The way to go. Oh my God, a good pair of sunglasses is a great gift. I know that sunglasses are like super personal to people's faces, but at the same time like. I've gotten sunglasses as a gift in. It's never been a problem. Somebody said how to feel OK with being different sizes in different stores. I know that this is so tough because. Like our you know society in a way puts. A lot of. Emotion and. Judgment around sizing. I don't know why that is, because if you really look at what sizing is, it's not about. Anything more than just finding the size that fits your body best. It it doesn't have anything to do with anything else. It shouldn't carry any emotional weight, you know, because it's literally just. A mechanism for you to find a piece that fits you perfectly, and the truth of the matter is. A lot of people say this, and it's kind of a cliche, but it's extremely true. Like. Clothes are meant to fit you. You're not meant to fit clothes, if that makes sense, like clothing is made to fit you. So. Whatever size or label that might be under, who ******* cares? Who cares? If it fits you right and you feel comfortable and you feel confident in it, that's all that matters. I'm a different size in every store that I shop at every single store. And it used to kind of bug me for sure, but I got to a point where I was like this doesn't ******* mean anything like. Putting on a pair of pants. That fit me perfectly. It's such a great feeling no matter what size the pants are. Who cares? Putting on a pair of pants that fit me properly, that make me feel comfortable, is so great. You know what I mean? It's such a great feeling and it makes me leave the house with so much more confidence. And that feeling. To me, outweighs the emotional baggage that comes with the stupid. Sizing. On clothing at the store, like. Another thing that you can do is, let's say you buy a pair of pants and. The size on them is kind of bothering you, you know, because maybe you're a different size than this one store, and that size might make you feel weird. It might make you uncomfortable because that's maybe not normally the size that you are. Cut it out of your ******* pants, get home, cut the tag out of your pants, and forget that the size was ever there. Because guess what? It doesn't matter. Clothing is meant to make you feel good and. It's supposed to be comfortable and. That's it. Look at the size as a mechanism in order to figure out. Which piece is going to fit you best? And nothing more than that. If you can, teach yourself to look at size as simply a mechanism and a tool. That is one of the best things that you can do for yourself. If you're struggling with that, it's hard, but you just have to remember that it's not important at all and it holds no significance. What holds significance is how you walk into a room wearing an outfit that you feel comfortable in. And that's that. Somebody said I have a work Christmas party coming up and I'm thinking of making the dress myself. I'm not very experienced in the sewing department. Is this a fantastic or a terrible idea? I think it's a great idea, but I will say that sewing is really hard and. It can be a little bit frustrating, So what I think you do. Is. Plan a backup outfit just in case, you know, just in case. And then try sewing this dress anyway. But it's just good to have a backup outfit because the thing about. Doing something creative like. Sewing a dress, for example. The thing about doing something like that. Is that? You'll have the most fun doing it if you know that. If it doesn't workout, it'll be OK. If you have a backup outfit, then you can sew this dress being like, hey, I'm just going to do my best and if it doesn't work out and you know it ends up turning out a little weird and I don't really feel comfortable wearing it, I have a backup option when you remove the pressure. From the project. It will make the project so much more enjoyable, so I think plan a little backup outfit and if you're like Emma, what do I? Where to a Christmas party? I don't know. I need Christmas party holiday party outfit Inspo. This is my formula. OK, this is my formula when it comes to semiformal. Parties or events? The first direction that you can go, and personally my favorite, is a monochromatic outfit. So picking a color, let's say you choose Navy blue. And. Buying a Navy blue turtleneck, a Navy blue pair of slacks? Pants, something like that. In pairing it with like a fun pop of a shoe so maybe like a brown boot or something and then matching the boot to the accessories so. If we're doing a brown boot, throwing a brown bag and maybe a brown jacket, right? That's an easy way to just have a sophisticated, classy, clean outfit and you can do that with other colors. You could do that with black. You could wear a black turtleneck. Or a black button up of some sort. Some cute black pants. You know, and maybe you want to do a black and white look, so you could do. White boots, white bag, white jacket. Done. Throw on some jewelry to spice it up. Call it a day. That's kind of what I tend to do. But another direction that you could go is the dress route if you're somebody who likes to wear dresses. Address is a great route to go because. It's kind of like an all in one outfit, you know what I'm saying? Address. Takes care of. Pants and top for you. You know what I mean? Cause it's all in one and you can have fun with. A longer dress, you know, like one that goes down. To your ankles. And you can make it a little bit more casual, right, because. I know that one of my biggest fears is showing up to. An event, a dinner party, something like that, and being overdressed. So I like to take something a little bit more formal, like. A long dress and to kind of casual it up a little bit. So the way that I do that is I would pair. A long dress with. Loafers instead of high heels. Umm. Acue like little preppy loafer. And then instead of wearing, you know. A really formal jacket of sorts. I'd maybe pair the dress. With a little cardigan. And where some dainty jewelry and call it a day. You look put together, but you also don't look too put together. Like if somebody saw you in the grocery store, they wouldn't be like, what the ****? Like, why are they this dressed up to be in the grocery store? You'd be like, oh, they look cute in the grocery store, but then you can also see somebody wearing that outfit. At a dinner party and be like, this also makes sense. You know what I mean? That's kind of how I judge whether or not I'm overdressing for something is like, what would somebody think of me if they saw me in the grocery store right now? Is this too much for the grocery store? If the answer is yes, then. You know, I I tend to kind of dial it down a little bit, but if you're also like, I want to go all out and I want to dress the **** ** and I want to look like I'm going to. I. 1920s flapper dinner. That's a bad example. If you want to look like you're going to your senior prom, to your holiday party, and that's what feels right to you, baby, do not let me get in your way. I just get anxiety about overdressing. 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I start with a staple piece and I decide like OK this is going to be. My foundation for my outfit. So let's say you know the foundation of my outfit is a red leather jacket, right? I'm going to build now around. This red leather jacket. So. Red is a very bold color, right? So I'm going to go into my closet and I'm going to try to find some more muted pieces to wear with it. So I might wear a khaki pair of Dickies. And. A white tank top. Underneath the red leather jacket because. Those two pieces kind of let the red leather jacket shine. And then. For shoes, you know, I might wear a white pair of sneakers to tie in the white of my tank top. And then. For my accessories. I'm going to lean towards brown accessories to complement the pants. That I'm wearing that are kind of khaki. And so I might wear like a light brown bag and a light brown pair of sunglasses. And. The kind of underlying. Theme. Of picking out a cohesive outfit. Is making sure that everything is balanced so like matching your shirt to your shoes and then matching your pants to your bag. And then letting. Your jacket be the pop of color or another example would be maybe. Wearing a monochromatic outfit where your pants jacket in top all are the same color and then all of your. Extra pieces of your outfit are the same color. So like your shoes, jacket, bag, glasses are all the same color so that you have. Balance, right? It's all about balance in outfits, and it's all about. Making sure everything ties in together. So let's say you're wearing like a really crazy bold sweater. A sweater that has a bunch of different colors in it, and you're like, how the ****? Do I build an outfit around this like it's just so overwhelming. Don't let it be overwhelming. Let's say your sweater is red, green, blue and white and brown. First step, go into your closet and try to find a pair of pants that's one of those colors. It could be any of those colors, it doesn't matter. All right, now you have your pants. Now go into your shoe area and try to find a pair of shoes that's one of those colors. Preferably not the color of your pants. OK, now look around. All right, now you got that pair of shoes. So let's say you know you decided to do blue pants to tie in the blue from the sweater and brown shoes to tie in the brown of your sweater. OK, now you're like, now I just need to accessorize. Find an accessory that is one of the colors on the sweater that you haven't used yet for pants or shoes. So let's say for example, that's a red bag, so throw in a red bag. Now you have a cohesive outfit. That feels right when you look at it. It feels right because there's a balance of colors and everything ties in together. It's a, it's it's definitely something that takes like practice, you know what I mean? And and just playing around with stuff and kind of. Forcing yourself to get outside of your comfort zone a little bit sometimes, but. At the end of the day, it's all a balance of colors and textures and. Making sure that you know. You're being thoughtful of making everything you know cohesive. But you got this. Somebody said. I'm going out. This year on New Year's Eve and I want to look cute, but I just can't wear heels all night. What do I do? This is when you whip out the platform shoe, baby. Platform shoes have like the same effect as heels in in the sense that they give you a little bit of height. Obviously make you a little bit taller, but they also kind of dress up in, spice up in, outfit in, add a level of dimension and. Sophistication to an outfit, but the thing about platform shoes is that they're. Simply not uncomfortable. Like, they're so comfortable. I wear platform shoes all the time on a daily basis. I have literally worn platform shoes around New York, you know, and walked around 5 miles and not even blinked an eye or thought twice about the fact that I was wearing platform shoes. They're so comfortable and they're still kind of *** *** you know what I mean? They still have like the *** *** quality of a high heel, but it's just 10 times more comfortable. I actually prefer the way the platform boots or shoes look. To heels. I don't really like how heels look on me and I feel weird when I wear them. So, like, platform shoes are the perfect remedy for that problem. Somebody said how do you find your personal style without feeling the pressure to only wear what's trending? I think the key to this is to change where you find your inspiration for clothing. You know, like. There's a lot of places that you can find inspiration for clothing. One of them might be. On the mannequins. At a store you know one might be. On Instagram or on YouTube or wherever, like there's so many places to find inspiration for outfits. Just start to curate where you get that inspiration from. You know, if you're like, I don't want to be trendy, I don't want to do the trendy stuff. Start looking at. Old magazines. Old TV shows. Start looking into the past. Like what were people wearing 50 years ago? And and like look at things that are timeless. You know what I mean? Like. Go look at an 80S magazine and see if there's anything in there that sparks any interest to you. And even if it's not necessarily a full outfit, just start looking at individual pieces and stuff like that. Another thing that you can do is. Start playing around in your own closet. Start mixing and matching stuff for fun. Like, dude, this is like a little activity for like an hour on a Sunday. You know what I mean? And just go into your closet and start mixing stuff together and just experiment. Like, genuinely just experiment with no rules. Force yourself to try to come up with something new. I used to do that. You know, I would like kind of experiment. And sometimes you know. I would miss the mark a bit and like, my outfit would look kind of weird, but that was all a part of, you know, figuring out my own personal style. It was all a part of that journey and so. The first step. To finding your own personal style is looking away. From all things that are trending, stop looking at. The trending pages on. Clothing websites. Stop. Taking inspiration from people that you see on Instagram and take the matters into your own hands. Start experimenting by yourself. Somebody said. What were some of your favorite clothing pieces? From this past year. A lot of these items are actually on my Macy's list at macys.com/emma, so if you want to go shop any of them, you totally can. But some of my highlights this year were number one, Ugg boots. And you know what? I don't care what anybody says. They are so ******* comfortable. And. I love them and I honestly think that when styled correctly, they can actually be cute and fashionable. So. Shockingly enough, Ugg boots have been. One of my highlights of this year. Another highlight has been cashmere. And now listen, I know Kashmir. It's like, Emma, shut the **** **. I know, but I've always been somebody that loves knitwear. Like, I love knitwear. But. I hadn't really explored Kashmir until this year and Oh my God, it's it's my favorite. Material ever and. There's actually a thrift store that I go to that sells used cashmere sweaters for pretty affordable. I mean, cashmere is inexpensive material, but you can find it at thrift stores for far, far cheaper. And that's what I've been doing. And so I have a bunch of cashmere sweaters that I've been wearing that are just like they feel so good on my body, like it just they feel so good and. It's such a luxurious material, but you can totally buy it from thrift stores and get it for. 10 bucks, you know what I mean? Where it would normally be more expensive, but if you're like, no, I want to buy new cashmere. You know, there are endless places to do that as well. The thing about Kashmir is that it's just. It's so light, but it's so warm. And. It's not scratchy or itchy. And, you know, there like, cashmere pants are incredible. Cashmere sweaters are incredible, like. Kashmir is just. I I totally was. I thought it was stupid. I was like, why it's so expensive and for what? But then, you know, I I bought a pair of cashmere pants, and that's what kind of started me on my cashmere journey. And now I'm obsessed with it, and I think it's the best material on the planet. I mean, I've also been wearing a lot of Levis. And I mean, I always wear Levis. I've been wearing Levis for years, but like those just never fail me. And. They last forever and they're just like. The most perfect, you know, denim closet staple and like, I just, I've never like, I just, I don't know what else to say like it's just their Levis. You know what I mean? What do you what else is there to say? Somebody said, can we normalize never dressing up? I really think that. When it comes to clothes. At the end of the day. Clothes. Are simply. Meant to make you feel comfortable, like that's it. And that should always be your goal, you know? What do I feel comfortable in? In this given moment. At the end of the day. That's all that matters. And so. If you feel the most comfortable in. More pajama, more casual style clothing. Then that's what you should wear because life is too ******* short and wearing clothes that make you feel uncomfortable. Will completely. Diminish your confidence like. I tend to feel more confident and more comfortable in more comfortable clothing personally, so like. On a day-to-day basis, you're not gonna see me in like a super fashion forward outfit. 90% of the time. If you see me in public, I'm probably wearing sweatpants, yoga pants, leggings, Ugg boots like sweatshirts. Things like that, like, that's what I feel the most comfortable in and. That's what I tend to feel the most myself in is in really comfortable clothing. And that shows, you know, to people around me because when I'm wearing clothes that feel comfortable to me, I'm more confident. I'm more carefree in a sense, and I'm not thinking about what I'm wearing. I'm just thinking about. Existing in the moment, I'm not thinking about my ******* clothes, you know what I mean? That's the last thing I'm thinking about. But then sometimes, like, I feel more comfortable, a little bit more dressed up. Like, let's say I'm going out to dinner, I might actually feel more comfortable going out to dinner in a more dressed up outfit. And so that's what I'll put on. Because if I showed up to dinner in leggings and Ugg boots, I would actually feel worse. I would feel uncomfortable. That wouldn't feel right to me. Even though that felt right to me, you know, six hours prior when I was at the grocery store, when I go out to dinner I feel most comfortable in. A little bit more of a. Put together outfit. You know where I'm wearing real pants? Like jeans or something like that or a skirt and. I put a little bit more thought in my outfit. That's how I feel more comfortable when I'm going out to dinner. So like. You just have to listen to you know your body and just like, trust yourself. Like, what do I feel most comfortable in right now? And wear that, because The thing is, is that when you're wearing an outfit, that's. Uncomfortable to you? Emotionally or physically? That's all you're going to think about and you're not going to be as light hearted and free spirited and you're not going to be able to just enjoy yourself in whatever given scenario that you're in. To kind of break off into a tangent here, like I'll give an example about when I go out to parties, which doesn't happen very often, but it does sometimes. When I'm going to parties, you know, I don't really like to dress. Super revealing, right? Like it. And and listen, there's nothing against dressing in a more revealing way to go out to a party at all. I I don't judge at all it. That's not my point here. It's just that for me, I don't feel as comfortable doing that. But I know that there are a lot of people that like to be a little bit hotter when it's time to go out on a Saturday night, you know what I mean? They want to have a little skin showing. That doesn't really make me feel good, and I know that that's kind of like the norm. When it comes to going out and partying, especially in LA, you know everybody's wearing their hottest outfit, their tightest clothes. You know their most revealing clothes. Like, that's kind of the norm. And like, listen, I've tried to participate in that. I've tried to go out and wear tight, revealing clothing out. But. Although you would think that, you know, wearing a quote UN quote hot outfit would make me feel more confident, it did the complete opposite, you know? I went out and I was like, I feel weird, like I don't feel like I'm being myself, like this feels so. Counterintuitive to me like this doesn't feel right. And. The whole the whole evening I was thinking about you know ohh like do people think I I I look weird like is this like too much like? Do people think I'm trying too hard to fit in like? You know, also, why is my why are my pants so tight? And, like, why are they riding up my *******? And, like, why am I really uncomfortable? You know? And like, that's all I could think about. Whereas if I go out in an outfit that feels comfortable to me, an example of that would be. A cute pair of jeans. Acute boot of some sort. Maybe a doc Martin, you know, maybe something else. A cute boot of some sort and. A fun, like tight, long sleeve mesh top that's like not that see through, but maybe like a little bit just to be a little bit spicy for a Saturday night, you know? That's something I feel more comfortable in. And yeah, that might be like a little bit less quote UN quote hot spicy Saturday. Grand night out. That might be a little bit less of that, right? But that's what I feel comfortable in and when I go out in an outfit like that. I just feel comfortable. I feel like I'm me and I can just be myself and focus on. Trying to have fun. It's the best of my ability. 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But for whatever reason, the collective of humanity has weirdly decided. That repeating an outfit is like a bad thing. I don't know why, because it's so not true. You know? It's so wasteful, truly, to have a surplus of clothing. And let me tell you, I am completely guilty of this. I have so. Much more clothing than I need. Absolutely. I'm not saying that I am like exempt from this. I am completely guilty of this. But I'm actually learning to kind of change my ways a little bit, and over the past few months I've been slowly but surely donating clothing. To people that need it, you know? Because I don't ******* need it. I don't need. I I could live off of three pairs of jeans, three tank tops and like 3 jackets and like, that be it, you know, I could totally live off of that. There's no need for me to have as much clothing as I have. And, you know, I now realize that. And so I'm getting rid of a bunch of **** because I'm like, you know what? I'm OK with wearing the same thing almost every single day. And, you know, if there's a special event coming up and I want to dress up or if I see something really cool at a thrift store that I want to wear, you know, for a few months. And then donate back to the thrift store, then I'll do that. But I don't I I'm trying to, you know, reduce. My consumption in a way. For my own well-being. Because having a bunch of clutter in your home. In any way is stressful and clothing is no exception. But also because it's unnecessary. And you know what? I don't give a ****. I'll repeat an outfit 700 times. In fact, I do it. I wear. Blue jeans and a white ******* tank top. Almost every day, like seriously like that is my uniform. I wear that almost every single day. And I love it and I wouldn't have it any other way. And I don't care if people are getting bored of it. I don't care if. The people that see me on a daily basis are like MRE. Seriously wearing that again, I don't give a ****. I'm done with the sentiment that you can't repeat outfits. It's so stupid, and I understand why. You know, there's a pressure to always come wearing something fresh and new, but it's just unnecessary, you know? Like. If you have a piece of clothing in your closet, wear that thing to death. Wear that thing over and over and over and over again until you're ready to donate it to somebody else who could. Wear it and love it just as much as you. You know what I mean? When I was growing up, you know, like I used to buy one pair of shoes per year and one pair of jeans and like 1 sweatshirt, and I'd wear it. I'd wear those things, like every single day. For the whole entire year until they were ripping. And falling apart and it was time to get new ones. And I kind of want to bring that back into my life, you know, in a way like. Wearing stuff until I need to replace it instead of having this abundance of stuff and nothing ever really getting used to its full capacity. And I mean to a certain extent, like, you know. There is an element to my job in a way that kind of. Forces me to explore fashion and in ways that. Require me to kind of buy things, you know what I mean, and like, wear them and experiment with things you know, like that's a part of. In a way, my job, which I mean, I don't really think it is like, I think I make it a part of my job. It doesn't need to be like I could literally wear a white tank top and blue jeans on Instagram every time I post an Instagram photo and nobody would. I don't think it matters. But like, you know, for me, I have fun exploring new fashion trends and new outfits and stuff like that for Instagram and and for. And and that sounds so stupid and weird, but it's true. You know what I mean? I like exploring. New fashion stuff for the purpose of the Internet more than for the purpose of me, although I will wear, you know, fun outfits out here and there. On a day-to-day basis, I'm not, you know what I mean. I'm not wearing. Anything beyond mediocre, right? And I'm OK with that, but yeah, there is this sort of complexity for me where I'm like. On one hand, you know, experimenting with fashion and stuff like that is a big part of my life and I want to continue doing that, but how can I do it in a way that's. A little bit more responsible. I'm still trying to work out the kinks of it all, you know, but I think that. The biggest key for me is to. Be constantly donating my clothes. To thrift stores or to people who need it. You know what I mean. And. Letting my clothing live on and not just collect dust in my closet. Somebody said most of the girls around me dress, skin, showy, and I've been recently heavily influenced and started dressing like that as well. It doesn't make me feel the best, but I feel like it's the only way that guys will like me and I will be socially accepted. I totally understand this pressure and I've felt this before too. And again, you know, there's nothing. Wrong, with the girls that want to dress showing a little bit more skin. But for somebody like you and I, we just don't feel right like that. And that's totally OK. The truth is, if you want to make friends and to be, you know, accepted socially. The thing that is the most important. When trying to accomplish that is confidence. And if you're wearing an outfit that doesn't feel right to you and doesn't make you feel confident and it doesn't feel true to you, you're not going to be confident and you're not going to emanate this confidence, right? And people are attracted to confidence. They're not attracted to the fact that you know. You got a little ***** out. That's not what people are attracted to. Maybe initially. You know, like maybe when we're, you know, I think it would be ignorant to say that at when we're young. You know that like. Initial attraction. Isn't a little bit more surface level OK, because sorry, but like. Hormones are raging. OK, when you're young and like it's it's a really, it's a really terrible time but. Initially somebody might be like, oh wow, like. You know, so and so looks really like really good in this outfit because they're kind of showing some skin and like that might maybe make somebody initially attracted to you, but. It really comes down to what type of conversation you have and when you're having a conversation, the clothing that you're wearing doesn't matter. And so. You need to wear what makes you feel comfortable. The conversations that you have with people. Are going to outweigh. Whatever the **** that you're wearing and. What you're wearing should just enhance your confidence. In whatever way that that that makes sense. Like, you know what I mean? Like your clothing should just make you feel even more confident in yourself. And if it's not doing that, then it's not serving the right purpose. Somebody said before going shopping, I tell myself that I should prepare outfits in my mind when I buy the clothes, but then when I go to the store I end up buying things that doesn't match anything I have in my wardrobe. What should I do? It sounds like to me that you're kind of. In the process of evolving your style, you know, and that the stuff in your closet now doesn't match the stuff that you want to wear now. And so that's a great sign that you might want to do a little closet clean out, clean out your closet, start fresh, and then. Start mapping out. On Pinterest or something like that. What your new style is, you know what I mean? And then start to look at reoccurring pieces. So let's say in all of the outfits that you saved to your new Pinterest board, you're wearing some form of denim. OK. Now it's time to go out and find a really good pair of denim, OK? That will match all of you know the things that fit into your new taste in your evolved taste. And maybe in a lot of the outfits you're wearing. You know a button up white shirt and you're layering with a button up white shirt. Go and find a solid button up white shirt. I think to me, you know, it just sounds like your current closet is fighting with. Where your style is evolving to right like they don't match. And that's why there's a problem there. So I think what you need to do is kind of start fresh. Start rebuilding your base wardrobe. To match these new pieces that you're excited about. Somebody said I feel like I wear the same four colors every day, but I don't know how to slowly branch out without spending a ton of money at once. This is when you need to start having fun with cheap accessories you know, like. Go and get yourself like a cute. Pair of you know. Random earrings that are colorful or go and buy yourself like. A cute and colorful tote bag or a cute and colorful pair of sunglasses. Lean into the accessories of it all. You can go thrifting. You can go to, you know, a store that's a little bit more affordable. Accessories can be very cheap, you know what I mean? Because they're they're small, you know? And so that's a really great place to start is with accessories. And that really can help you start to feel more comfortable with branching out when it comes to colors and stuff like that because. It's, uh, it's a very small commitment to commit to. A new color of like a pair of sunglasses. You know what I mean. To branch out in these small ways, it's a lot smaller of a commitment than like. Starting to buy like bright colored pants and bright colored sweaters and stuff like that? That might be a little bit more intimidating when you see them in your closet. You might not reach for them, whereas reaching for a statement pair of sunglasses that's maybe a little bit out of your comfort zone is a little bit more approachable and a little bit less scary. So I think step one is to start. Exploring accessories. And they don't need to be expensive. Accessories are one of the few things that I think really, truly don't need to be expensive. You don't need to spend. More than 30 bucks on a pair of sunglasses if you don't want. Same thing with a bag. You can buy a cute bag for. Pretty affordable. Somebody said I'm having difficulty on what to pair with my tops and bottoms. Like which color combos are great to mix and match. I think that there are so many ways to do it, like there's infinite ways to do it. But some of my favorite ways to. Balance the colors in my tops and bottoms. Is. Number one, as I mentioned earlier, to do something kind of monochromatic, you know, match my top to my bottom, so make it pretty much the exact same color. So that might be wearing a white pair of pants with a white top or a blue pair of pants with a blue top. Something like that. That's kind of foolproof, but sometimes that can be a little bit intense and I don't necessarily always like to do that. I think that. When it comes to, you know, pairing things with denim, you can pretty much do no wrong with denim. Like with denim I I really, truly believe you can pair any color with blue denim and like, you can't go wrong. Same thing with even like a white or black pair of pants. I really don't think that you can go wrong. Like when I'm wearing a white pair of pants, I like to lean a little bit more. Preppy and nautical with my color scheme. So, you know, I might pair white pants with, like, pastel colors or a pop of red or a pop of blue for a sort of nautical look. And if I'm wearing black pants, you know, I might want to wear a more muted outfit with, like, a Gray top or. A kind of neutral color top like cream or beige or brown. Or if I'm going the black pant route, I might wear a top that's kind of more of a statement top something with a lot of pattern on it because the black pants kind of work as a great background piece to my said statement top. I really don't think you can go wrong. I mean, honestly, I think that like. If you're wearing a simple pair of pants, pretty much any top can go with it. Don't hold yourself back. Trust your instinct. If you look in the mirror and you're like this feels right, it's probably right. Don't put so much pressure on yourself to like. Make things match. Perfectly. And do you know, be this perfect balance because. The truth of the matter is, you're going to be the harshest judge. And so. Just be intuitive with it and do what feels right. Somebody said. Advice on not having a permanent style. I think by this you mean like how to? Have a constantly evolving sense of style. I think that a great way to do this is to. Constantly be cycling things through your closet. In a way, I think that it's good always to have like a few stable pieces in your closet. You know what I mean? Go to a store and buy, you know, a really solid pair of jeans and a really solid few basic tops and stuff like that for layering. And maybe have one pair of staple shoes, but with the rest of the stuff in your closet, let that circulate in and out. You know, every six months, go into your closet and do a clean out and donate it and replace those pieces that you got rid of with new, fresh pieces. And you don't need to spend a lot of money. You know, you can go and buy things secondhand. Umm. A strategy that I use a lot is that when it comes to. My staples in my closet. My staples tend to be pieces that I bought from a store that makes clothing really durable and really long lasting and really reliable. Like for jeans, you know, I always love to have Levis for tops. I might spend a little bit of extra money to like, get a nice white top that fits right and like. Is a thick material that will last me a long time, you know. And then when it comes to things like sweaters and jackets and accessories, those are things that I'll go out and I'll thrift, you know, instead because they're. Cheaper, but they're also more disposable. And there's something that like, you know, I can re donate back to the thrift store when I'm done with them or donate elsewhere to a better cause. Like, you know, just like. Having really good quality, stable pieces in your closet and then buying you know things from the thrift store. That are maybe a little bit more stylized, you know, and then getting rid of those when they've served their purpose and returning them back. To where I got them. And then moving on and getting more stuff. It's almost like kind of like a library, you know what I mean? But not really, but sort of it's like think about going out and buying stylized pieces from the thrift store. Or from. Wherever store as like. OK, I'm going to buy these pieces and then I'm going to at some point donate them and replace them. With more stylized pieces. That match my style as it evolves. Anyway, you guys, that is all the fashion advice I have for today. I hope that you enjoyed it. I hope it was in some way useful. If not. Feel free to. Reprimand me in whatever way you feel fit. You can tweet me at AG podcast and say Emma, I learned ******* nothing from your podcast. And I will respond and say. I am so sorry. How can I make it up to you and we will figure something out. I'm kidding. But no. Thank you for listening. Thank you for coming back every week and hanging out with me. I hope that you enjoyed this extra episode. Thank you again to Macy's for sponsoring this episode you can check out. Some of my favorite things on macyswebsite@macys.com/emma I made a list and there's a bunch of fun stuff on there. Macy's is incredible. It's just like the perfect one. Stop shop for ******* anything. So. Go check that out. You can subscribe to anything goes or follow anything goes on any platform that you listen to podcasts you can follow anything goes on Twitter at AG, podcast and. 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